matt1979 leaving the site

i dont blame him for taking a break or having a new profile.
It only takes one person to say something and you reconsider why your here.I myself will be doing something similar once my membership ends.
It doesnt matter if you help people privately in chat when they have problems or just get close by whispering, the real truth is you never know that person and by spending lots of time in the chatroom you sort of become addicted to it.

A break from it i would recommend as far to many people think they are something special or gods gift because they opened up a room on a server and have that all important boot button.

Like your friend i too have helped people when they had problems and i could see when they were in some difficulties but in truth the person doing the helping is being used and sometimes taking onboard other problems add to your own.
Maybe your friend felt this, he seems to have a good nature and may have just been running on empty for too long.

I have the upmost respect for him and his decision.
Good luck to him.

my problems are not important because i can walk away from here without it having a lasting effect.
From what i have read and what has happened has effected you and that is different.

I helped someone out a while ago (another member here) and soon after they were sorted that person treated me like dirt, and infront of others.So, i have been used.
Listening to other members about things going on in their life is not a good thing.One must always understand that you (the listener)is only getting one side of the story so what maybe being told may not be totally truthful.

My problem is im serious about swinging.Some people want to chat and others not and in my experience moving the conversation onto something like msn means you got no chance because you can then be used as a listening tool or simply blocked when not needed.
I dont have the time to waste so when it is im angry and i go a little of the edge on my profile.We all deal with things differently.

Now back to you.I can relate to your situation.
Just over a year ago i started talking to someone from another site.At first it was ok and we got along really well but everytime i ask to meet her she would say no or make an excuse.
Then finally i pressed her and told her all contact with me would be cut.She then told me about her marriage and later her son.Of course i was shocked because she hadnt told me about her son but i excepted it and still wanted to meet her.I thought she was happy with this as we were talking more on te phone and she was sending me lots of text messages.She also was very worried when i sustained serious injurys from motorbike crash whilst testing.Then about a month later she totally disappeared, without warning she was gone.Email dead,mobile changed,the site we used her profile deleted, she was gone.

Then someone out of the blue contacted me and told me that she had been seeing someone else and he had given her a bad time.How bad i dont know, something i could never do.
But even now if she contacted me i would be happy just to know she is ok.

What i'm trying to tell you is at sometime in our lives we lose.It never comes back and the hands of the clock always travel forward.Emptyness inside kills, this i know but you have to pick yourself up and drive on.
Everyone has reasons to leave, its understanding them which is the hardest thing to do.
In time you will recover and someone else will take his place, right now you may not think so.But it will and when it does you'll be smiling again.

Speak to you soon.