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adventurer
1 day ago
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0 miles · Newcastle upon Tyne
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Well I've read the rules about becoming a verified member. Just one question. If, like myself, you have been a member and user of this site for a long time and have had no luck in meeting anyone, never mind a verified member (whover these secret people are) does this mean I am not a swinger ? Becasue I am. I have mets loads of people via other sites, contact mags etc. For all I know I know, some of them may have been verified members of this site. Should I recontact every swinger I have met and ask them to verify me if they have the power to do so.
No I'm sorry. A far better system would have been for members of this site who fail to keep appointments, or who can be proved to have used other peoples pictures or who attempt to register under diferent aliases, sexes etc, to be permenantly excluded from the site.
Also what about people who advertise, get replies and then don't bother replying back, even to say thanks but no thanks. I think they should be banned too.
Does anyone else agree ?
No I'm sorry. A far better system would have been for members of this site who fail to keep appointments, or who can be proved to have used other peoples pictures or who attempt to register under diferent aliases, sexes etc, to be permenantly excluded from the site.
Also what about people who advertise, get replies and then don't bother replying back, even to say thanks but no thanks. I think they should be banned too.
Does anyone else agree ?
For me by far the best porn is amateur. Either couples videoing each other, or swingers parties, dont mind which. Over the years I've traded home made tapes with dozens of couples and now have a great collection. Favourite one is where two couples set up the camcorder on a tripod and then just shag each other for about 75 mins. Great stuff.
Crikey - wish I'd never started this topic, it was never meant to be a moan or a complaint aboutthe site, because, believe it or not, I enjoy the site !
I only intended it to be a debate as to why so many were "anti single guys" and despite what has been said, I still belive that to be the case.
i still maintain that as a single guy, it is very very difficult to get any of the established couples/single ladies to talk to you.
I do join in the patter, I do crack jokes both at myself and others, if there is an online debat going on I join in.
But ask yourself this, just keep track of who is talking in the room. It is the same people day after day, they share "in jokes" with each other, talk about shared experiences etc.
Now there is nothing wrong with that at all, after all it is a chat room, but if you are not part of the "in crowd" it is very hard to take part in the chat.
For example, recently, there was a guy trying desperately to get someone to talk to him (no it wasn't me) he repeatidly asked if there was anyone from where he lived. No reply. He then tried asking people if he could pm them. No reply He then tried starting a conversation by asking people questions. No reply. In other words, this guy, who I assume was new to the site, was completely ignored by everyone !
No doubt I will be heavily criticised again for moaning, be told to alter my strategy, or even "if you dont like it bugger off"
Let me emphasise again. I really enjoy this site and the patter in the chat as a place to actually meet people, I suspect very few guys actually do.
I only intended it to be a debate as to why so many were "anti single guys" and despite what has been said, I still belive that to be the case.
i still maintain that as a single guy, it is very very difficult to get any of the established couples/single ladies to talk to you.
I do join in the patter, I do crack jokes both at myself and others, if there is an online debat going on I join in.
But ask yourself this, just keep track of who is talking in the room. It is the same people day after day, they share "in jokes" with each other, talk about shared experiences etc.
Now there is nothing wrong with that at all, after all it is a chat room, but if you are not part of the "in crowd" it is very hard to take part in the chat.
For example, recently, there was a guy trying desperately to get someone to talk to him (no it wasn't me) he repeatidly asked if there was anyone from where he lived. No reply. He then tried asking people if he could pm them. No reply He then tried starting a conversation by asking people questions. No reply. In other words, this guy, who I assume was new to the site, was completely ignored by everyone !
No doubt I will be heavily criticised again for moaning, be told to alter my strategy, or even "if you dont like it bugger off"
Let me emphasise again. I really enjoy this site and the patter in the chat as a place to actually meet people, I suspect very few guys actually do.
