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Hello Lady Minx,
many true words and if only life's journey would become easier as we overcome obstacles. Day to day ones we can cope with and learn by them but something like cancer upsets any smooth pattern that might have been formed. My wife's breast cancer has destroyed any smooth path and it's devastating from the point of view of a swinging couple. First of all M has had to cope with loosing part of her femininity and then the chemo and radio therapy. She now has further problems associated with the aftermath of the op. From the male view and being a 'breast' man, I feel that I have lost one of my best 'friends' and after nearly two years it saddens me when I think about "what has the surgeon done to her?" M's loss has taken our relationship close to breaking point and I cannot start to tell you about the bitterness that I feel to whoever it might be that decides who will receive these illnesses etc. Whilst our relationship has suffered and we will probably never swing again we have to be grateful that M is still alive and able to see our children and grandson those who are able to chart a relatively easy path through life, enjoy it while you can as there might be an un-scalable mountain around the corner.

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What does it take in the forum to be accepted?
Is it post count?
is it what i say in posts?
is it the length of time you have been on the forum?
is it how many threads I start?
I don’t ever think people just get accepted here, the only people it seems to me that accept another is people they have possibly met at a social and have got to know on a different level than just a forum.
If being accepted means that people agree with you or quote you in a response that happens very little here, general people that have something to say will just say it.
Mainly what I have found, to be quoted, a lot of the time is by people that are in a disagreement or questioning you on something perhaps they don’t understand in you, so not being quoted or responded to isn’t totally a bad thing.
Once upon a time I was a valued member of this community but now I feel if I dont have a knitting link I'm an outcast favoured for the newest member that can get the most posts in, in limited time!
I have written many threads from sexual, thoughtful, social, relationships, a bit of fun, and even political.
I don’t think I am any more accepted than when I first started writing, I didn’t come here to be accepted I came here to enjoy writing whatever came into my head at that time as it is a place you can say what is in your mind and nobody can stop you.
Unless of course you break the rules which I don’t think I have ever come close.
My posts are ignored, even if me & ste take the time to go for pics or try to join in, we might get the odd whisper to say well done or thanks in pm it seems newbies are afraid to acknowledge the post full on for fear of the repecussion in the forum.
As I said above posts that are ignored isn’t always a bad sign.
You are lucky that you have had the odd pm.
Me personally I would much rather someone say what they had to say in public than feel the need to pm me personally to say well done I like your post etc.
Why would they feel the need to congratulate someone privately?
Maybe because possibly they might not like others to know what their true feelings are as then they could be ignored by others.
I do believe if you have a problem with someone then to take it to pm and try and resolve it is a polite thing to do.
I can count on two hands the amount of people that send me a pm from the forums and I have been posting for over a year now without a break and many would say I have a lot to say.
I have over the years defended what was always called a clique by saying once you get to talk on here people accept you............
As I said I don’t feel we are ever accepted really.
People as a breed are cynical beings something somewhere will always put doubts in their heads about a person, I only feel accepted by people that know me in the chat rooms that have seen me on cam having a laugh and got to know me over the time I have been a member of the site. Plus one person that I have met that has made a couple of posts in the past. They I believe really accept me as they have taken time to talk to me on a one to one.
I now agree and think the forum has become a knitting circle where members are outraged when a subject covers a sex topic!
I have to say I have not found that to be the case, different people discuss different topic and different topics draw in different people.
People can get a little outraged by a topic in how it reads rather than the subject matter I believe.
If im asked i am 100% sure I can give example but that would take my time as no-one responds to us on here .....well why should I bother......
If you feel bothered then you should be bothered.
I know there are genuine members out there that still lurk (hi Warwick x ) still in the hope that the forum will return to what it was ...not that Im adverse to change but still would like it to be an acceptable place to be like it was when I was a new member.
Maybe now there are just more people that use the forums, I don’t know how it used to be, but by saying what you have and then mentioning new people could make the new people think that only the old people will be accepted. Things change and times more on there is almost a million members here now, you put that type of mix in a social circle it is going to give you all sorts of people. That is why I find these forums one of the best around, they is always someone here responding to threads minute by minute. I have used other forums and it could take days before someone posts something.
I understand familiarity, but bad manners I dont.
I agree there is no place I believe to show bad manners, but then I have always felt with some it takes more effort being nice than nasty. We have to accept that people are just that way and there is nothing we can do, I just choose to ignore them, they will soon get bored and move on then.
Ive seen attacks on newbies, what is that all about, shouldnt we try to encourage conversation with them rather than slag them off like a pack of wolves for asking something that was asked in 2003?
I agree but it is a lot better now than when I first started posting, almost ever new poster was pulled to bits, people are generally cautious of new posters, I was once asked by someone if I was a reporter. How the cynical think hey.
So this is a rant from a long term member...............
What are your thoughts?
And lets see who can be constructive and not attacking.
And maybe with more than 2 words lol (lp) lol
post counts i dont mean the threads that you post a smilie or a one word answer to some quiz game
I have give you my thoughts, I would have given you a one word answer a rolly eyes but that just isn’t my way.
I like to just say what comes into my head at the time, I never read back over my posts until after I have sent them, I don’t think what am I going to write I just write what natural comes into my head.
To think to hard doesn’t make it a natural thought process it can make it a process that you think others might like to hear.
I say what I think and be damned hope that’s ok.
Wow sorry for the ramble, I haven’t rambled on as much for ages.

