Are you shy

No really - are you shy, do you have the bottle to ask someone out or ask for phone number if you fancy them.

I work in the catering sector and 5/6 times a day i visit different places like hospitals and pubs, cafes where there are lots on ladies etc

But i way to shy to ask for there number or chatt to show i fancy a woman.

How you do fair up when out and about, what would you do if you fancy someone or what sign`s give you the hint that someone fancys you.

How would to help people like me who maybe pritty shy to start off with,(lol but not once i get to know someone hehe) to get the "i fancy you message over to someone"

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I am desperately shy and un-confident in myself which is why I can see me being un-attached for quite some time

I have mastered shyness to the point where I suffer from different degrees of shyness, depending on the context

as a salesman, opening doors and introducing myself is part of the trade..so in that field I've mostly overcome it, but still manage to blunder my way through the easiest of confrontations (lastly I was on a meeting with a buyer, and knocked my glass of water all over her desk...hence the lesson, "always drink up!")
in more social things I am not really shy with blokes, but can be reeeeaally awkward around girls, especially on the first approach
the simple art of walking up to a girl and tell her "n'importe quoi" eludes me, mostly because I think chat up lines are stupid and mostly unwelcome...and if I start of saying something stupid, what does that say about me?... and if she's with friends...well then she's totally off limits..as stupid as that may sound
once the ice is broken I tend to come over quite confident and proactive.. but that first hurdle is more often than not quite too steep for me.

in that picture, thank god for internet.. I never really look shy or lacking confidence, when I meet a date, simply because the first hurdle of getting to introduce myself is already behind me...and inrtoducing myself on the web takes little if no courage at all.

pah..amateur..I manage to be overlooked even when dancing alone at the center of the dancefloor :S

seriously...how many times do you get the feeling "am I invisible"?? I reckon that's where most of the shyness comes from in the first place

Alot of intresting replys here but it seems most are the same when in work no problem same as me will chatt to any but if out in a pub etc the shyness kicks in.

dealing with rejecton can be hard if you not used to, lucky for me i now take it with a pinch of salt as my confidence is gowing day by day.

But it is very strange that once the first contact is done theres just no stopping you

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It is strange that people who are shy in one situation are masters of another. I know this, my wife who is shy in some situations is in professional life in complete control. Even in those situation where she is sky it does not show to most.

There are times when I am nervous, I would not call it shy.

I would say that it helps to have to have the support of someone close.

Travis

I know that shyness and lack of confidence can be over come with training. Someone pushing you can with repetition change an individuals confidence. ...but it does have to be done well. The services are good at this.

Hell No






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