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It's very special my F :!: St3v3 gave it to me :smug:
If F is code for foofoo, he gave you the wrong bloody size
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Stormwalker
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Bisexual Female, 61
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Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
When I say I don’t care, I mean it’s none of my business who he meets or who meets him. It is for the people involved to decide where their consciences lie, and to act on it. The fact he made the post suggests he is looking for some kind of acceptance from the reader (me in this case) he will not get it from me because I disagree with the idea of cheating.
So do a lot of other people, but I am lucky enough to be in a marriage (like you and a lot of others on this site) where both of us want to be in this lifestyle. I have not been in the situation of the poster and dont know his particular circumstances, so I do not find myself in a position to be able to judge him. Also, I am not sure why I should judge him. He has stated he is married, so this gives people the chance to decide if they want to meet or otherwise. He was giving his point of view and did not ask for any kind of acceptance (well, if he did, Im very sorry Stormy but I can see where he did ask for it)
I don’t know his situation either, only what he has told us. He is married and he is actively looking to deceive and cheat on his wife. If you feel it’s wrong to judge him on that, that is your choice, we can only judge on the evidence we have. He has given people the choice to decide if they want to meet him that’s good too, unless you are the wife. As I said by posting he was asking for opinions and therefore either acceptance or condemnation, Otherwise why post?
Quote by Stormwalker
As for pulling his post apart and adding my views, It happens every day on this and every other forum I read, that is what forums do, people post, people respond, what makes this post any different?
What makes it different? Probably because you stated you didnt care but then took the trouble to give your response. You have now explained what you meant by that and it was more that you dont care who he meets rather than you dont care about the situation.
I personally don’t care who you meet or who meets you, that is for you and them to be comfortable with, I don’t care what your marriage troubles are, they are between you and your wife, but I do care when you come looking for absolution from me....you won't get it.
Sort out your marriage one way or the other, then start swinging.
I think it was always perfectly clear what I said and what I was saying, I think you may have misread it and responded based on that misreading.
Quote by Stormwalker
Harsh? Yes it was harsh…maybe harsh enough to make someone think very carefully before they make a choice that could wreck at least two lives, maybe more
But you dont know for definate that it is going to wreck someones lives. Ok, the chances are that it could but you dont know that for definate, and I would like to think that people do know the possible consequences of their decisions, but again, we dont know and is this any of our business?
No, I don’t know for definite it will wreck anyone’s life, but cheating lying and deceiving are all right up there in the field guide to strengthening your marriage are they?
We both know that once this path is taken the chances of anything but misery are slim.
It is our business because he chose to make it our business, you don’t post your dirty washing in a public forum and expect no one to have, and voice, an opinion.
Being realistic, it has nothing to do with you, me or anyone else what is going on. As swingers we are doing things which a lot of people could class as imorral and we (well, me) would not like it if people judged me on what I did. Therefore, I dont feel that any of us have the right to judge others on their actions, just because it is something that we would not want to participate in ourselves. I dont think I am so high and mighty that I can put myself in someone elses shoes until I have actually worn them myself.
As I said, I don’t care who he meets or who meets him they have a choice, we have a choice to meet him or not, you have a choice to meet him or not, everyone has a choice, unless you are his wife who has no choice at all.
Think carefully about what you have just said
“Therefore, I dont feel that any of us have the right to judge others on their actions, just because it is something that we would not want to participate in
We really should not judge people by their actions? Not cheats, not thieves, not murderers, not rapists, not……. You see my point? We judge people all the time, just as you judged my words to be harsh.
Right my views expressed, I leave it to everyone else now.
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
I personally don’t care who you meet or who meets you, that is for you and them to be comfortable with, I don’t care what your marriage troubles are, they are between you and your wife, but I do care when you come looking for absolution from me....you won't get it.
Sort out you marriage one way or the other,then start swinging.
If you dont care, why bother pulling his post apart and adding your views? Also, I am struggling to see where in his post he has asked for your absolution. Very harsh reply considering, as you say, you dont care who meets with the guy.
When I say I don’t care, I mean it’s none of my business who he meets or who meets him. It is for the people involved to decide where their consciences lie, and to act on it. The fact he made the post suggests he is looking for some kind of acceptance from the reader (me in this case) he will not get it from me because I disagree with the idea of cheating.
As for pulling his post apart and adding my views, It happens every day on this and every other forum I read, that is what forums do, people post, people respond, what makes this post any different?
Harsh? Yes it was harsh…maybe harsh enough to make someone think very carefully before they make a choice that could wreck at least two lives, maybe more
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Cfnmaction wrote:
I'm a married man who has made contact with several Members albeit failing totally to even engage in a conversation But that's possibly due to my 'preference' in terms of what I am looking for right now...
I totally agree that Swinger's engage in a lifestyle that cannot be compared to what men like me have done - or, in my case, are attempting to do. If I ever do get to meet someone and fulfill my fantasy desire,I will have cheated on my wife.,
Then why look to fulfil your fantasy and desire on a swinging site?
The fact that I believe my marriage conditions at present warrant such an act is for my conscience alone, the details of which I am not prepared to go into.
the phrase "at present" suggests you have some hope that things will change, that the marriage is salvageable. If true, why risk everything for the sake of a fantasy?
I would not wish to meet anyone who is not aware of my situation and as such I clearly state that I am married in my Profile and advertise the fact that I am not here with permission.
So you are being honest and above board with everyone then, except your wife.
It is my situation that actually makes me seek a little erotic distraction that, ideally, does not involve intercourse. But for me to have my fun in this case generally comes across as being selfish as the needs to the Lady are ignored, which isn't fair, and hence my view that I may exceed my ideal scenario if mutually agreeable.