Well - what can I say that was a bit savage. I am so pleased that you have met and made so many friends from this site. I quite agree with you that making friends is just as important if not more so than having sex. But lets be honest here. We are only in this site for one main reason and that is to meet people for sex. Why else join a swingers site. I do not believe any one who says otherwise.
You seem to have mised my point entirely.
I would love to chat to new people, to meet them for friendship, build up a relationship but if they won'y bloody talk to you then how can you ?
Answers on a post card to ........
You seem to have mised my point entirely.
I would love to chat to new people, to meet them for friendship, build up a relationship but if they won'y bloody talk to you then how can you ?
Answers on a post card to ........
Well - thats started something.
In response to the last poster, sorry if I came across as bitter, I'm not. I'm just a bit fed up with all the negative attitudes to single guys.
As regards my lack of posts, I only post when I have something to say, as in the case of the member who was posting all the time but never responding to posts. In that instance one of the moderators actually contacted the person involved and supposidly got an answer which satisfied him. However I have noticed that the same member is once again posting for meets and failling to reply to any of the answers he/they are getting.
I have spoken to loads of people in the room but for some reason my log in name and chat room name are different, I dont know why. If anyone can tell me how to make them the same, please do.
neandy (for some reason logged in as adventurer)
In response to the last poster, sorry if I came across as bitter, I'm not. I'm just a bit fed up with all the negative attitudes to single guys.
As regards my lack of posts, I only post when I have something to say, as in the case of the member who was posting all the time but never responding to posts. In that instance one of the moderators actually contacted the person involved and supposidly got an answer which satisfied him. However I have noticed that the same member is once again posting for meets and failling to reply to any of the answers he/they are getting.
I have spoken to loads of people in the room but for some reason my log in name and chat room name are different, I dont know why. If anyone can tell me how to make them the same, please do.
neandy (for some reason logged in as adventurer)
Well, I'm probably opening a can of old worms with this one, but here goes anyway.
Having been a member of this site for some time now, I have actively participated in the chat room most days, I have posted in the forums, I have replied to adverts and have a profile with pic, on the site.
The net result ? Two meetings in the last 8 months, constant rejection from rude couples in the chat room (and not just me but other guys as well) that is when they dont ignore any attempt to start chatting anyway, a lack of response to messages sent of approxomately 98%, not a single response to my advert and a general feeling that single guys are not wanted by the majority of couples single ladies, who use this site.
There is one couple (no names) in particular who post on a regular basis in the forum wanting to meet guys and NEVER reply to anyone who posts back. I know because I have contacted guys who have tried to meet them. There is one couple (again no names) whos chat room nickname makes it quite clear that they are anti-single guys. Regulalry in the chat room couples and single ladies make derogatory comments about single guys and have at times been very abusive.
Now perhaps its just me, perhaps others do not find me attractive enough to want to meet. Fair enough, each to their own. But is there any need to be rude ? Is there any need to be abusive when guys just want to start a conversation ? A simple "thanks but we/I are not looking to meet a single guy, but if you just want to chat thats ok"
How can people make a decision about what you are like if they won't even speak to you !
I realise that the vast majority of members of this site are single guys just looking for a quick shag, most of whom are probably married anyway and that couples and ladies can take their pick of the bunch
Having spoken to many other guys who use this site I have come to the conclusion that it is almost certainly a waste of time trying to meet anyone. I had thought about leaving but do still enjoy talking to the few (very few) people in the room who will talk to a guy, so I will stay for a little longer.
Perhaps I am wrong in what I have just said - please feel free to agree/disagree and post your own experiences as a guy, trying to meet people. if you are a couple/single lady, let us guys know what we are doing wrong in trying to attract your attention.
Having been a member of this site for some time now, I have actively participated in the chat room most days, I have posted in the forums, I have replied to adverts and have a profile with pic, on the site.
The net result ? Two meetings in the last 8 months, constant rejection from rude couples in the chat room (and not just me but other guys as well) that is when they dont ignore any attempt to start chatting anyway, a lack of response to messages sent of approxomately 98%, not a single response to my advert and a general feeling that single guys are not wanted by the majority of couples single ladies, who use this site.
