I have just seen the new plan to verify genuine swingers in the chatroom. It sounds like a very good idea and I hope it works. I'm not sure who will be the first one to be verified, if everyone needs to be verified by someone who is already themselves verified, but I suspect Mark and the mods have thought of that.
I just thought I'd put the link here for those who haven't seen it.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/chatroom/swinger-list.html
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14th Nov 2004 - 5:21pm
I can't wait for the launch of the verification service. there are some lovely ladies in my area i would love to be verified by. 
more seriously, I can see the need and the method is as good as any.... only hope it doesn't lead to a hardening of boundaries, making it more difficult for new members to establish themselves. i suspect it knd of will do that.... becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy, along the lines MikeNorth mentioned - i'm not verified, therefore maybe i'm fake, therefore verified members will avoid me, therefore i won't get verified....
also - what if two unverified people meet? do they need to make sure that someone verified is with them, so their meet will count ?
.... have i misunderstood how this will work ?
more seriously, I can see the need and the method is as good as any.... only hope it doesn't lead to a hardening of boundaries, making it more difficult for new members to establish themselves. i suspect it knd of will do that.... becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy, along the lines MikeNorth mentioned - i'm not verified, therefore maybe i'm fake, therefore verified members will avoid me, therefore i won't get verified....
also - what if two unverified people meet? do they need to make sure that someone verified is with them, so their meet will count ?
.... have i misunderstood how this will work ?
xxdevil69 wrote:
Will the verification be used on forums as well as chatroom?
Think its a really good idea.
Will the verification be used on forums as well as chatroom?
Think its a really good idea.We've discussed this at length on the forum before you arrived xxdevil69 and although some were in favour of it, I think the majority decided that there were too many problems. I don't know how it will work in the chat room, but it will be interesting to see what happens.
Now, can someone please hurry and verify me please
A verified user is one who is active on the swing scene and who actually meets others on the scene for consensual, recreational sex.
This seems like a good idea so long as it is strictly adhered to. The idea of actually having to be a player makes sense. Another site's verification scheme allowed a couple that had never swung to be verified as swingers by 20 couples because they had attended a social party, where no playing occurred, and got every verified couple at the party to verify them.
This seems like a good idea so long as it is strictly adhered to. The idea of actually having to be a player makes sense. Another site's verification scheme allowed a couple that had never swung to be verified as swingers by 20 couples because they had attended a social party, where no playing occurred, and got every verified couple at the party to verify them.
northwest-cpl wrote:
A verified user is one who is active on the swing scene and who actually meets others on the scene for consensual, recreational sex.
This seems like a good idea so long as it is strictly adhered to. The idea of actually having to be a player makes sense. Another site's verification scheme allowed a couple that had never swung to be verified as swingers by 20 couples because they had attended a social party, where no playing occurred, and got every verified couple at the party to verify them.
A verified user is one who is active on the swing scene and who actually meets others on the scene for consensual, recreational sex.
This seems like a good idea so long as it is strictly adhered to. The idea of actually having to be a player makes sense. Another site's verification scheme allowed a couple that had never swung to be verified as swingers by 20 couples because they had attended a social party, where no playing occurred, and got every verified couple at the party to verify them.
Wouldn`t they have to be a member of the site in order to get in on the parties and the scene? That`s how it worked for Mars and I. We wouldn`t have known where to start otherwise!
Another site I joined briefly had the verification approach. The forum was dead, but thier chat room (which ran two nights a week) rocked!
Venusxxx
VenusnMars wrote:
Wouldn`t they have to be a member of the site in order to get in on the parties and the scene? That`s how it worked for Mars and I. We wouldn`t have known where to start otherwise!
Wouldn`t they have to be a member of the site in order to get in on the parties and the scene? That`s how it worked for Mars and I. We wouldn`t have known where to start otherwise!
Being a member of a site and being an active player are two very different things. A telephone call or a web-cam can easily prove you are real but will not prove that you play. As I read it, the idea is to verify people as "players" rather than "social" swingers.
northwest-cpl wrote:
Being a member of a site and being an active player are two very different things. A telephone call or a web-cam can easily prove you are real but will not prove that you play. As I read it, the idea is to verify people as "players" rather than "social" swingers.
VenusnMars wrote:
Wouldn`t they have to be a member of the site in order to get in on the parties and the scene? That`s how it worked for Mars and I. We wouldn`t have known where to start otherwise!
Wouldn`t they have to be a member of the site in order to get in on the parties and the scene? That`s how it worked for Mars and I. We wouldn`t have known where to start otherwise!
Being a member of a site and being an active player are two very different things. A telephone call or a web-cam can easily prove you are real but will not prove that you play. As I read it, the idea is to verify people as "players" rather than "social" swingers.
that is all well and good.. i can see where it is a good idea in the fast pace of the chatroom... but i can see it splitting the chatroom into two.. that haves and have nots so to speak....
and in a social atmosphere like a munch.... it wouldn't make a jot of difference....
unless the people who swing are not going to talk to the people who don't and makes the whole thing damaging......
sean xxxxxxxxxxxxx
fabio grooverider wrote:
that is all well and good.. i can see where it is a good idea in the fast pace of the chatroom... but i can see it splitting the chatroom into two.. that haves and have nots so to speak....
and in a social atmosphere like a munch.... it wouldn't make a jot of difference....
unless the people who swing are not going to talk to the people who don't and makes the whole thing damaging......
sean xxxxxxxxxxxxx
northwest-cpl wrote:
Being a member of a site and being an active player are two very different things. A telephone call or a web-cam can easily prove you are real but will not prove that you play. As I read it, the idea is to verify people as "players" rather than "social" swingers.
