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Theladyisaminx
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 62
United Kingdom
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Quote by BIoke
I'm not entirely sure I understand the question. Stronger in terms of what?
I think men and women fundamentally experience the same emotions, but there is a difference in the way that men and women express their emotions. However I'm not sure it's a question of being stronger or "being more in touch with your emotions". I think it's just different.
*lover*
I agree.. cool subject by the way, but are we talking about expressing emotions or emotional intelligence?
I think a lot of women tend to be a lot more emotionally intelligent than men - i.e. in terms of their ability, capacity, skill or a self-perceived ability, to identify, assess, and manage the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups ... (not my words - Google Goleman) Even if it’s in a manipulative way – e.g. the late HRH Lady Diana Spencer was a master of this and had the press wrapped around her finger (in my opinion) and was SO clever with how she managed them – that Panaroma interview was class. Then you get the likes of Katie Price right now who’s trying to do it but failing miserably as she lacks the ability, skill and capacity to do it in a mature way. Again, just my opinion.
A lot of men I’ve come across in an emotionally charged situation will argue from a point of thought/logic as opposed to feeling/emotion - hence the ‘men are from mars and women are from venus’ kinda thing. I think society has pre-programmed many men to believe it’s weak to show their emotions, and this goes way, way back. I know there’s also some science/hormone stuff involved that I don’t know anything about which is why some gay men are said to be more in touch with their ‘feminine’ side (and straight ones too I guess).
Off to ponder this some more....
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Bloke I would like to say Thanks on what you have written here, I have often wondered in certain times in my life why I have felt let down by my husband’s reaction to situations.
We have just discussed your point and although guess we both know we are different that way, never really discussed it in the way you have put.
I when undergoing situations in places where I feel no emotional connection I never feel hurt or anger by others, but placed in a situation where there is a emotional connection I can become upset and anger and feel let down normally by my husband whom I have been together with for 30 years and love deeply.
These times are very rare but do occur from time to time, now him realising he treats all situations in a logical and thought way and never it seems in an emotional way as I feel he should is the cause of me feeling let down.
We have decided to put this to the test, as I can think very logical and thoughtful in business like situations and someone that others turn to as strength. I am going to try to use these skills in more personal and emotion situations.
He works only in logic and strength in all situations and is going to try applying emotion and feeling in more personal situations.
So I would like to say thanks for making us see something that is so basic really maybe help us to stop saying you just don’t understand me. Lol
In nearly all areas in our life together we have it so right for us, it was this area I have felt there has been from time to time little grey areas.
I will keep you posted! :thumbup:
I do think most women are stronger in approaching emotional situations and deaaling with them after in a logical way.
Men I feel deal with them in a logical way and hardly ever deal with the emotion so it becomes suppressed and eats away.
This is based on my own expiernaces not just on the way my husband deals with things but most men I know
Quote by Max777
And how do you know he doesn't?...you obviously see things different to me,and we could could go around in circles over and over about this...so we can either agree to disagree or just carry on.
you really need to sort out your quotes..
I don't know he doesn't but I'm not the one making assumptions as to why he posts.
I'm more than happy to agree to disagree....why not employ that tactic with Kent, we may all be pleasantly surprised!
and you're right about those bloody multi quotes!
don't you think that's been tried in the past,on previous "debates".
It has been used in the past, I agree he does always want the last word, maybe sometimes he should agree to disagree and walk away too.
yep, can't argue with that Minx.
Well hopefully he will learn some new tatic's
Can I have my thread unlocked now please!
Maybe others might support me here!
Can we do a sit in protest? :rascal:
Quote by Mr-Powers
And how do you know he doesn't?...you obviously see things different to me,and we could could go around in circles over and over about this...so we can either agree to disagree or just carry on.
you really need to sort out your quotes..
I don't know he doesn't but I'm not the one making assumptions as to why he posts.
I'm more than happy to agree to disagree....why not employ that tactic with Kent, we may all be pleasantly surprised!
and you're right about those bloody multi quotes!
don't you think that's been tried in the past,on previous "debates".
