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disability
3rd Jul 2009 - 9:45pm
disability does it put you off
put me off what?
lol, hi,
i guess your talking about sex. if they have a learning disability that ment they had a mental age lower than actual, then yes.
other than that its the person who id be attracted to, not a disability that would turn me away.
xx fem xx
lol, hi,
i guess your talking about sex. if they have a learning disability that ment they had a mental age lower than actual, then yes.
other than that its the person who id be attracted to, not a disability that would turn me away.
xx fem xx
no its not mental or sexual disability just resently had an accident and dont know if they can do anything with the leg so its just a pyhisical thing
__random_orbit__ wrote:
bigotry is a terible affliction, I find it most unappealing
lp
bigotry is a terible affliction, I find it most unappealing
lp
Must admit being married to two other people at the same times is a bit naff aint it.
As for the disability thing, I guees I could not help but notice a physical disibility if it was obvious and marked to the persons appearance look demeanor gait and I would immediately react to thatas I think most would. Going on from the shallow first sight/experience thing if there is a moving on into mote communication and interaction then at that point the look of a disibility/abnormality reduces and the connection goes to a different level. This happens in most relationship i wouldf think although I guess with disabilities of any sort the effort to get past inequality would be greater.
fem_4_taboo wrote:
put me off what?
lol, hi,
i guess your talking about sex. if they have a learning disability that ment they had a mental age lower than actual, then yes.
other than that its the person who id be attracted to, not a disability that would turn me away.
xx fem xx
put me off what?
lol, hi,
i guess your talking about sex. if they have a learning disability that ment they had a mental age lower than actual, then yes.
other than that its the person who id be attracted to, not a disability that would turn me away.
xx fem xx
I'll certainly agree with this.
If at any point I had concerns around someones mental capacity... then a definate no
lp
speaking for myself no physical disability does not put me off, my hubby had a motorbike accident 2 years ago leaving him with pin and plates in his shoulder and limited movement and other complcations and recently he has had a stroke which means he uses a wheel chair.
Through out all of this I have not been put off but I don't know how others would react to his disabilitys.
At the end of the day it depends on what the other person needs in a relationship, be it love, sex, a trophy on their arm etc etc
For me it's the person that counts yeah sure looks etc count but i'd rather be with my hubby than some one who put looks first before getting to know the person
Through out all of this I have not been put off but I don't know how others would react to his disabilitys.
At the end of the day it depends on what the other person needs in a relationship, be it love, sex, a trophy on their arm etc etc
For me it's the person that counts yeah sure looks etc count but i'd rather be with my hubby than some one who put looks first before getting to know the person
How do you define diaabilities?
4th Jul 2009 - 6:32pm
Where do you draw a line with disabilities? Yes, we know about people with impaired movement and those with a mental impairment. I, John have an ileostomy (colon removed and bag on lower stomach) and that has not stopped us swinging as a couple. The people that we have swung with have been down to earth, caring folk who have seen us as the people we are. We love 'em for that. I have had rejections which have made me feel like a leper after the person was told about my 'addition'. Maddy had a mastectomy in Aug 07. Would you term that a disability in swinging circles? Neither of us fit into the 'blue badge' bracket. We are still the same people underneath, no, we are now even more caring and understanding. Maddy does not feel well enough to restart swinging yet but I wonder how many people would write us off as being 'disabled' largely through their ignorance.
We had a second ride on life's roundabout, many people don't get the chance when 'Big C' is involved.
J&M XX
We had a second ride on life's roundabout, many people don't get the chance when 'Big C' is involved.
J&M XX
Smooth2..you have my upmost respect sir.
I have never found physical disability off-putting. Most disabilites are (by their nature) noticable and I really don't think it's shallow to notice the fact your opposite number turns up in a wheel-chair or on sticks etc. What might be shallow is saying "no, I'm not Sally, you must have the wrong person" and hi-tailing it out of the pub. But then everyone has their sensitivities.
I also find scars - however severe don't put me off. I often find them quite striking if not attractive. i have a few of my own.
I also find scars - however severe don't put me off. I often find them quite striking if not attractive. i have a few of my own.
Why should a disablity put you off..
Don't see any reason why it should..
If a disablity put someone off,they are judging the person before they get to know them.
Don't see any reason why it should..
If a disablity put someone off,they are judging the person before they get to know them.
Disability is another label. I have many scars, and have trouble waking long distances, I can't move around much at night because of my fibromyalgia, but do I let it stop me? no fecking way!
If someone can't deal with me the way I am, they are not worth bothering with. I have many friends who are "disabled" in different ways, but still manage to carry on with a fulfilling life, and still enjoy themselves in the bedroom!
You adapt to how the person you are with, is. Don't let anything stop you and don't let anyone's ignorance bother you... enjoy yourself!
*kitty*
PS Smooth2 - the best to you and the missus..... would love to hear from you!
If someone can't deal with me the way I am, they are not worth bothering with. I have many friends who are "disabled" in different ways, but still manage to carry on with a fulfilling life, and still enjoy themselves in the bedroom!
You adapt to how the person you are with, is. Don't let anything stop you and don't let anyone's ignorance bother you... enjoy yourself!
*kitty*
PS Smooth2 - the best to you and the missus..... would love to hear from you!
This is a hard one because most people will say they won't judge a person by their disability, but we all know this happens.
I went on a date with a guy from SH some time ago and he noticed I parked on a disabled bay. I didn't want to use my walking stick so walked to the pub unaided but of course a bit unsteady on my feet and he asked 'how long have you had a problem walking' OMG! I had made mention of my damaged knees but I guess it doesn't sink in until you've actually seen the person and seen how a disability affects their day to day life.
What may be scary to you, is routine to me. So no need to worry too much and get stressed.
That's all I can say and wish you luck in finding a swinging partner that will accept you as you are or will be.
I went on a date with a guy from SH some time ago and he noticed I parked on a disabled bay. I didn't want to use my walking stick so walked to the pub unaided but of course a bit unsteady on my feet and he asked 'how long have you had a problem walking' OMG! I had made mention of my damaged knees but I guess it doesn't sink in until you've actually seen the person and seen how a disability affects their day to day life.
What may be scary to you, is routine to me. So no need to worry too much and get stressed.
That's all I can say and wish you luck in finding a swinging partner that will accept you as you are or will be.
