I will wear what I feel comfortable and presentable in it all comes off anyway.
Guys have asked if I dress to impress and I have said no.
Once I have arranged to meet someone I should not have to impress them, I would think I have done that already by them wanting to meet.
I have on follow up meets but only because it was not expected.
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Theladyisaminx
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 62
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Quote by Poppyhoney
Rome - an incredible amount of beauty, history and culture packed into one smallish hectic, chaotic dirty busy city.
Paris - the most elegant place I've been to. Beautiful and dignified.
The Lake District has absolutely unparalleled scenery. It's wild and rugged but still somehow cosy and friendly.
Hi poppy welcome to the forums
I was allowed to have my boyfriend stay over who is now my husband but he was only ever allowed to sleep in my brother’s room or on the sofa. I would treat mine the same way if and when they ask.
We were allowed upstairs to watch TV I remember one day we were watching TV we were dressed but messing about laughing on the bed.
We never heard my dad coming up the stairs, he just walked in and threw a cup of water over us.
And said there you go son that should cool you down. I was 19 and hubby 21
We still laugh about it.
We were allowed upstairs to watch TV I remember one day we were watching TV we were dressed but messing about laughing on the bed.
We never heard my dad coming up the stairs, he just walked in and threw a cup of water over us.
And said there you go son that should cool you down. I was 19 and hubby 21
We still laugh about it.
While walking down the street one day a female senator is tragically hit by a truck and dies. Her soul arrives in heaven and is met by St. Peter at the entrance. "Welcome to Heaven," says St. Peter. "Before you settle in, it seems there is a problem. We seldom see a high official around these parts, you see, so we're not sure what to do with you."
"No problem, just let me in," says the lady. "Well, I'd like to but I have orders from higher up. What we'll do is have you spend one day in Hell and one in Heaven. Then you can choose where to spend eternity."
"Really, I've made up my mind. I want to be in Heaven," says the senator.
"I'm sorry but we have our rules.." And with that, St. Peter escorts her to the elevator and she goes down, down, down to Hell. The doors open and she finds herself in the middle of a green golf course.. In the distance is a club and standing in front of it are all her friends and other politicians who had worked with her, everyone is very happy and in evening dress.
They run to greet her, hug her, and reminisce about the good times they had while getting rich at expense of the people. They play a friendly game of golf and then dine on lobster and caviar. Also present is the Devil, who really is a very friendly guy who has a good time dancing and telling jokes.
They are having such a good time that, before she realizes it, it is time to go. Everyone gives her a big hug and waves while the elevator rises.
The elevator goes up, up, up and the door reopens on Heaven where St. Peter is waiting for her.
"Now it's time to visit Heaven." So 24 hours pass with the senator joining a group of contented souls moving from cloud to cloud, playing the harp and singing. They have a good time and, before she realizes it, the 24 hours have gone by and St. Peter returns.
"Well then, you've spent a day in Hell and another in Heaven. Now choose your eternity." She reflects for a minute, then the senator answers: "Well, I would never have said it, I mean Heaven has been delightful, but I think I would be better off in Hell."
So Saint Peter escorts her to the elevator and she goes down, down, down to Hell. Now the doors of the elevator open and she is in the middle of a barren land covered with waste and garbage. She sees all her friends, dressed in rags, picking up the trash and putting it in black bags. The Devil comes over to her and lays his arm on her neck. "I don't understand," stammers the senator. "Yesterday I was here and there was a golf course and club and we ate lobster and caviar and danced and had a great time. Now all there is a wasteland full of garbage and my friends look miserable.
The Devil looks at her, smiles and says, "Yesterday we were campaigning. Today you voted for us!"
"No problem, just let me in," says the lady. "Well, I'd like to but I have orders from higher up. What we'll do is have you spend one day in Hell and one in Heaven. Then you can choose where to spend eternity."
"Really, I've made up my mind. I want to be in Heaven," says the senator.
"I'm sorry but we have our rules.." And with that, St. Peter escorts her to the elevator and she goes down, down, down to Hell. The doors open and she finds herself in the middle of a green golf course.. In the distance is a club and standing in front of it are all her friends and other politicians who had worked with her, everyone is very happy and in evening dress.
