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5th Jan 2012 - 2:42pm
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Blue, to answer your specific point that bullying with words is wrong regardless of the words used, you're right, except of course that noone ever got strung up from a tree by a gang of racist thugs above the law for being ginger, or fat, or ugly, or a bit of a cunt, did they? No one ever went halfway round the globe to round up gingers en masse to be transported to the New World as slaves. It is different, and race is directly relevant because of the history of the inreraction between western caucasians and blacks.


That does still not make the use of racial abuse any worse than any other verbal abuse in my mind.

But to answer your pacific point, I think those who are verbally abused feel just as unhappy as those racially abused, never mind the history.

Protect us from abuse, says woman beaten for being fat. Overweight people in London have launched a campaign to make the capital more fat-friendly.

It comes after one woman was beaten up on a train for being fat. A group of women want to persuade Boris Johnson to make London more like San Francisco, where discriminating against fat people is banned by law.


http://www.thisislondon.co.uk/standard/article-23758001-protect-us-from-abuse-says-woman-beaten-for-being-fat.do

 

5th Jan 2012 - 4:50pm
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Why is nigger offensive in the mouth of a white person when directed towards someone who's black? Does it really need explaining? Can't believe the question has even come up. It is offensive because historically it has been used as a derogatory term of abuse by white people, asserting their priveleged position in a society that saw black people as inferior, sub-human, useful only as slaves so long as they remained productive, or as a cheap labour force kept in its place by institutionalised psychological and physical violence.


do you reely beleeve that neil?


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You cannot seperate the word from its historical context: it is too loaded with cultural baggage. If blacks choose to use the word themselves by way of redefining its meaning, reclaiming it for themselves, or for shock value that's one thing, but it's another thing altogether in the mouth of a white person in a society that still massively discriminates against none-caucasians on a daily basis at a personal and institutional level. How hard can it be to understand that?


the bit highlighted is a million per cent spot on thumbup.gif
the reeson i say that is i was praying this would come up and now it has been said. i spoke this afternoon with a friend of mine who is very black, who thankfully answered this question for me. what a load of shite he said. he beleeves that it is much much worse for another black person to call him a nigger, than it is for a white person. the reeson he gave is that another black person would understand through there own history what the significance of that word ment. so he said for him it would be much more offensive for a fellow black person to call him a nigger. he could almost ignore a white person saying it to him because of there ignorance, but another black person saying it is the worst thing he could imagine. he also stated that none of his friends would dare say that to another black person.

he said that only another white person would make such a offensive coment, and funnily enough the person who made that coment is indeed white.

he said the word is offensive no matter what the colour of a persons skin is, if it is not directed at him. if it is the thought of a black person saying it to him fills him with disgust.
i wonder how many white peeple would dare to argue with that?>

 

5th Jan 2012 - 5:44pm
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I believe that the following terms and conditions of this Site have been breached in this thread:

"Refrain from all expressions of bigotry, racism, and homophobia."

The N word is not acceptable in this country and any attempt to justify its use is racist.

What started in this thread as a debate about the actions of a football Club has descended into people questioning the context and use of a word that is universally accepted as a racist and unacceptable to use in this country. I feel sickened and disgusted that anyone could even think that it is any way acceptable.

Starlight - your last post was the final straw for me. I ignored your comments about the black footballers and (the clues being there) but making up stories to justify the continued use of a word that will never again in history be acceptable is outrageous. Neil (who I don't normally agree with) posted a rational and factual reason why the word is universally agreed to be unacceptable.

Not sure where this thread can go now. Hopefully nowhere.

 

5th Jan 2012 - 5:52pm
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Too Hot wrote:

I believe that the following terms and conditions of this Site have been breached in this thread:

"Refrain from all expressions of bigotry, racism, and homophobia."

The N word is not acceptable in this country and any attempt to justify its use is racist.

What started in this thread as a debate about the actions of a football Club has descended into people questioning the context and use of a word that is universally accepted as a racist and unacceptable to use in this country. I feel sickened and disgusted that anyone could even think that it is any way acceptable.

Starlight - your last post was the final straw for me. I ignored your comments about the black footballers and (the clues being there) but making up stories to justify the continued use of a word that will never again in history be acceptable is outrageous. Neil (who I don't normally agree with) posted a rational and factual reason why the word is universally agreed to be unacceptable.

Not sure where this thread can go now. Hopefully nowhere.


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5th Jan 2012 - 6:17pm
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neilinleeds wrote:

Why is nigger offensive in the mouth of a white person when directed towards someone who's black? Does it really need explaining? Can't believe the question has even come up. It is offensive because historically it has been used as a derogatory term of abuse by white people, asserting their priveleged position in a society that saw black people as inferior, sub-human, useful only as slaves so long as they remained productive, or as a cheap labour force kept in its place by institutionalised psychological and physical violence. You cannot seperate the word from its historical context: it is too loaded with cultural baggage. If blacks choose to use the word themselves by way of redefining its meaning, reclaiming it for themselves, or for shock value that's one thing, but it's another thing altogether in the mouth of a white person in a society that still massively discriminates against none-caucasians on a daily basis at a personal and institutional level. How hard can it be to understand that?