It has been used in the past, I agree he does always want the last word, maybe sometimes he should agree to disagree and walk away too.
Quote by GnV
I feel I have never abused anyone in the forums on a personal assult. but I have felt the victim of some here, I name no names but I just raise above it and carry on regardless.
I just post what I want to say, and very rarely now will I come back in response to people that have responded in my threads.
I just enjoy trying to cause a likely debate as more seems to get reslolved in talking that sitting being quiet in the corner.
I always say in life to, through our hardest times we learn the most too.
So hopefully something new will come out of this, thats if we can all be adult and just respect each other for being different.
So what are you saying there Minx
Have I not made sense again?
Perfect sense minx ... Lost is just being a git
I cant believe you understand me you never understand me, you always say I confuse you, or do I just confuse myself?
Why are you being nice to me, what are you after?
He's after a shag, what else? :giggle:
Nah he sees me as a boy! :shock: shhh dont tell him different.
You will shatter his illusion.
I was talking to a friend last night when we got talking about feelings and emotions.
I was saying to him about how men feel they have to be strong and hide their innermost feelings and how I felt sorry for men in a way.
As a women I think we like to see men be strong when emotions and feelings take over but then I said I think most men I feel are very emotional and just hold it all in.
He said he felt women are much stronger emotionally than men.
He asked if I would conduct a poll to see what others thought.
I was saying to him about how men feel they have to be strong and hide their innermost feelings and how I felt sorry for men in a way.
As a women I think we like to see men be strong when emotions and feelings take over but then I said I think most men I feel are very emotional and just hold it all in.
He said he felt women are much stronger emotionally than men.
He asked if I would conduct a poll to see what others thought.
Quote by flower411
I feel I have never abused anyone in the forums on a personal assult. but I have felt the victim of some here, I name no names but I just raise above it and carry on regardless.
I just post what I want to say, and very rarely now will I come back in response to people that have responded in my threads.
I just enjoy trying to cause a likely debate as more seems to get reslolved in talking that sitting being quiet in the corner.
I always say in life to, through our hardest times we learn the most too.
So hopefully something new will come out of this, thats if we can all be adult and just respect each other for being different.
So what are you saying there Minx
Have I not made sense again?
Perfect sense minx ... Lost is just being a git
I cant believe you understand me you never understand me, you always say I confuse you, or do I just confuse myself?
Why are you being nice to me, what are you after?
Quote by Lost
I feel I have never abused anyone in the forums on a personal assult. but I have felt the victim of some here, I name no names but I just raise above it and carry on regardless.
I just post what I want to say, and very rarely now will I come back in response to people that have responded in my threads.
I just enjoy trying to cause a likely debate as more seems to get reslolved in talking that sitting being quiet in the corner.
I always say in life to, through our hardest times we learn the most too.
So hopefully something new will come out of this, thats if we can all be adult and just respect each other for being different.
So what are you saying there Minx
Have I not made sense again?
Quote by flower411
I`ve always thought of you as one of the boys minx
:shock: Flower that is one of the nicest things you have said to me.
Check your temperature I think you are ill.
Fuckin ell !!!!!
I`ve just accused somebody in PM of not reading the whole thread !!!!
And just when I was thinking the same about you ..............
ermm am I confused again then?
I feel I have never abused anyone in the forums on a personal assult. but I have felt the victim of some here, I name no names but I just raise above it and carry on regardless.
I just post what I want to say, and very rarely now will I come back in response to people that have responded in my threads.
I just enjoy trying to cause a likely debate as more seems to get reslolved in talking that sitting being quiet in the corner.
I always say in life to, through our hardest times we learn the most too.
So hopefully something new will come out of this, thats if we can all be adult and just respect each other for being different.
I just post what I want to say, and very rarely now will I come back in response to people that have responded in my threads.
I just enjoy trying to cause a likely debate as more seems to get reslolved in talking that sitting being quiet in the corner.
I always say in life to, through our hardest times we learn the most too.
So hopefully something new will come out of this, thats if we can all be adult and just respect each other for being different.
