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Theladyisaminx
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 62
United Kingdom
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Quote by Sassy-Seren
I've come to the conclusion that you have to be half of a couple to be a swinger.
Also, that you're not a swinger if you're the only one sleeping with other people.
Not sure I agree with the first part the the second point is spot on :thumbup:
But I thought a swinger is a mindset, maybe I am wrong!
sorry sweetie. I hadn't read the previous post correctly at first and edited my reply
Sorry I was a little quick with my response, I totally agree with you now! :thumbup:
Quote by Sassy-Seren
I've come to the conclusion that you have to be half of a couple to be a swinger.
Also, that you're not a swinger if you're the only one sleeping with other people.
Not sure I agree with the first part the the second point is spot on :thumbup:
But I thought a swinger is a mindset, maybe I am wrong!
Quote by Lost
I guess it easier to think of singles as animated sex toys rather than other swingers is that right do you think?
I guess you could say that although as long as you don't mind if that is how they see you both, I guess thats fine. :P
I personally would not want to be seen as a sex toy, but maybe that is how I am seen. I would like to think I am seen as a human with passion, excitement and fun to be around and with, as that is how I have seen the men we have met.
I agree with you lost, well I know hubby would see it from your view, it is mind blowing from him seeing it.
But as you said question do appear when you thought you have talked about every angle, as I said they were our main hiccups mainly built around the fact or what we saw as our own upbringing and beliefs.
I am pleased to say of which we have ironed out, and we see doing this feels right for us. So we are happy to counitue.
After being together 30 years we have found it is just an added element we can from time to time indulge in to heighten our pleasures together and with whomever we invite in to share that with too.
But as you said question do appear when you thought you have talked about every angle, as I said they were our main hiccups mainly built around the fact or what we saw as our own upbringing and beliefs.
I am pleased to say of which we have ironed out, and we see doing this feels right for us. So we are happy to counitue.
After being together 30 years we have found it is just an added element we can from time to time indulge in to heighten our pleasures together and with whomever we invite in to share that with too.
I am a big cricket fan for those that know me
The aussies were out in force in the chat rooms a few weeks ago, I wonder where they have all gone now.
Just hope we can retain them in Australia until then they remain firmly back where they should be! :bounce: :bounce:
The lads could have made it easier for themsleves but we got there in the end.
The aussies were out in force in the chat rooms a few weeks ago, I wonder where they have all gone now.
Just hope we can retain them in Australia until then they remain firmly back where they should be! :bounce: :bounce:
The lads could have made it easier for themsleves but we got there in the end.
This is a very hard question to answer, but I can only talk by my own experience, as the female of a couple.
Firstly the reality from the fantasy is so very different for a number of reasons.
When you have had an mmf as a female the level of excitement is so high, before during and after again for a number of reasons.
The after effects are not known until you try, it is not easy to say before how you will both feel after.
Your partner is right to question this point, and many more besides, the main one being how would you feel after too?
Until you are both are so sure that this will not affect your relationship together by discussing every scenario that may occur, I would say really think about what you are doing.
We are lucky as our communication has always been open and we have been challenged as we have gone along, but we have ironed out all the hiccups some feelings are unforeseen, reassurance together and communication is paramount.
We have lived out some fantasies and very much enjoyed what we have done and will contuine to do so, but it doesn’t take over our lives, just look forward with excitement when we get the chance to meet our friends, which might be a couple of times a year, due to our personal lives being far more important to us.
So all I can say it is up to you both why you want to do this only you have control of how it affects your lives and feel after.
Whatever you decide good luck.
Firstly the reality from the fantasy is so very different for a number of reasons.
When you have had an mmf as a female the level of excitement is so high, before during and after again for a number of reasons.
The after effects are not known until you try, it is not easy to say before how you will both feel after.
Your partner is right to question this point, and many more besides, the main one being how would you feel after too?
Until you are both are so sure that this will not affect your relationship together by discussing every scenario that may occur, I would say really think about what you are doing.
