Can I Offer The Single Guys A Bit Of Advice?

Hi there everyone.
Most of you will know me as Marcuso from the chat room.
I'm getting used to seeing lots of posts on here from single guys who are moaning that they don't get a meet.
Without sounding big-headed or conceited, I'd like to offer them a bit of advice on how to improve their chances of becoming accepted onto the swinging scene.
I'm not saying this is the perfect or even the only way to become accepted, but I have found that it works for me.

I am a single male who is now established & been accepted by couples and singles. Here’s the best advice I can give to single males trying to get established in the swinging scene…….

1. Always be open & honest about what you are looking for. No-one likes making the effort to meet someone only to find out that they are looking for different things.

2. Never say you are gonna meet someone & then not turn up. People hate timewasters.

3. Meet people just for socials if that is all they are offering. If they are impressed with you then the sex will come naturally. As I said….this community isn’t just about sex, it’s about people just meeting up as friends too & having a relaxed meet with no pressure.

4. Be willing to go out of your way to meet people. Don’t forget……you are the one who is wanting to meet people who are already established on the swinging scene & therefore, they will not go out of their way to meet you as they already have a circle of friends who they know are genuine & easy going.

5. And probably most important DON’T EVER SEEM DESPERATE TO MEET PEOPLE. Don’t push someone to meet & if someone says no then that’s what they mean. A lot of people get put off by someone being overkeen & see it as a kind of stalking.

6. Have a look in the message boards & see what people have put into those. This will give you some sort of idea as to the kind of ad to post. And always post in every board that applies to you as this will give you more chance. (Don’t forget to keep checking them regularly too as a lot of people forget to check & miss out)

7. Try going to one of the various clubs that are available all over the country or go to an open party invitation or munch thats been posted. This will show people that you are genuine.

8. When filling in a section on your ad to what your looking for the more information you give about your self the more your profile will stand out more people will read it and take you more seriously as you have taken more time & effort over what your looking for .

Not a lot else that I can add really apart from BE PATIENT If you keep trying and are patient then it will happen eventually. Don’t be put off by a few negative replies. I must have had hundreds of negative replies before I got my first meet. But once I got my first meet I have found it a lot easier to meet people.

As I said, I'm not trying to come over as conceited or big-headed, but I have found that using my own advice I have made many new friends and have been to some really good parties and social meets.

I really hope this has helped.

Marcuso

PS.....Below are two links to different areas of the site. They give perspectives from a womans point of view and also from one of the mens. These are also worth reading!!!


http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/advice/single-men.html

http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/13919.html

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Jolly good stuff.... hope they listen!

A round of applause

Well said

well stated. thumbs up.

i absolutly agree with everyone else.... a very well written piece...

i would have suggested putting it up as a sticky somewhere on the site.....

but do you think they would actually bother to read it and stop the rants???

sean xxxx

Nothing to argue with there Marcuso - spot on !

Mal

in a word sean, probably not! well that was 2 words i know but hey! i thought no was a touch blunt!

nice one marcuso mate. bang on!

neil x x x

Well said. I agree. with that

listen ot this Guy, he is talking sence

i anit gonna say i'm as experieend as the almight Marcuso. but i nkow the whats and what nots to do on chatting in the room..

please from a personaly view, going to the munches and parties are a BIG yes.
ive only been to a few, but since , ppl now realise i'm nore than just a nickname behind a screen and i have got a lot of respect. and that respect goes both ways.

the things that i think are a go go

truth --- Being who u say ya are

joining in with the banter in the main room, (and i dont mean saying the same one line every five mins)

talking to the Males as well as the Fems

NO NO's

asking every "could be" fem to PVT

PVTing with out asking

nicknames like "well Hung", or "tit Lover",

abusive chat

That was my 2 cents worth, hope its not bored ya too much, and i apolyigise for the grammer and spelling mistakes

from the One and only Brummie Blusher

JGLEbbon

oh come on don't tell everyone how to be successful....else that will leave less for us that know the truth.....just let them keep posting....giz a shag...and now.......leaves the door wide open for us in the know,,,,,,,quick remove this thread it could just be to useful to others !!!!

very well said marcuso

one more thing to add

cock pics are not needed

Well said secksy_cpl - we much prefer facial pics or full length body pics - its nice to see who you are messaging, the cock pic is much less important than a nice smile!

And if you're genuine, then a face pic isn't a problem - it kinda proves you are who you say you are . . . .

Marcuso

Thank you for your excelent advise to us new here.

wiz

Well Marcuso, You described it, i read it and your spot on. Good advice mate.

Oi Marcuso!!........What the fuck do you think you're playing at???!!!!

Steve

well said marcuso but i think you might need to re do it in braile too

and having met you your a cheeky devil with a heart of gold with that glint in ur eye or is that the optrex lmao


steve if you keep flashing that cute bum of urs ile have to come up north to nibble it



voddy xxxx

Marcuso, thanks for the insight. I have only just joined and may well have ended posting or doing some of the things that i shouldn't.
I'll try and stick to the advice, but if it doesn't work, you and me will be having words!

Well ,welll.. someone from blackburn who's shy? I think not!!!