They run to greet her, hug her, and reminisce about the good times they had while getting rich at expense of the people. They play a friendly game of golf and then dine on lobster and caviar. Also present is the Devil, who really is a very friendly guy who has a good time dancing and telling jokes.
They are having such a good time that, before she realizes it, it is time to go. Everyone gives her a big hug and waves while the elevator rises.
The elevator goes up, up, up and the door reopens on Heaven where St. Peter is waiting for her.
"Now it's time to visit Heaven." So 24 hours pass with the senator joining a group of contented souls moving from cloud to cloud, playing the harp and singing. They have a good time and, before she realizes it, the 24 hours have gone by and St. Peter returns.
"Well then, you've spent a day in Hell and another in Heaven. Now choose your eternity." She reflects for a minute, then the senator answers: "Well, I would never have said it, I mean Heaven has been delightful, but I think I would be better off in Hell."
So Saint Peter escorts her to the elevator and she goes down, down, down to Hell. Now the doors of the elevator open and she is in the middle of a barren land covered with waste and garbage. She sees all her friends, dressed in rags, picking up the trash and putting it in black bags. The Devil comes over to her and lays his arm on her neck. "I don't understand," stammers the senator. "Yesterday I was here and there was a golf course and club and we ate lobster and caviar and danced and had a great time. Now all there is a wasteland full of garbage and my friends look miserable.
The Devil looks at her, smiles and says, "Yesterday we were campaigning. Today you voted for us!"
I would love to travel and see new places to take in the feeling of the history and culture of different countries, and to be able to see some magnificent sights.
I haven’t travelling very far outside of the British Isles but some of my favourite places here, are
Cornwall: For its quaint fishing harbours with cobble stone streets where I can imagine the smugglers running up them with their stash of loot.
Highlands of Scotland: For the barren landscape of rolling mountains with the heather growing and the sheep graving on one side and the other with the lush greenness surrounding Loch Lomond.
The Channel Islands Jersey, Guernsey, Alderney, and Sark: The rugged coastlines and cliff tops walks breathe taking views.
What Country and places have you seen that you have enjoyed?
I haven’t travelling very far outside of the British Isles but some of my favourite places here, are
Cornwall: For its quaint fishing harbours with cobble stone streets where I can imagine the smugglers running up them with their stash of loot.
Highlands of Scotland: For the barren landscape of rolling mountains with the heather growing and the sheep graving on one side and the other with the lush greenness surrounding Loch Lomond.
The Channel Islands Jersey, Guernsey, Alderney, and Sark: The rugged coastlines and cliff tops walks breathe taking views.
What Country and places have you seen that you have enjoyed?
It seems in this place that suppose to be open and honest and accepting of people no matter what, that just doesn't seem to be the case with some here.
I had faith when coming here that people were accepting, forgiven, and thoughtful of others.
Some people here are great loving. kind, generous and true.
But there always seem some that like to control these forums the way they like them, I find that underminds a lot of new people that were coming through with new thoughts and ideas of mixed topics.
Well I have done the playground when I was at school, I like to talk to adults with open views that I can learn from and that could teach me something I don't know.
I have met a lot of these people here and I would like to hug and kiss you all.
Stay in touch I still have my account I would not like to lose touch, you mean to much to me and have helped me come so far.
But I am away to continue my journey of discovery elsewhere, thanks for listening to my ramblings take care all and have fun
Minx
xxx
I had faith when coming here that people were accepting, forgiven, and thoughtful of others.
Some people here are great loving. kind, generous and true.
But there always seem some that like to control these forums the way they like them, I find that underminds a lot of new people that were coming through with new thoughts and ideas of mixed topics.
Well I have done the playground when I was at school, I like to talk to adults with open views that I can learn from and that could teach me something I don't know.
I have met a lot of these people here and I would like to hug and kiss you all.
Stay in touch I still have my account I would not like to lose touch, you mean to much to me and have helped me come so far.
But I am away to continue my journey of discovery elsewhere, thanks for listening to my ramblings take care all and have fun
Minx
xxx
Quote by kentswingers777
I think in this case justice has been served.