So you don't want to have sex with the lady, but will force yourself just to please her..thats very noble of you..
I guess in my case I'm trying to engage in a little light erotic teasing without the full sexual experience precisely because I am looking to cheat and I want to minimise the cheating in the event that my marriage comes right.
So you want to cheat, but just a bit, because things may work out in the end. How about working things out in the beginning and not cheating at all.
Of course, a Swinging site is possibly not the best place to seek this as I have learnt that the majority of you appear to take the Swinging Lifestyle seriously and good on you - I wish my wife could see that this is a lifestyle that can enhance a relationship! But I would never attempt to try and make her try something she isn't comfortable with.
Seriously, have you asked her? yes some take it very seriously, me I don't, but I do take honesty to my wife seriously and I think you should give it a try before you do something that may wreck your marriage beyond all redemption.
Anyway, just my 2p.
my 2p
I'm sorry if the above sounds harsh, but it sounds to me like you’re looking for some fun away from home and you’re trying to justify your choice to everyone including yourself. Dawn said your post was honest, maybe it was to a site full of strangers; honest to everyone except the one person you should be honest with.
I personally don’t care who you meet or who meets you, that is for you and them to be comfortable with, I don’t care what your marriage troubles are, they are between you and your wife, but I do care when you come looking for absolution from me....you won't get it.
Sort out you marriage one way or the other,then start swinging.
Quote by firelizard
Mar said......Um, I think it kind of happened at a swinging club, and I was really and I mean really turned on by watching other couples then watching Jay with another woman and it was round about then that I thought.. yes I quite like this.
I think that sort of answers it?
I get turned on just thinking about Stormy with another woman, I don't even have to see it
Although it's great when I do
How odd,:shock: I get turned on thinking about me and another woman too
Yes, I am proud to be British. Not just English, not just Welsh, not just Scottish or just Irish, I have them all in a generation or so and yes Swedish too. I'm proud to be British, I may bask in her glory without ever having had to lift a finger to help her and I may hang my head in shame at some of her worst excesses, but on the whole she has made the world a better place today than it would have been without her, and that is something worth having a little pride in.
Besides, who’d want to be Johnny bloody foreigner anyway?
Besides, who’d want to be Johnny bloody foreigner anyway?
Quote by Phuckers
this is the reason why i posted a thread about tongue in cheek this morning because i dont think the OP, had any intention to offend or generalise,she might have expected men to come up with funny excuses why we avoid the gym,i strongly feel this issue has been misinterpretated and taken far out of concept,below is her first reply...
Just because something was said tongue-in-cheek does not confer on it an automatic ability to not offend.
Perhaps you would prefer a series of black jokes based on the number of ads requesting well-hung black guys?
thats absolutely stupid thing to say,do you have to use my race to put such a pathetic excuse on your defence...am sorry MODs if you turn a blind eye at this you must have a lot to answer for am absolutely disgusted with your abusive remarks,despite the way things are going on this forum i didnt expect such foul language...i demand a public apologise.
:x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x there was no need for thatWhat abusive, disgusting and foul language are you talking about?
Quote by jaymar
I am definitely carrying a few extra pounds these days and I think maybe Stormy is toohavnt really noticed. What I do notice though is he's sexy, funny, modest and very good company. (See Stormy! I do notice all that when I'm not asleep!)
I tend to like people who have a little weight on and feel drawn to them just like others are drawn to bigger boobs, pert bums etc etc. It's a personal choice thing.
I wouldnt dream of asking someone else to change for me and I think it would be very rude and egotistical of me to even assume they might want to.
The place in my opinion to display your personal choice (especially if you want people to change to meet it) is in your profile rather than the forum.
Welcome to the forum
You forgot hung like a horse and a veritable love god....but I'm glad you mentioned modest though, that's me to a tee.
:scared:
Sorry did I say Horse, I meant Hamster...
Quote by firelizard
I am definitely carrying a few extra pounds these days and I think maybe Stormy is too
I tend to like people who have a little weight on and feel drawn to them just like others are drawn to bigger boobs, pert bums etc etc. It's a personal choice thing.
I wouldnt dream of asking someone else to change for me and I think it would be very rude and egotistical of me to even assume they might want to.
The place in my opinion to display your personal choice (especially if you want people to change to meet it) is in your profile rather than the forum.
Welcome to the forum
You forgot hung like a horse and a veritable love god....but I'm glad you mentioned modest though, that's me to a tee.
Quote by Lost
There are lots of sausages of different sorts in the market but do you have a favourite? And if you had the chance to invent one of your own say with 2 or 3 things in it what would they be?
I think my favourite sausage is a Toulouse sausage overall. My choice in making up a sausage would be a pork with cauliflower cheese sausage! It might be nice you never know
Our local butcher used to make the most fabulous Tomato sausages....yummmy!
sadly I'm the only one in the family that likes sausages much...still on the plus side more for me
If I made one, it would have to have a bit of heat and spice....maybe tomato and chilli.
Quote by splendid_
happy birthday lover...
I know that I missed it. I was distracted by wor lass.
I am truly sorry and I owe you something. I don't have corn plasters or blow jobs... mmmmm what about I lend you wor lass? :twisted:
(I am knackered and I can't keep up with her- you will be doing me a favour)
Are you sure that is wise? I may turn her from the pure ways of lesbianism to the Dark Side of Bisexuality......
... well it could happen
You young-uns no staying power
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Thanks everyone I don't deserve to have such good people I hardly know at all being so kind. :cheers:
if you're even remotely thinking of including me in that gushing sentiment... I'll take mine back again!
lp
it's ok, I didn't unwrap it this time, so you can just change the tags.
