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Can I Offer The Single Guys A Bit Of Advice?
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Post subject: reply
Posted: Sat Sep 11, 2004 7:32 pm
Posted: Sat Sep 11, 2004 7:32 pm
Single guys
this is good advice,i know from experience.
When i first started on the dogging scene i was nervous,got myslef lost,and got cold feet once (sorry Bluexx).
however since then i have become more experienced and met a few couples on here,i am always courtious and have met couples for drinks only,where nothing else has happened.In short treat everyone with respect and if things happen great.But be patient
Brian
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Posted: Mon Sep 13, 2004 7:35 am
Posted: Mon Sep 13, 2004 7:35 am
steveg_nw wrote:
Oi Marcuso!!........What the fuck do you think you're playing at???!!!!
Steve
Oi Marcuso!!........What the fuck do you think you're playing at???!!!!
Steve
Have I done something wrong Steve??
Getting a little worried now.
Marcuso
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Posted: Sat Sep 18, 2004 3:44 am
Posted: Sat Sep 18, 2004 3:44 am
really strange,,,,,,,just got a message saying someone had replied and it came up as "does not exist".......any ideas why??
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Posted: Sat Sep 18, 2004 5:02 am
Posted: Sat Sep 18, 2004 5:02 am
bi_curious_man123 wrote:
really strange,,,,,,,just got a message saying someone had replied and it came up as "does not exist".......any ideas why??
really strange,,,,,,,just got a message saying someone had replied and it came up as "does not exist".......any ideas why??
Thats because someone has posted a reply and then deleted it almost immediately. It will then come up as 'does not exist'
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Posted: Sat Sep 18, 2004 8:45 am
Posted: Sat Sep 18, 2004 8:45 am
Nice one Marcuso.......you're spot on......
I hate it when single guys think they can come on here and get a date with a single line of 'fancy a shag'......
Post subject: it
Posted: Sat Sep 18, 2004 11:24 am
Posted: Sat Sep 18, 2004 11:24 am
makes them sound desperate helen. it must be really off putting for the girls here as some of the posts make me laugh or cringe or both.do they honestly think why they havent got a reply and wonder why?
patience and good manners cost nothing.
yes you do have to wait and build before you start getting anyhwere here but,good
things come to those that wait.
i like the forum also because of the humour etc and, info.. its nice to have freinds and
chat about things in common.
id love to meet most people here for a drink and become known to them, if anything nice happens then to me that would be a massive plus!
after all its why im here, but if it doesnt its not the end of the world. id still
like to keep in touch with them.friends not enemies.
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Posted: Sat Sep 18, 2004 11:36 am
Posted: Sat Sep 18, 2004 11:36 am
JudyTV wrote:
Thats because someone has posted a reply and then deleted it almost immediately. It will then come up as 'does not exist'
bi_curious_man123 wrote:
really strange,,,,,,,just got a message saying someone had replied and it came up as "does not exist".......any ideas why??
really strange,,,,,,,just got a message saying someone had replied and it came up as "does not exist".......any ideas why??
Thats because someone has posted a reply and then deleted it almost immediately. It will then come up as 'does not exist'
PHEW!!!!!....thanks for clearing that up for me Judy....I thought I was going round the twist.......then again, that might not be far wrong...................lol
DreamerHelen wrote:
Nice one Marcuso.......you're spot on......
I hate it when single guys think they can come on here and get a date with a single line of 'fancy a shag'......
Nice one Marcuso.......you're spot on......
I hate it when single guys think they can come on here and get a date with a single line of 'fancy a shag'......
Helen........I need a date...........Fancy a shag??...........................lol
Post subject: Take a moment, please...
Posted: Wed Sep 22, 2004 12:28 pm
Posted: Wed Sep 22, 2004 12:28 pm
Stumbled across Roger' insights, late yesterday afternoon. As a new, single male, found it to be a great read and concur with fabio, that YES, it should be posted as a sticky somewhere on here, probably right under the eyelids of all the "new" single male members!
Please take 5mins to read this, mull it over and don't be put off.
Erm, kinda just wanted to bring this back to the top of the pile!
Take care
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Posted: Wed Sep 22, 2004 1:34 pm
Posted: Wed Sep 22, 2004 1:34 pm
Cheers for the advice, as a new poster I will certainly take not and advice from this - I've answered a few ads (with more than a one-line answer) and as yet have not received a reply from anyone - I think patience is going to be the key though 
Post subject: Damn IT
Posted: Wed Sep 22, 2004 5:57 pm
Posted: Wed Sep 22, 2004 5:57 pm
You should not have sed all that Marcuso...
Its the tossers that give the genuine ones the edge !!!
lmao
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Posted: Thu Sep 30, 2004 9:54 pm
Posted: Thu Sep 30, 2004 9:54 pm
Thank you for pointing me in this direction Marcuso, the advice sounds absolutely rock solid, as do Heathers views on single male replies which show the severe competition when replying to an ad, get it wrong and you've lost them forever a little thought and understanding of an advertisers needs are essential when posting a reply, and Roger who reminds us that the key objective should be to have fun, despite the unanswered posts (and if the figures are correct its hardly surprising that most posts are not replied to) and the rejection after rejection.