The guy was caught, tried and convicted. He has recieved a prison sentence.
What more do you want?
Oh , sorry, looks like only a lynching would appease some!!!!!
Well how did I know that your good self would have that attitude.
Funny...........I bet that if that had been your family, no doubt you would still have been happy with that verdict? Somehow guessing, you would be a tad more angry.
Still it's done and the vast majority of people agree that his sentence was a joke. Do you really think, in all honesty, that 3 months jail for each killing is justice? I presume you do indeed sir, with your above comment.
Have a little peep at those kids faces, and tell me if those poor lives lost, are only worth three months a pop.
777 you said he "pop" that sounds a little like he shot them with a gun. That would be intent and should be dealt with accordingly.
This was an accident there was no intent a tragic accident.
Should taking a life with intent or without be dealt with the same way?
Quote by Calista
Just because we suffer doesnt mean everyone has to.
I'm not sure if you mean that to me or are just having a dig at Mr Powers, if it's me then I'd like you to PM me.
I don't think Minxy was having a go at anyone. My perception of what she said is that even in her own darkest hour she found the strength to give comfort to a friend who was feeling guilty because sbe had a healthy baby whereas Minxy had very sadly lost hers.
And I for one think that was a very wonderful thing to do
The implication in these posts is that because one particular person can do something, it's a measure that everyone should be able too!
No-one is implying that everyone 'should be able to' at all.
So why comment or call someone heartless when someone says they feel nothing?
Some people don't have the strength to carry anything other than their own personal feelings!
I didn't, I was saying that I thoughtit was wonderful that Minxy was able to find the strength to be able to do so in her own time of need. Does not in any way mean that I think that everyone is capable of that
I never said you did, but Minxy and others have!
I have never called anyone heartless, least of all people I do not know.
Quote by Calista
Just because we suffer doesnt mean everyone has to.
I'm not sure if you mean that to me or are just having a dig at Mr Powers, if it's me then I'd like you to PM me.
I don't think Minxy was having a go at anyone. My perception of what she said is that even in her own darkest hour she found the strength to give comfort to a friend who was feeling guilty because sbe had a healthy baby whereas Minxy had very sadly lost hers.
And I for one think that was a very wonderful thing to do
The implication in these posts is that because one particular person can do something, it's a measure that everyone should be able too!
You have to read my whole post there to take it into perspective that part is just the end to the rest.
I don’t think through any of my threads or posts you will see I have implied anything, I have always written about my own experiences for others to read. I know in that way I bare myself, something I am not afraid in doing, I have also admitted in threads my thoughts are unjust or wrong but I don’t see right or wrong.
I think some people could read anything into what we write, finding implication where there is none
Quote by fluff_n_stuff
I know exactly where you are coming from minxy. I find it very easy to forgive and forget, but find that some people (not many) do not seem to have that capacity. I don't know if it's a pride thing with them but I find it very frustrating and saddening. A little bit of me never recovers from a snub and refusal to forgive from someone I thought was a friend.
Fluff you have hit the nail on the head, I feel frustrated and sad, maybe it isn't guilt.
Is there a differance?
Guilt is what you feel when you have done something wrong, or haven't done something that you should have. When you try to make amends for that wrong and it is rejected, I don't think what you feel is more guilt. We are all human and make mistakes. You may feel frustration that person concerned has no capacity for listening and perhaps forgiving, and sadness that you cannot make them feel better. They are also human and that is their mistake.
Life is far too short to waste time on petty grievances that could be forgotten or learned from. There are more fish in the sea, but I value friends and grieve for those that become lost to me. If they want to be lost to you, let them go and move on, but I know it is hard.
It is hard when it is a friend and now is my brothers partner, I helped her through hard times. I helped her move twice I decorated her place for her, I had her children while she and my brother had time together.
I forgot about a dinner date as my children had a busy day I was wrapped up with them, and I have never been forgiven, three times I have apologised and then at a family BBQ I put my arms around her kissed her to get shrugged off and not even spoken to. It was at this point something in me died.
I feel I have not just lost a friend but a brother too who I was there for during an awful divorce.