There is one couple (no names) in particular who post on a regular basis in the forum wanting to meet guys and NEVER reply to anyone who posts back. I know because I have contacted guys who have tried to meet them. There is one couple (again no names) whos chat room nickname makes it quite clear that they are anti-single guys. Regulalry in the chat room couples and single ladies make derogatory comments about single guys and have at times been very abusive.
Now perhaps its just me, perhaps others do not find me attractive enough to want to meet. Fair enough, each to their own. But is there any need to be rude ? Is there any need to be abusive when guys just want to start a conversation ? A simple "thanks but we/I are not looking to meet a single guy, but if you just want to chat thats ok"
How can people make a decision about what you are like if they won't even speak to you !
I realise that the vast majority of members of this site are single guys just looking for a quick shag, most of whom are probably married anyway and that couples and ladies can take their pick of the bunch
Having spoken to many other guys who use this site I have come to the conclusion that it is almost certainly a waste of time trying to meet anyone. I had thought about leaving but do still enjoy talking to the few (very few) people in the room who will talk to a guy, so I will stay for a little longer.
Perhaps I am wrong in what I have just said - please feel free to agree/disagree and post your own experiences as a guy, trying to meet people. if you are a couple/single lady, let us guys know what we are doing wrong in trying to attract your attention.
Having read several of the so called "true" stories I too have come to the conclusion that most are fake. Why do I say that ? Just read a few and look at the way they are composed. Then read a "true" story from a mens mag such as readers wives. The similarities are amazing !
Having said that, I did post a story last year about my first MMF experience with my wife and a friend that was 100% true, so I would guess that probably 25% of the stories are true and the remainder are peoples fantasies, not that there is anything wrong in that but perhaps the stories should be divided into two sections - true stories and fantasies.
Having said that, I did post a story last year about my first MMF experience with my wife and a friend that was 100% true, so I would guess that probably 25% of the stories are true and the remainder are peoples fantasies, not that there is anything wrong in that but perhaps the stories should be divided into two sections - true stories and fantasies.
There was a television film made a few years ago starring of all people Martin Clunes of men behaving badly fame. It was about a couple who decided to start swinging.
It was well made and acted and I think portrayed swingers as they/we really are. I have a copy of it on VHS and if anyone would like a copy all they have to do is send me a blank tape and i will copy it for them P&P is about 70 p I think.
It was well made and acted and I think portrayed swingers as they/we really are. I have a copy of it on VHS and if anyone would like a copy all they have to do is send me a blank tape and i will copy it for them P&P is about 70 p I think.
Well there seems to be plenty of people interested in a munch in Newcastle. I see there is a guy advertising in the photo ads section that he will organise a munch but for couples only. This, to me defeats the whole point of a munch.
I know of a venue in Newcastle that would be suitable, but if I organise it, it will be for ANYONE, not just couples. If interested please e mail me with a prefered choice of evening and if sufficiant show an intrest I will sort a time and date out.
I know of a venue in Newcastle that would be suitable, but if I organise it, it will be for ANYONE, not just couples. If interested please e mail me with a prefered choice of evening and if sufficiant show an intrest I will sort a time and date out.
Right - I would like to put the matter straight.
I have just established that I have already met Bobo and his partner once before. They were advertising under a different name in the adverts section.
I met them and enjoyed a great hour or so in their company. So in that respect I must apologise and state that they were genuine.
As to the reason they have not been replying to their recent posts I do not know.
I have e mailed "Bobo" and put the matter straight with them.
I have just established that I have already met Bobo and his partner once before. They were advertising under a different name in the adverts section.
I met them and enjoyed a great hour or so in their company. So in that respect I must apologise and state that they were genuine.
As to the reason they have not been replying to their recent posts I do not know.
I have e mailed "Bobo" and put the matter straight with them.