VenusnMars wrote:
Wouldn`t they have to be a member of the site in order to get in on the parties and the scene? That`s how it worked for Mars and I. We wouldn`t have known where to start otherwise!
Wouldn`t they have to be a member of the site in order to get in on the parties and the scene? That`s how it worked for Mars and I. We wouldn`t have known where to start otherwise!
Being a member of a site and being an active player are two very different things. A telephone call or a web-cam can easily prove you are real but will not prove that you play. As I read it, the idea is to verify people as "players" rather than "social" swingers.
that is all well and good.. i can see where it is a good idea in the fast pace of the chatroom... but i can see it splitting the chatroom into two.. that haves and have nots so to speak....
and in a social atmosphere like a munch.... it wouldn't make a jot of difference....
unless the people who swing are not going to talk to the people who don't and makes the whole thing damaging......
sean xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Personally, I was dead against verification when we discussed it on the forum some time ago. I can't comment on how it will affect the chat room as I rarely visit and I think the dynamics might be different than they are here (are they???), but we shall see.....
Sean I can certainly see where you're coming from and I hope that sort of situation does not happen.
I am still under the opinion that verification on the forum would be a bad idea.
It sounds like a good idea but it seems to me it will end up as a closed system.
I can't use the chatroom even if I wanted to (besides, it's not like I'd be able to arrange a quick meet up in there seeing as I'm hardly in the social capital of the universe, but I digress...)
Anyway, so, if you're given the option of meeting up with a verified member or a non verified person/people, you'll be going with the verified one because you'd rather have a guarenteed meet up rather than take a chance on your time being wasted. The unverified ones will get less of a look in, or at least will have even less of a chance than before.
That's how it seems to me, anyhoo.
I can't use the chatroom even if I wanted to (besides, it's not like I'd be able to arrange a quick meet up in there seeing as I'm hardly in the social capital of the universe, but I digress...)
Anyway, so, if you're given the option of meeting up with a verified member or a non verified person/people, you'll be going with the verified one because you'd rather have a guarenteed meet up rather than take a chance on your time being wasted. The unverified ones will get less of a look in, or at least will have even less of a chance than before.
That's how it seems to me, anyhoo.
I do not like this idea at all. I think it will cause divisions in the community and put new people under pressure to shag anything that moves so they can be taken seriously. Only they won't be taken seriously because the only people who can "verify" them are the ones who will ignore them because they haven't been verified. Have I misunderstood this, because right now it makes no sense to me. 
fabio grooverider wrote:
that is all well and good.. i can see where it is a good idea in the fast pace of the chatroom... but i can see it splitting the chatroom into two.. that haves and have nots so to speak....
and in a social atmosphere like a munch.... it wouldn't make a jot of difference....
unless the people who swing are not going to talk to the people who don't and makes the whole thing damaging......
sean xxxxxxxxxxxxx
that is all well and good.. i can see where it is a good idea in the fast pace of the chatroom... but i can see it splitting the chatroom into two.. that haves and have nots so to speak....
and in a social atmosphere like a munch.... it wouldn't make a jot of difference....
unless the people who swing are not going to talk to the people who don't and makes the whole thing damaging......
sean xxxxxxxxxxxxx
It would be silly for anyone to arrange a meet solely on the strength of a verification, or to ignore people simply because they are not verified. It does, however, add an extra bit of information when you are chatting to someone and trying to decide whether they are in fact who they claim to be.
I think the idea is that it is for the chat room and people who are arranging meets. Agreed, at a munch or any other social event it would have no use at all.
bluexxx wrote:
I am still under the opinion that verification on the forum would be a bad idea.
I am still under the opinion that verification on the forum would be a bad idea.
Surely there is no intention of verification being used in the forum?
A NEW SERVICE FOR OUR CHATROOM USERS is the title of the page.
Ice Pie wrote:
I do not like this idea at all. I think it will cause divisions in the community and put new people under pressure to shag anything that moves so they can be taken seriously. Only they won't be taken seriously because the only people who can "verify" them are the ones who will ignore them because they haven't been verified. Have I misunderstood this, because right now it makes no sense to me.
I do not like this idea at all. I think it will cause divisions in the community and put new people under pressure to shag anything that moves so they can be taken seriously. Only they won't be taken seriously because the only people who can "verify" them are the ones who will ignore them because they haven't been verified. Have I misunderstood this, because right now it makes no sense to me.
Have to agree with you on this one ICE. Because people DONT play with other couples does that mean they are less genuine? What about the exhibitionists and watchers on the forun. What about those who just enjoy the social side?
We feel that we have already struck up a friendship with others on this site and I'm quite happy that they are genuine. We know that we are in our intentions.
Personally speaking, I worry that it creates a clique that one cant enter without.......errrr.........entering........ as it where!
Exactly
Clare_Lincs wrote:
Ive sen tMark a pm asking some q's but another point is,like us we havent reached the full sex status as yet and just do oral,so would we not be verified because we don't do the whole hog?
Ive sen tMark a pm asking some q's but another point is,like us we havent reached the full sex status as yet and just do oral,so would we not be verified because we don't do the whole hog?
Why are you sending Mark a pm when the page asks you to contact the administrator of the verification list?
Steve
steveg_nw wrote:
Why are you sending Mark a pm when the page asks you to contact the administrator of the verification list?
Steve
Clare_Lincs wrote:
Ive sen tMark a pm asking some q's but another point is,like us we havent reached the full sex status as yet and just do oral,so would we not be verified because we don't do the whole hog?
Ive sen tMark a pm asking some q's but another point is,like us we havent reached the full sex status as yet and just do oral,so would we not be verified because we don't do the whole hog?
Why are you sending Mark a pm when the page asks you to contact the administrator of the verification list?
Steve
OOps didnt see that im afraid,ok just seen it my fault!!