A few months after she had a very sad time, I was asked to call her, I just could not bring myself to do it, I felt I would feel the wrath of her pain, I was a coward and for that I feel guilty.
But the only positive I can pull from it is that they have each other and are happy, so feel if that was the reason I was her friend for such a short time, it is a sacrifice I am willing to pay.
Quote by jaymar
I don't know her,she's not part of my life...i feel nothing for her!
Such a heartless nasty thought to be honest.
I thought better of you than that if honest.
Blimey I thought I was " hard faced ".
what...so i feel nothing for her...why so wrong with that...she don't know me,i don't know her...
its called empathy for another human being!!!!
well i'm all out of empathy.
some don't have it to begin with.
So???
Not that I agree with his statement, but it is Mr Powers' opinion, just like everyone else's.
Please let everyone have their say on this thread whether or not you agree with what they have to say.
Jay I was making a point that some don't have it, it is not something you run out of I don't believe.
My friends son has autism he doesnt have it.
I do think it is funny you jumped on my back as I feel I am one of the few people here that never picks people up for their views or attacks anyone for theirs.
I just state my own and leave others to do the same
ffs, I wasn't referring to you.
But you quoted me and said "so" etc
It just looked that way to me.
Quote by fluff_n_stuff
I know exactly where you are coming from minxy. I find it very easy to forgive and forget, but find that some people (not many) do not seem to have that capacity. I don't know if it's a pride thing with them but I find it very frustrating and saddening. A little bit of me never recovers from a snub and refusal to forgive from someone I thought was a friend.
Fluff you have hit the nail on the head, I feel frustrated and sad, maybe it isn't guilt.
Is there a differance?
I find it easy to forgive people but there comes a point in me that I can be unforgiving, I can give three chances to people and I would always apologise for things I have done if I feel I have caused upset or even for things I don’t feel I have caused.
But if I still feel I am not forgiven something dies within me it is like a candle being blow out it never gets relit.
I don’t like myself when this happens and I feel guilty and generally I know it is unjust guilt but I can not help feeling it.
Why then do I carry guilt?
I have never understood this part of me.
But if I still feel I am not forgiven something dies within me it is like a candle being blow out it never gets relit.
I don’t like myself when this happens and I feel guilty and generally I know it is unjust guilt but I can not help feeling it.
Why then do I carry guilt?
I have never understood this part of me.
Quote by jaymar
I don't know her,she's not part of my life...i feel nothing for her!
Such a heartless nasty thought to be honest.
I thought better of you than that if honest.
Blimey I thought I was " hard faced ".
what...so i feel nothing for her...why so wrong with that...she don't know me,i don't know her...
its called empathy for another human being!!!!
well i'm all out of empathy.
some don't have it to begin with.
So???
Not that I agree with his statement, but it is Mr Powers' opinion, just like everyone else's.
Please let everyone have their say on this thread whether or not you agree with what they have to say.
Jay I was making a point that some don't have it, it is not something you run out of I don't believe.
My friends son has autism he doesnt have it.
I do think it is funny you jumped on my back as I feel I am one of the few people here that never picks people up for their views or attacks anyone for theirs.
I just state my own and leave others to do the same
I have been on the site as the date <<<<<<<< over there says, but I am a newbie in the forums I posted my first thread on the 19th feb 2008 so not even a year yet :shock:
I just looked back scary don't ever look back
I feel like I have been here for years
And judging by my total posts I need to get a life
I just looked back scary don't ever look back
I feel like I have been here for years
And judging by my total posts I need to get a life
Quote by Mr-Powers
I don't know her,she's not part of my life...i feel nothing for her!
I kinda know what you mean!
I do feel sorry for Jade and I am quite saddened, particularly at the vitriole aimed at her on some websites. I don't particularly like or dislike Jade, but it's not something anyone should be told, regardless of being in the public eye or not.
I feel very much like you do when I hear of children with terminal illnesses, but from a different angle. We have a child in our family who has battled with leukaemia, we nearly lost her and she ended up within months of death, we were lucky and she had a bone marrow that has saved her life and 'cured' her.
