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We are a bi cpl who sometimes look for a bi, not curious male but it seems that being bi means different things to different people, to us being full bi means you are either 'tops' or 'bottom', are not looking to meet a cpl just to shag the female and will recipricate with what's being given as well as kissing the guy.
We'd love to hear others views

 

30th Jun 2009 - 8:28am
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It means whatever the boundaries you have all set prior to the meet in my eyes. To expect other people to conform to your way of thinking has no respect to the person joining you.........they are just a piece of meat otherwise and not a person.

This isn't a "have a go" post, it is just coming out wrong icon_redface.gif

What I am trying to say is that folk should talk before a meet and lay the ground rules of what is or isn't expected........then people can make an informed decision as to want to meet or not.

Re-reading your post I am guessing that someone said they were bi and when they turned up at yours to play with the female but wouldn't connect with the male. If that was the case then it is what a lot of people do......just plain lie to get what they want. The twat radar needs to be on to weed them out first. I did read on a profile in the past a couple who said that they were looking for a bi male. To weed out those that were only applying to get to the female, he wrote that at the beginning of the night he will shag their arse before the female joins in. I bet that put a few off icon_lol.gif

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30th Jun 2009 - 4:15pm
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Dave__Notts wrote:

To weed out those that were only applying to get to the female, he wrote that at the beginning of the night he will shag their arse before the female joins in. I bet that put a few off icon_lol.gif

Dave_Notts


especially the Bi guys that dont do anal, because we all know dont we that you dont have to 'do anal receiving or giving to be Bi ..

im guessing the above couple Dave mentions had asked for guys that were happy to recieve anal and not just bisexual..

 

30th Jun 2009 - 10:04pm
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wild rose and the stag wrote:

Dave__Notts wrote:

To weed out those that were only applying to get to the female, he wrote that at the beginning of the night he will shag their arse before the female joins in. I bet that put a few off icon_lol.gif

Dave_Notts


especially the Bi guys that dont do anal, because we all know dont we that you dont have to 'do anal receiving or giving to be Bi ..

im guessing the above couple Dave mentions had asked for guys that were happy to recieve anal and not just bisexual..


I thought it was as the OP mentions in the opening post, full bi. To me that means the lot and not just orally-bi.

I know there is a range of what people would or wouldn't do but when people advertise full bi then I thought that would mean everything.......unless I have missed something or are way off track:dunno:

Dave_Notts

 

30th Jun 2009 - 10:23pm
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ummm as for fully bi or not.

I know a few gay men that classify themselves as gay and don't 'do' anal.

The sexual acts themselves don't define ones sexuality.

Just thought that I would mention that.

 

30th Jun 2009 - 10:48pm
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Dave__Notts wrote:

wild rose and the stag wrote:

Dave__Notts wrote:

To weed out those that were only applying to get to the female, he wrote that at the beginning of the night he will shag their arse before the female joins in. I bet that put a few off icon_lol.gif

Dave_Notts


especially the Bi guys that dont do anal, because we all know dont we that you dont have to 'do anal receiving or giving to be Bi ..

im guessing the above couple Dave mentions had asked for guys that were happy to recieve anal and not just bisexual..


I thought it was as the OP mentions in the opening post, full bi. To me that means the lot and not just orally-bi.

I know there is a range of what people would or wouldn't do but when people advertise full bi then I thought that would mean everything.......unless I have missed something or are way off track:dunno:

Dave_Notts


Not to spin you guys out or anything, but did you know a lot of GAY MEN don't even do Anal, It's just an activity after-all and if you participate in that activity or not doesn't actually change your sexual preference.

 

30th Jun 2009 - 10:53pm
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splendid_ wrote:

ummm as for fully bi or not.

I know a few gay men that classify themselves as gay and don't 'do' anal.

The sexual acts themselves don't define ones sexuality.

Just thought that I would mention that.


awe you posted first and said it way better then me lol

 

1st Jul 2009 - 12:38am
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for me i suppose alot of it does come down to what has been said above. my only thing to add is that as far as i'm thinking.....isn't being gay more about the emotional connection rather than the physical?

so for me a bi person is someone who could have that connection with either sex. but in most circles bi means someone who is stright but willing on some degree to play with the same sex.

again it's where trying to put lables on people that don't always cover one particular thing.

all you can do is state right from the start what you want. but as always is should think you will get the ones who will say anything to get what they want.

good luck if you are searching.

whips

 

1st Jul 2009 - 1:02am
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Dave__Notts wrote:

wild rose and the stag wrote:

Dave__Notts wrote:

To weed out those that were only applying to get to the female, he wrote that at the beginning of the night he will shag their arse before the female joins in. I bet that put a few off icon_lol.gif

Dave_Notts


especially the Bi guys that dont do anal, because we all know dont we that you dont have to 'do anal receiving or giving to be Bi ..

im guessing the above couple Dave mentions had asked for guys that were happy to recieve anal and not just bisexual..


I thought it was as the OP mentions in the opening post, full bi. To me that means the lot and not just orally-bi.

I know there is a range of what people would or wouldn't do but when people advertise full bi then I thought that would mean everything.......unless I have missed something or are way off track:dunno:

Dave_Notts


you may have been referring to the original post but i was referring to your reply and included example which made no reference to how bi the guy should be but he shud be prepared for anal, id say then be prepared for a smack in the gob! and making the point perhaps not as eloquently that when you advertise for a bi male it may be worth discussing before the visit just what kind of bi play you want...i think chaos and splendid picked up on that and saw necessary to make the same/similar point..

i see no difference at all between expecting a woman to bend over backwards and take it up the ass to prove her straightness as a bi guy having to do the same to prove his BI ness..complete bollox imho

 

3rd Jul 2009 - 9:53pm
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i only go with tv;s and couples so i suppose that makes me bi and not gay as for anal it would have to be exceptional circumstances

 

4th Jul 2009 - 12:15am
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I class myself as a bi male, I give/take oral and give anal, ive not recieved anal yet, but when the time is right I will.

 

4th Jul 2009 - 10:05am
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splendid_ wrote:

ummm as for fully bi or not.

I know a few gay men that classify themselves as gay and don't 'do' anal.

The sexual acts themselves don't define ones sexuality.

Just thought that I would mention that.



Totally agree thumbup.gif

 

5th Jul 2009 - 8:27pm
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I think there's a scale..... like 1 to 10. Gay is at one end and straight is at the other but it's bi-polar so the more of one thing we are at any given point in time, the less we are of the opposite and so on.

I believe that we all have a 'core' of what and who we are and what we like but every now and then the situation dicates we might behave differently.

I like to use the term 'situationally bi', whatever end of the scale we come at that situation from icon_cool.gif

For example: I'm essentially gay but when I'm sharing cock with a female, having my cock sucked by a bloke while I kiss a female or kissing a bloke while a female sucks my cock or sucking a bloke while he licks pussy I doubt many of my gay mates would say I was 'that gay' at that point. Most of them would likely go 'ewwwww..' but that's their problem, I like it... icon_lol.gif

Read my signature... that kinda sums it up for me icon_razz.gif