The reason I started this thread was because I had seen verification used on other sites, and seeing as people see quicikes as a form of it I would actually dare to bring up a subject that IMO needed to be discussed so that people care air thier views and whilst glitches are ironed out those changes if need be can be put right.
We seem to be able to debate and discuss some very subjects in here, but this seems not to be one so
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Quote by __random_orbit__
which brings me straight back to my original question, so far everyone is assuming that people will be harmed, so has anyone
there are many attempts to 'harm' 'reputations' here in the open forum... it happens anyway.
lp
so if it happens anyway......
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Quote by Suede-head
They wouldn`t have logged in to see the offending messages and probably dont use the forum ! Our point is the system is there that can be abused ... why do you need evidence ?
I have cut the rest out only because it makes the thread so damn long.
Not using the forums makes no difference because you get a green flashy envelope when you get a quickie a red one for a pm.
Any system no matter if its the royal mail, or here is open to abuse, all I'm saying is so far we have only heard about a precived threat and nothing else. That means we have only one side of an argument, to make a fully informed decision on any subject you need both sides, I have only seen one and I'm asking for the other one, theres nothing wrong in that is there?
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Quote by Suede-head
We have tested the quickies and think i am right in saying they do not appear until you have clicked on the flashy envelope. If this isn`t the case then it is a case for concern as many have said, messages can be left without being first monitored.
No this is not correct, they appear as soon as someone has sent them. If you don't log on for a week, they'll be there for everyone else to see for a week.
Would be happier if this was thought out and someone was listening to posters .... not everyone wants the quickies from random people and we need some means of stopping them, just as we have the automatic wink disbabler function.
We have been promised a means of deleting them before they go on public view, when the gliches are ironed out.
You are right Cherrytree ... can still see them. Thanks Mr Cube for the "test" How long till the gliches are ironed out and how many reputations may be harmed until they are ?
which brings me straight back to my original question, so far everyone is assuming that people will be harmed, so has anyone
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Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Just to be on the safe side I have hourly alarms set so that no-one will know what a crap shag I am via Quickies lol :grin:
I only risk waiting 15minutes
Quote by Freckledbird
And - nobody has been able to say that the system isn't open to systematic abuse.
Sorry to nick just this but but wanted to say that the reason I havent commented on it, is mainly because I dont feel able to answer it. I am not 100% sure what systematic abuse people are referring to, and dont really want to put it on the open forums cause if people have not thought of it, then it will certainly give them ideas.
However, if you are referring to a form of verification, doesnt that already happen? How many times do you see a post in lets meet up which gets replies from people they have met, either socially or intimately. I know I have done it in the past, and didnt actually think anything of it, but arent we just verifying someone?
I could site two occasions where I have put an ad on LMU where people have effectivly verified me, and the difference is
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Quote by Freckledbird
ok I have not posted this because I whole heartedly believe in this system, but unless you have a full and open debate with all sides considered how can you totally debunk something.
So far we have one lady that has recieved abuse and one lady that has been linked to people that she wishes to keep private.
As NWC mentiones it seems we shall be able to vet what is posted, but as yet noone has been able to say that the system is open to systimatic abuse.
Just because you dont want to talk about it does not mean it's not there and it will just go away, thats called sticking your head in the sand.
I think you may have gone part way to addressing your theory (of nobody's said owt so maybeit's not a problem)there. Just because people don't come on a thread and say that they have been a victim of abuse, does not mean that it doesn't exist and that everything is, therefore, 'hunky dory'.
And - nobody has been able to say that the system isn't open to systematic abuse.
Thats very correct no one has said the sysytem is not open to abuse, but it has been around for a while on other sites and is still in use, therefore it seems to me that its not as abused as people make out.
I don't think there will ever be a systems that fits all the people all the time, that would be impossible. But as I say again talking about it must be a good thing, and I thought this group of people were more open to discussion than most.
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Quote by varca
but is it not better that we do and can ask for measures/options to be out in place to opt in/opt out/decline/accept/choose to display or not?
sorry to snip this down but thats a good point.
If this is the way and it can be debated is it not better to get in at ground level and set the parameters now before things get set in stone.
Anyway that is just an aspect of this and not exactly the question I was asking, but good point Varca
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ok I have not posted this because I whole heartedly believe in this system, but unless you have a full and open debate with all sides considered how can you totally debunk something.
So far we have one lady that has recieved abuse and one lady that has been linked to people that she wishes to keep private.
As NWC mentiones it seems we shall be able to vet what is posted, but as yet noone has been able to say that the system is open to systimatic abuse.
Just because you dont want to talk about it does not mean it's not there and it will just go away, thats called sticking your head in the sand.
So far we have one lady that has recieved abuse and one lady that has been linked to people that she wishes to keep private.
As NWC mentiones it seems we shall be able to vet what is posted, but as yet noone has been able to say that the system is open to systimatic abuse.
Just because you dont want to talk about it does not mean it's not there and it will just go away, thats called sticking your head in the sand.
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Thank you Varca for your comments, but as I have stated I'm asking for comments on if people have actually suffered from the possible abuse you have highlighted.
Yes I agree it is open to abuse but is this something people are afraid ie: the possibility or is it some people have actually been subject to.
It's very easy to complain about something hypothetical, but unless someone or several people can come up with real evidence of abuse how can it be wrong
I will say again I'm unsure myself which is whhy I pose this question
Yes I agree it is open to abuse but is this something people are afraid ie: the possibility or is it some people have actually been subject to.