Blue, to answer your specific point that bullying with words is wrong regardless of the words used, you're right, except of course that noone ever got strung up from a tree by a gang of racist thugs above the law for being ginger, or fat, or ugly, or a bit of a cunt, did they? No one ever went halfway round the globe to round up gingers en masse to be transported to the New World as slaves. It is different, and race is directly relevant because of the history of the inreraction between western caucasians and blacks.


thank you Neil in that case Suarez was indeed correct in his terminology

 

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Too Hot wrote:

I believe that the following terms and conditions of this Site have been breached in this thread:

"Refrain from all expressions of bigotry, racism, and homophobia."

The N word is not acceptable in this country and any attempt to justify its use is racist.

What started in this thread as a debate about the actions of a football Club has descended into people questioning the context and use of a word that is universally accepted as a racist and unacceptable to use in this country. I feel sickened and disgusted that anyone could even think that it is any way acceptable.

Starlight - your last post was the final straw for me. I ignored your comments about the black footballers and (the clues being there) but making up stories to justify the continued use of a word that will never again in history be acceptable is outrageous. Neil (who I don't normally agree with) posted a rational and factual reason why the word is universally agreed to be unacceptable.

Not sure where this thread can go now. Hopefully nowhere.


but your wrong and thanks to neils well put point it proves it

sorry hot but your just wrong wrong wrong

and if you think im not i have a pic taken today of a number plate on a mercedes ml that id happily share with you if you care
its N16Ger
go figure that

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i appologise if my coments offended anyone but no story was made up at all.

i may not be able to express myself sometimes in the way that i would like, so for that i appologise. it certainly was not my intention to offend, only to try and give another point of view on things.
i still beleeve that there are two laws in this country and i will not stop thinking that.
the n word is not a word that is illegal to say, it is i thought only wrong when it is aimed at somebody?
as my inability to express myself in the way that i would like, and obviusly have offended peeple here i will quit this thred.

 

5th Jan 2012 - 6:48pm
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As far as I am aware, no one word is taboo, neither is it, by its self, offensive.

Words only become offensive when put in the wrong context, aimed at some one, or used in inappropriate manor or company


I do so hate this,

You must conform to this way of thinking or you are racist

You must agree with global warming or you are a denier

Etc

 

5th Jan 2012 - 9:06pm
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Too Hot wrote:

in what context could it ever be acceptable for you to use the word and why would you want to?


When used as the name of the dog owned by Guy Gibson, and was the mascot of 617 Squadron, who gained the nickname 'Dambusters' after raids on various dams in Germany. The dog died the day before the raids, and it's name was used to confirm the breach of the Dam Guy Gibson had bombed.

So in that context, I feel the word is acceptable, it is a part of the history of the 617 Squadron.

However, when the word is used in a racially derogatory way, then there is no place for it, and I see no reason why a person shouldn't be punished for it.

 

5th Jan 2012 - 9:13pm
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neilinleeds wrote:



Blue, to answer your specific point that bullying with words is wrong regardless of the words used, you're right, except of course that noone ever got strung up from a tree by a gang of racist thugs above the law for being ginger, or fat, or ugly


If that were to happen, Mick Hucknall would be shitting himself.

 

6th Jan 2012 - 1:16am
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[quote="essex34m"]
neilinleeds wrote:



Blue, to answer your specific point that bullying with words is wrong regardless of the words used, you're right, except of course that noone ever got strung up from a tree by a gang of racist thugs above the law for being ginger, or fat, or ugly


I disagree to some extent here neil. People may not get strung up for being fat ginger or even ugly by racists but they sure do by other narrow minded people. Have seen plenty of storys of school kids one of whom was kiled in back alley by other kids for being fat. A tragic case is it any more or less tragic than a racial one, no. I myself was picked on in primary school for having big ears icon_lol.gif At the time I found it most upsetting and I cant imagine that its any worse to be upset by being abused for you ear size than it is to be abused for your race? Being hurt or being offended is universal.

Bluefish2009 wrote:

As far as I am aware, no one word is taboo, neither is it, by its self, offensive.

Words only become offensive when put in the wrong context, aimed at some one, or used in inappropriate manor or company


I do so hate this,

You must conform to this way of thinking or you are racist

You must agree with global warming or you are a denier

Etc


Very interesting what you say Blue. At work over about the last 18 months I have been involved in a few discussions about the kind of topic of this thread and also other political issues such as imigration and other more petty things. I have now heard three times a statement along the lines of "I think this and I cant change that if this makes me a racist than call me a racist, I dont care". That statement has then been almost unanimously agreed with by the small groups in the room normally 5-6 people. Its shows that people are getting annoyed with the silly things such as the original issue of this thread and other things such as haivng to watch every word you say just in case you say one out of place. Not being able to hang christmas decoartions in certain parts of the country (myth or legend I dont know but people belive it) or one I know to be true a car park owner who was banned from having a picture of a pig on his car park sign. Buthcer not being able to hang pigs in the window in certain areas? This is the kind of thing myth or not thats gets peoples backs up and it needs adressing. I dont think for one moment it will casue any immediate problem but things that boil under the surface for too long can one day have nasty overspill icon_sad.gif

 

6th Jan 2012 - 11:07am
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Bluefish2009 wrote:

As far as I am aware, no one word is taboo, neither is it, by its self, offensive.

