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Advice on using the forum.

27th Apr 2010 - 10:18am
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This area is for reasonable, rational debate (serious discussion of a subject in which many people take part) and not for anything that resembles bullying, aggression, abuse or haranguing (to speak to someone or a group of people, often for a long time, in a forceful and sometimes angry way, especially to persuade them.).


Just to clarify.......


Debate = thumbup.gif .................. Bullying, abuse etc = kick.gif




While using this forum please remember that it is governed by the site's Acceptable Use Policy that you agreed to as per the sites Terms & Conditions.




Everyone should feel comfortable using this forum, so this post has been made to try and minimise disagreements and abuse and to promote some tolerance towards others. Please remember that (at the moment anyway lol2.gif ) we're all allowed freedom of thought and that it is ok for other to have ideas that we don't agree with. They have probably taken many years to develop those ideas after life-experience etc, so please do not become frustrated if your beautifully worded and handsomely crafted paragraph of text doesn't make them have an instant epiphany. doh.gif icon_wink.gif

With this in mind, here are a few tips to help you try to resolve conflicts, hopefully without the need for moderators to step in and start taking action.

Quote:

Tips for Resolving Conflict Online

What can be done to prevent unnecessary conflict in cyberspace? The following are tips for handling conflict online with respect, sensitivity, and care:

    Don't respond right away

    Read the post again later

    Choose whether or not you want to respond

    Clarify what was meant

    Think about what you want to accomplish by your communication

    Choose your words carefully and thoughtfully, particularly when you're upset

    Place yourself in the other person's shoes

    Use emoticons to express your tone

    Assume that people mean well, unless they have a history or pattern of aggression

Everyone has their bad days, gets triggered, reacts insensitively, and writes a post without thinking it through completely. It doesn't mean that they don't have good intentions.

On the other hand, some people pick fights no matter how kind and patient you are with them. They distort what you say, quote you out of context, and make all sorts of accusations all to vilify and antagonize you. Don't take the "bait" by engaging in a struggle with them - they'll never stop. Sometimes, the best strategy is to have nothing more to do with someone.




A more detailed version of the above is available here: http://www-usr.rider.edu/~suler/psycyber/conflict.html

If you're still having problems resolving an issue then you can make the site moderators aware of your concerns by visiting the offenders profile and clicking the 'Report Profile' link at the bottom of their profile page.
Please give some details in the text box of the problem and where its happened before clicking the 'Report' button.

Finally, a quick quote:

"Those who establish their argument by noise and command shows that their reason is weak"
- Michel de Montaigne


Thank you for reading. icon_biggrin.gif