I can see both sides...
If you've never had it you wont miss it but...
You see others with something and wish you had a special something of your own so pine for it..
Better to have loved and lost
You have loved (who/whatever) so you have the experience and the memories that will last forever but....
Once its gone you have an emptiness that is hard to fill..
Basically what I'm saying is I haven't a fekin clue :lol2:
I loved and I lost and it still fecking hurts like a bitch :cry:
I dont do loss at all....of people or things.....totally freaks me out....so I would opt for...what you havent had you dont miss every time!!
Well I think you are happy at the time so it's nice to have had that even if it's soured later. And you wouldn't be the person you are without the experiences you have been through.
So in my case - I had a couple of relationships that ended badly in the last year - I don't regret the decisions I made. I am who I am because of the difficult bits and I went into work with a smile on my face many times when things were good!
I think it is better to have loved and lost.
Anyone who I loved, I gained something from them, and took it with me. So I haven't really lost at all.
Life on a flat road would soon get boring and without a few ups and downs wouldn't things get dull. Parting with something you love, be it an object or a person, is truly heart wrenching but if you never loved, never experienced the exhilaration ( especially of someone loving you back ) you really haven't experience all that life has to offer! And life truly is too short -- so take that jump !! feet first !! or you can never truly say you have lived.
Definitely better to have loved and lost !!!!
Looks like I am on my own then.....
although I lost my dad 14 years ago to MRSA he caught in hospital (he was only 53 and I was 21) I appreciate every single second I was allowed with him, and wouldnt have had it any other way, so I suppose that makes me grateful to have loved and lost.....not making much sense am I??
I just think that I am too much of a chicken to face feelings of pain I think!
this subject can have an endless discussion. as to love is the human thing to do... to have lost can be heartbraking, but we move on and have to get on with our lives.
i have loved and then lost, granted both factors are a thing we crave and disgust, falling in love with someone i have done and am in @ mo in time. knows its wrong too. but feelings expressed can hurt and cause severe pain. i kno my words are gobbly . but to put it in one term... we have partners fer life.. or so it says. the lost bit,, we do get over.
The mistake here is in the word 'loved', past tense...there is no past tense with love. I'm afraid it is a life sentence. I spent almost five decades thinking I knew what love was: wrong...oh, so very wrong.
Nothing prepared me for the gut-wrenching agony and deep despair it brought.
Nothing can assuage the burning loss I still feel, and always will.
Nothing can fill the hole she left.
Nothing can explain the sheer disbelief when she went.
But, nothing will ever take away the closeness, the passion, the simple sense of being as one with somebody...knowing what they thought before they did, tingling when your eyes met, lying together in absaloute peace, eating together with eyes locked, souls entwined and everything that ever was summed up in a kiss...
No, to have never known that would have been a tragedy.
It is indeed better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.
Believe me, I know.
My mate once sent me this....and I think its appropriate to add it to this thread, so that others may take whatever they wish from it, or send it to someone they care about.
People
come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually
to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide
you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may
seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our
need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because
your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME
relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things
you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson,
love the person and put what you have
learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you
were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
Loved and lost, every time and without question.
We learn. It hurts. We grow. We heal. It hurts. We change. We remember.
Without loving and losing life would be a poorer place, think of all the music, poetry, art that has been created as a result of the emotion of loss, of grief, of love ended.
Winchwench, :therethere: it will get easier and you will always have your memories.
Nola x
It is always better to have experienced something briefly, be it good or bad than not to have experienced it. It is the knocks and kisses that life passes our way that make us the people we are.
No experiences, no person just a grey dull humaniod
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either but hey, was it good? Could you really live without the memory? 