All three articles (and there are probably more out there) should be compulsive reading for everyone joining Swinging Heaven.
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Posted: Fri Oct 1, 2004 3:08 am
Posted: Fri Oct 1, 2004 3:08 am
Well as a single guy new on here it is difficult obviously, as an outsider there is a lot of caution from other users when you put up a thread or answer an add, this i totally expect and if i answer an add and get no reply i just leave it as those i have replied to and had no reply from can testify too i hope.
There are no right ways to do it as far as i can tell at the minute, but there are a hell of alot of wrong ways, it is like stepping through a mine field, some adds want a face pic, some want a cock shot and some want you to tell them how you would sexually humiliate them. Personally i would rather say "hi im midlandsman1970 take a look at my add and if you like what you see then please get in touch", nothing more. But, at the end of the day common sense is a good guide.
I want to shout HEY IM HERE but im not gonna, my kids love me and thats really enough for me day to day. Eventually people on this site will get to know me if they can tolerate me that long and will eventually find out that im not all that bad.
Id like to thank Steve for letting me come to the Banquet next March, i must have made an impression there as i haven't been on the site a week yet and im really looking forward to it, not that i expect an instant shag at the end of the munch but it is a chance for me to meet you guys n gals and vice versa.
Everyone wants to have as much fun as the "veterans" of this site but i guess the patient ones who stick about and aren't pushy will have the most fun at the end of the day.
I have been single for 3 years since my split and i miss this. I have female friends who dearly love and care for me but they aren't.......... compatable shall we say, and im not going to ruin a bloody good friendship by sleeping with a friend for the hell of it!!!
I only got a computer a short while ago and have found this site fantastic ever since. Ive been involved in things sparsley since the split but generally by accident. Lets just say when we were married OUR friends were the ex wifes and not mine after and i was left out in the cold.
It would be nice for me to meet a single lady on this site and have a long term thing not just a one night stand, but what will be will be and ive lived with that approach to life for 3 years now.
If i have upset anyone on this site so far then i genuinely apologise for it and hope that when you do get to know me you will realise that it was a mistake and never intended.
Im a friendly and open/honest kind of person and i don't want to push myself on anyone on this site, and if you think thats what im doing then please tell me and i don't care if you name and shame me in the forum. But if you can spare a minute get to know me then you will find out that im a really nice guy, im a really good dad and im a really nice friend.
Matt.
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Posted: Fri Oct 1, 2004 10:24 am
Posted: Fri Oct 1, 2004 10:24 am
Hi Marcuso,
Being new to swinging and a bi-curious single male I have read your advice and found it informative and most helpful. So thank you for taking the time to write something constructive and helpful to all us newbies!
Liquid
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Posted: Sun Oct 3, 2004 11:15 pm
Posted: Sun Oct 3, 2004 11:15 pm
just keeping this on the top so more ppl can read it
Post subject: excellant
Posted: Mon Oct 4, 2004 9:49 am
Posted: Mon Oct 4, 2004 9:49 am
Really good post and helpful to the likes of me
Post subject: hmmm
Posted: Tue Oct 5, 2004 4:06 pm
Posted: Tue Oct 5, 2004 4:06 pm
Well Marcuso, this is such a good thread of advice for the singletons that I added this to bump it up the list.
A word from the Host too, tho'
Single Guys - personal cleanlines will get you a lot further than a good line of chat or a championship length of dick.
Look at your hands - are your fingernails clean ? short ? smooth ?
Look at your clothes - do you look like a pikey from the roughest pub in town ?
Look at your shower room - have you used a good amount of soap and water in there before a meet.
Do you smell of beer or tobacco.
Even doggers need to be tidy !!!!
Simple stuff but it all makes a difference.
TKH
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Posted: Fri Oct 8, 2004 9:01 am
Posted: Fri Oct 8, 2004 9:01 am
is there any of putting the orignal text up as a sticky as is was a very well written piece...
it might help the guys in "let meet up" and on the ads write better...... and help them when they complain that they get no rpelies....
sean xxxx
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Posted: Sat Oct 23, 2004 7:28 pm
Posted: Sat Oct 23, 2004 7:28 pm
just bumping this back to near the top
sean xxxxx
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Posted: Sun Oct 24, 2004 8:04 am
Posted: Sun Oct 24, 2004 8:04 am
fabio grooverider wrote:
just bumping this back to near the top
sean xxxxx
just bumping this back to near the top
sean xxxxx
boing!!!!!
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Posted: Fri Oct 29, 2004 10:29 am
Posted: Fri Oct 29, 2004 10:29 am
just bumping this back up to the top again... might actually give some guys a clue around here
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