Words only become offensive when put in the wrong context, aimed at some one, or used in inappropriate manor or company


I do so hate this,

You must conform to this way of thinking or you are racist

You must agree with global warming or you are a denier

Etc



I'm sorry but I really did think we had managed to move on from certain words. Words on there own are very emotional.

Would you consider calling anyone, in any context...NIG NOG !!
Would you consider calling anyone, in any context...WOG !!
Would you consider calling anyone, in any context...Spastic !!
Would you consider calling anyone, in any context...puffter !!

All these words were used common place in the 60's and 70's. I hope as a society we have moved on, things change. Words and their meanings change !!
I mean if you see a happy person, smiling and dancing, you don't say OMG your gay today !! Maybe you don't think certain words are offensive, but if you know others may, surely you would have the respect not to use them.

 

6th Jan 2012 - 3:12pm
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deancannock wrote:

Bluefish2009 wrote:

As far as I am aware, no one word is taboo, neither is it, by its self, offensive.

Words only become offensive when put in the wrong context, aimed at some one, or used in inappropriate manor or company


I do so hate this,

You must conform to this way of thinking or you are racist

You must agree with global warming or you are a denier

Etc



I'm sorry but I really did think we had managed to move on from certain words. Words on there own are very emotional.

Would you consider calling anyone, in any context...NIG NOG !!
Would you consider calling anyone, in any context...WOG !!
Would you consider calling anyone, in any context...Spastic !!
Would you consider calling anyone, in any context...puffter !!

All these words were used common place in the 60's and 70's. I hope as a society we have moved on, things change. Words and their meanings change !!
I mean if you see a happy person, smiling and dancing, you don't say OMG your gay today !! Maybe you don't think certain words are offensive, but if you know others may, surely you would have the respect not to use them.


I thought I had made that quite clear, sorry if I did not. See above in red. As stated above I would not aim these words at any one, any more than I would call them a cunt or bastard. However, they are just words, and used in context, say in a book from the time or writing about that time, then they could well be required and used. They are not taboo

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essex34m wrote:

neilinleeds wrote:



Blue, to answer your specific point that bullying with words is wrong regardless of the words used, you're right, except of course that noone ever got strung up from a tree by a gang of racist thugs above the law for being ginger, or fat, or ugly


I disagree to some extent here neil. People may not get strung up for being fat ginger or even ugly by racists but they sure do by other narrow minded people. Have seen plenty of storys of school kids one of whom was kiled in back alley by other kids for being fat. A tragic case is it any more or less tragic than a racial one, no. I myself was picked on in primary school for having big ears icon_lol.gif At the time I found it most upsetting and I cant imagine that its any worse to be upset by being abused for you ear size than it is to be abused for your race? Being hurt or being offended is universal.

Bluefish2009 wrote:

As far as I am aware, no one word is taboo, neither is it, by its self, offensive.

Words only become offensive when put in the wrong context, aimed at some one, or used in inappropriate manor or company


I do so hate this,

You must conform to this way of thinking or you are racist

You must agree with global warming or you are a denier

Etc


Very interesting what you say Blue. At work over about the last 18 months I have been involved in a few discussions about the kind of topic of this thread and also other political issues such as imigration and other more petty things. I have now heard three times a statement along the lines of "I think this and I cant change that if this makes me a racist than call me a racist, I dont care". That statement has then been almost unanimously agreed with by the small groups in the room normally 5-6 people. Its shows that people are getting annoyed with the silly things such as the original issue of this thread and other things such as haivng to watch every word you say just in case you say one out of place. Not being able to hang christmas decoartions in certain parts of the country (myth or legend I dont know but people belive it) or one I know to be true a car park owner who was banned from having a picture of a pig on his car park sign. Buthcer not being able to hang pigs in the window in certain areas? This is the kind of thing myth or not thats gets peoples backs up and it needs adressing. I dont think for one moment it will casue any immediate problem but things that boil under the surface for too long can one day have nasty overspill icon_sad.gif


You make some very valid points, i actually fear such debates in many ways, I am not the best with words and they are so easily twisted by others

 

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deancannock wrote:

Would you consider calling anyone, in any context...Spastic !!


Yes.........if used in the correct context. India still has the Spastic Society that is a charity.

Now one I didn't know is that the derogatory term Spastic has grown out of fashion due to campaigning by Scope. Now spastic has been replaced by Scope or Scopey to mean the new insult in the 2000's. Have to admit that I have not heard it being used though...........but there again I do not hang around kids to listen to slang

Dave_Notts

 

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