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It may not be this but our pc would shut down apparently randomly. It turned out that the fan that
keeps the processor cool had failed.
Once it gets to a certain preset temperature it cuts out to save itself from failing altogether.
PCs have a main fan that you can feel blowing out of the vents but there is also a fan on the processor and sometimes on other hardware inside the casing.

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I think perhaps Minx, you've fallen into the belief that every 18 year old wants to be fuelled on cocaine and alcohol, shag anything that moves and spend the night in the cells after happy slapping someone...
While for some this may be the idea of a good time (namely, cretins) I think a great many young adults are far more mature and responsible in their thinking than people like to give them credit for. However "sensible 18 year old helps old lady with her shopping" sells less papers than "18 year old pregnant with her 35th Child, to an asylum seeker..."
So no, I don't think your son is atypical at all. I think he is well rounded, thoughtful and seems to know what he wants and perhaps most impressively, won't be cow-towed into toeing the line of what his friends expect to be normal behaviour for someone his age.
So I don't think he is alone at all. I think like a great many people that age, he is responsible and sensible.

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Minx
sounds like two seperate problems:
PC locking up
clicking on links in pages throwing you off the net
- - -
is it a desktop PC or a laptop?
how do you conect to the internet?
If you want to discuss via pm I am happy to help

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Minx
sounds like two seperate problems:
PC locking up
clicking on links in pages throwing you off the net
- - -
is it a desktop PC or a laptop?
how do you conect to the internet?
If you want to discuss via pm I am happy to help

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Have you got Updates switched on?
Try installing a different browser and see if the browwser problem happens in that one as well. Select one that isn't based on Explorer, such as Opera or Firefox.

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Can anybody help with a problem I am having please.
For the last couple of months it doesn’t matter what I am doing, if it be online of offline my pc keeps freezing for no reason, the only thing I am left to do is reset the pc.
I could be just working on excel or word when this happens.
I have found also that if I am online and there is a link to any other part of a site or another site I can not access this as internet explorer will just fail and take me offline.
Thanks for any help in advance.
Minx

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we too have a son, aged 19years, who is currenty in uni and devotes his time to his studies and sport, martial arts, football, cricket, weight training.
He watches his diet not like his dad lol, and rarely drinks alcohol(again not like his dad lol)
We have asked him about girlfriends and his attitude is now and again, and plenty of time for regular girlfriends when he gets his degree.
Seems to have it all worked out, so good luck to him!

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I think perhaps Minx, you've fallen into the belief that every 18 year old wants to be fuelled on cocaine and alcohol, shag anything that moves and spend the night in the cells after happy slapping someone...
While for some this may be the idea of a good time (namely, cretins) I think a great many young adults are far more mature and responsible in their thinking than people like to give them credit for. However "sensible 18 year old helps old lady with her shopping" sells less papers than "18 year old pregnant with her 35th Child, to an asylum seeker..."
So no, I don't think your son is atypical at all. I think he is well rounded, thoughtful and seems to know what he wants and perhaps most impressively, won't be cow-towed into toeing the line of what his friends expect to be normal behaviour for someone his age.
So I don't think he is alone at all. I think like a great many people that age, he is responsible and sensible.

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