It's very easy to complain about something hypothetical, but unless someone or several people can come up with real evidence of abuse how can it be wrong
I will say again I'm unsure myself which is whhy I pose this question
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or what ever you want to call them.
I joined another site recently which has it, and by all accounts from what people say here we have it now in quickies.
My question is to people from other sites that have had it place for a while have you come across or been a victim of verification abuse??
Please this is not a thread to voice your opinion on if you want it or not, it's a thread to highlight if and it's a big IF there is actually an abuse of this system or if it's just people scaremongering about it.
I dont want to have a go at people who dont approve of it, and maybe scaremongering is not the right word, I'm just really interested in if it works or has anyone really been upset and felt degraded by it on other sites.
I can not say at this point if it's good or bad as I have not been on the receiving end long enough.
I joined another site recently which has it, and by all accounts from what people say here we have it now in quickies.
My question is to people from other sites that have had it place for a while have you come across or been a victim of verification abuse??
Please this is not a thread to voice your opinion on if you want it or not, it's a thread to highlight if and it's a big IF there is actually an abuse of this system or if it's just people scaremongering about it.
I dont want to have a go at people who dont approve of it, and maybe scaremongering is not the right word, I'm just really interested in if it works or has anyone really been upset and felt degraded by it on other sites.
I can not say at this point if it's good or bad as I have not been on the receiving end long enough.
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My god it's starting to look like Terminal 5 in here at the moment, these poor guys/girls are doing there best to sort out any glitches, and they will always happen no matter how much testing you do.
Personnaly I will reserve my full judgement when everything is working and I had a play with all the buttons.
are doing there best to sort out any glitches, and they will always happen no matter how much testing you do.Personnaly I will reserve my full judgement when everything is working and I had a play with all the buttons.
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Well that was all fun and games last night :giggle:
at least my words in my profile have proper spacings now and not bunched up, if anything i need to tidy it up.
I like the picture set up where you can scroll through much better :thumbup:
now whats this about groups :twisted:
at least my words in my profile have proper spacings now and not bunched up, if anything i need to tidy it up.
I like the picture set up where you can scroll through much better :thumbup:
now whats this about groups :twisted:
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Quote by anais
Have you really got a humongous willy? :lol2:
I would like to point out that poem was written for me by someone in there own words
But is it true 
We want measurements ya know - or a pic with a tube of toothpaste by the side of ya willy to give a visual guide to the size :lol2:
I'm dignified me :smug:
besides cock shots are frowned apon are they not, the ladies will just have to find out themselves in person.
I should point out I'm crap at reading signals so if people are interested they should just pm me.
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black silk sheets :shock: do you think im made of money :giggle:
passion waggon: well come to think about it i could fit a matteres in there.
naked on cam naked on cam you want me naked on cam
ok if you insist :hunk:
oh and squiffs nice profile
hwoar: but me thinks im a bit old
passion waggon: well come to think about it i could fit a matteres in there.
naked on cam naked on cam you want me naked on cam
ok if you insist :hunk:
oh and squiffs nice profile
hwoar: but me thinks im a bit old Orgasminator
Quote by fem_4_taboo
nothing wrong with the profile, if your looking for a friend.
but theres umm nothing really sexual about it.
i know its damm hard to get the right balance, but yours dont seem to ignite any sexual intrest.
i do not mean this in any horrible way. its a nice profile, nice ads but its not exciting.
xx fem xxx
ok well I spent nearly all my adult life in a relationship so I think I might be lacking in a few skill.
I dont think you would ever mean anything in a horrible way, so how do I make it exciting
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Quote by Firelizard
You really need to hear from people that don't know you, but I don't think there's anything wrong with that profile at all :thumbup:
I'd do ya
Well I would if you were the right sex like :giggle:
Well thank you fire
but it does seem that I'm everyones friend and nothing else.Dont get me wrong I'm not feeling lonely and needing a relationship, but a damn good shag once in a while would not go amiss.
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to the FIA to Ferrari to the booing crowd:bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: to LEWIS HAMILTOM
what a race I been out all day with my son in London having to avoid any news all day, I did see a glimpse of Daimen hill on the news in a bar window but never got a clue as to what happened.
Just finished watching the a recording, an my heart was on the floor I been watching F1 for 30 years and that has to be in the top 3 finishes of all time.
Hats off to him, a lot of people did not want him to win and a lot of people made it extremley difficult for him but hes won, so WELL DONE LEWIS
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Well I dont remember my first but have been told this story I dont know how many times 
At my christening yes that right :haha: the champagne was flowing and i was crawling around and everyone one was dipping their fingers in their glass, my mum was not to impressed with the nappy mess in the morning especially as I know she would have had a few as well
At my christening yes that right :haha: the champagne was flowing and i was crawling around and everyone one was dipping their fingers in their glass, my mum was not to impressed with the nappy mess in the morning especially as I know she would have had a few as well
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Just came across this in the papers yesturday, The Times if you are interested.
If your Rabbit has been used to death which I know many of you will admit to, then if you send it to the company below to be recylcled then you can buy a new one at HALF PRICE :shock: and they donate a pound to The World Land Trust.
Now ladies he has no excuse not to buy you a new one
If your Rabbit has been used to death which I know many of you will admit to, then if you send it to the company below to be recylcled then you can buy a new one at HALF PRICE :shock: and they donate a pound to The World Land Trust.
Now ladies he has no excuse not to buy you a new one