We are lucky as our communication has always been open and we have been challenged as we have gone along, but we have ironed out all the hiccups some feelings are unforeseen, reassurance together and communication is paramount.
We have lived out some fantasies and very much enjoyed what we have done and will contuine to do so, but it doesn’t take over our lives, just look forward with excitement when we get the chance to meet our friends, which might be a couple of times a year, due to our personal lives being far more important to us.
So all I can say it is up to you both why you want to do this only you have control of how it affects your lives and feel after.
Whatever you decide good luck.
It has all kicked off again between Millwall and Westham, why does this happen it is only a game?
I really can not understand the mentality of people that bring violence into sport or any other situation with in life, but to want to cause a fight within sport I just can not understand. Why is it you don’t have violence at cricket or rugby matches, but football always seems to bring out the worse in people at certain games?
I feel ashamed to say this is our national sport, give me cricket any day.
I really can not understand the mentality of people that bring violence into sport or any other situation with in life, but to want to cause a fight within sport I just can not understand. Why is it you don’t have violence at cricket or rugby matches, but football always seems to bring out the worse in people at certain games?
I feel ashamed to say this is our national sport, give me cricket any day.
Quote by Ms_Whips
because minx cheating means you do it behind your partners back without their concent/knowledge. it also means that that person breaks the rules/boundaries of the relationship and the other person is hurt through it.
sex is just sex, but when you have to hide it it means something more no matter how much it's denied. if there is nothing to it then it's easy to tell the truth about it. if you do it knowing your partner will be hurt then shame on you.
whips
I don't do it behind my husbands back
We are both agree to the lifestyle. Boundaries and rules are an expectation that we put on others and ourselves.
Sex is sex.. If you then have feeling for another that is totally different.
I would rather find out my husband had wanted to explore sex with swingers, than to find out he had sex with someone he sees regular as in a place of work for example
I have often thought swinging it a liberated attitude about sex.
To live in a free sexual society where sex is seen as a pleasure within consenting adults to participate in sexual acts that both/all parties consent to.
I have read a lot of peoples post on this over the years and most would say it is a mindset. I agree
So what then baffles me is if swinging is a mindset, how can we call someone that is in a relationship/married etc that participates in the liberal attitude of swinging a cheat?
I thought if we swingers have as we say an open mind, the ability to say we see swinging different from the norm in the vanilla world.
How can we condemn people that are married for wanting to be part of something they too could believe is a mindset, liberal thinkers open minded.
Or is that just justifying that if you have your partners consent it makes it right in your minds.
I would accept anyone into this lifestyle, as if I was to condemn it would be admitting to me I too am doing something unacceptable too.
Interesting to see others thoughts.
Without getting condemned for mine
To live in a free sexual society where sex is seen as a pleasure within consenting adults to participate in sexual acts that both/all parties consent to.
I have read a lot of peoples post on this over the years and most would say it is a mindset. I agree
So what then baffles me is if swinging is a mindset, how can we call someone that is in a relationship/married etc that participates in the liberal attitude of swinging a cheat?
I thought if we swingers have as we say an open mind, the ability to say we see swinging different from the norm in the vanilla world.
How can we condemn people that are married for wanting to be part of something they too could believe is a mindset, liberal thinkers open minded.
Or is that just justifying that if you have your partners consent it makes it right in your minds.
I would accept anyone into this lifestyle, as if I was to condemn it would be admitting to me I too am doing something unacceptable too.
Interesting to see others thoughts.
Without getting condemned for mine
I have had a few problems in this area too, I have emailed a friend when he is online and he said his box does not flash after he has logged on, but then if he logs out and in again it flashes him.
This too has happened to me, if I am online unless I go into my inbox I don't always know by the main page that I have mail.
Hope this makes sense it did to me!
This too has happened to me, if I am online unless I go into my inbox I don't always know by the main page that I have mail.
Hope this makes sense it did to me!