There are children from the ward that didn't make it and I can't feel anything for them! If I did then I would be a constant wreck. I'm hardened to children dying and so hearing about such means nothing to me.
I'm not lacking in empathy or feeling, I deal with it my way, some people protect their feelings and therefore don't react with the hysteria, others come into their own during family illness etc.
thank you...someone who actually know's where i was coming from on this one!
I have lost three babies, I still have feelings for others.
I have a mother battling cancer and a ternally ill dad but that does not stop me feeling for anyone, of course it isnt the heart wrenching feeling of losing one of your own. But it is still a feeling for someone, I would feel the same for an animal. I wouldnt cry over Jade as I would for someone close, but I do still care.
But the day I had my still born daughter just by fluke a friend had a baby in the same hospital I was in and I went and held her daugter and congratulated her. People at the time could not understand how I could do that.
Maybe it is beacuse I never just feel for myself but for others too.
She was feeling guilty she had her baby the same day I wanted her to know not to.
Just because we suffer doesnt mean everyone has to.
Quote by flower411
The reason we don`t answer many messages is cos I`m a rude, mean, ignorant and nasty person.
I have total comtempt for everybody and just can`t be bothered to even give anybody the time of day.
Mrs f can`t be bothered either.
I can be bothered to make a comment to that!
Go on then
:gagged: Quote by Mr-Powers
I don't know her,she's not part of my life...i feel nothing for her!
Such a heartless nasty thought to be honest.
I thought better of you than that if honest.
Blimey I thought I was " hard faced ".
what...so i feel nothing for her...why so wrong with that...she don't know me,i don't know her...
its called empathy for another human being!!!!
well i'm all out of empathy.
some don't have it to begin with.
Quote by splendid_
I have a little yellow Billy (Sally on the weekends). AKA peugeot 107.
He is a couple of years old. Sooooo neat and clean and lovely.. he smiles every morning when I start him up. He has lovely waxed eyebrows and he dresses like a princess at the weekends when I polish and wax him. He likes his carpets to be clean and his boot is always a little scruffy inside.
I love him so very very much that I want to be with him forever.
You have shattered my illusion of you driving a vw beetle :cry:
Quote by blueocean_04
Mr Clifford said Harrods owner Mohamed Al Fayed had given Goody a dress as "a wedding present" and that singer Elton John had offered the use of one of his homes as a venue.
Oh how nice is that!
Mohamed Al Fayed gave a local park to me funds to rebuild its adverture playground for the youths to use in the local area.
He was asked during a visit and came up with a cheque, whatever people think of him, he didn't need to do that. I don't even know if it hit the press.
I have never felt the need to follow fashion or wear make up.
In my daily life you would never see me dressed up with make up. Hope none of you see me going about my daily life, it could be scary.
Jeans and t shirts for me.
O dear I am sounding like a Mum but hey I am proud of that.
I have never been one to get their nails done, I might break one fixing the children’s tyre on their bike.
If I go out for an occasion I dress up and apply a bit of makeup. I like to feel presentable.
I once was questioned and felt judged years ago from my hubby as to why I didn’t dress more like a real woman.
He married me as I have always been, I will never change to please anyone.
He said he loves me more for being me now and realises that make up and looking like a real woman does not change the person that you are.
I guess we all come to an age that our body shape isn’t what it used to be, wrinkles start to appear, I always feel the mind and soul doesn’t change.
Because a person looks good doesn’t always mean they feel good.
In my daily life you would never see me dressed up with make up. Hope none of you see me going about my daily life, it could be scary.
Jeans and t shirts for me.
O dear I am sounding like a Mum but hey I am proud of that.
I have never been one to get their nails done, I might break one fixing the children’s tyre on their bike.
If I go out for an occasion I dress up and apply a bit of makeup. I like to feel presentable.
I once was questioned and felt judged years ago from my hubby as to why I didn’t dress more like a real woman.
He married me as I have always been, I will never change to please anyone.
He said he loves me more for being me now and realises that make up and looking like a real woman does not change the person that you are.
I guess we all come to an age that our body shape isn’t what it used to be, wrinkles start to appear, I always feel the mind and soul doesn’t change.
Because a person looks good doesn’t always mean they feel good.
