Couldn't have put it better myself.. I seem to be looking for the same (i.e. a friend and a shag-partner but not a fulltime lover). Hope there's such a person up North for me as well as one down South for you !!
Ant.
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antwest99
4 weeks ago
Bi-curious Male, 61
Bi-curious Female, 57
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Diverting this thread a little, I wonder how people view the number and quality of friends they consider they have when related to their general happiness and overall outlook on life.
Me, I'm as cynical and untrusting (but hopefully not bitter) as they come - years of seeing how family etc were shafted because they were too trusting has made me very wary of people and motives and so I would say I have perhaps only 3 friends that I could trust with absolutely anything. As a plus point, it means I'm very independent though!
As an aside, it's a miracle that I ever got married and relied on someone else (but my cynical side now kicks in and reminds me it ended in a messy divorce
).
Since childhood I've always started from the safe, dull premise that people are after something and it has indeed caused me to miss out on occasion, but I can rationalise that as being better than a possible disappointment. Being let down really p****s me off
- probably because I would do everything in my power to help those people who I view as true friends.
Does all this make sense?
Ant.
Me, I'm as cynical and untrusting (but hopefully not bitter) as they come - years of seeing how family etc were shafted because they were too trusting has made me very wary of people and motives and so I would say I have perhaps only 3 friends that I could trust with absolutely anything. As a plus point, it means I'm very independent though!
As an aside, it's a miracle that I ever got married and relied on someone else (but my cynical side now kicks in and reminds me it ended in a messy divorce
).Since childhood I've always started from the safe, dull premise that people are after something and it has indeed caused me to miss out on occasion, but I can rationalise that as being better than a possible disappointment. Being let down really p****s me off
- probably because I would do everything in my power to help those people who I view as true friends.Does all this make sense?
Ant.
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All these famous people.... My meagre appearances don't add up to much - waving out of a famous trains' window when I was about 10 - ended up on 6 o'clock news. Then there's a couple of disembodied hands playing with electronics on Watchdog (don't ask!) and the piece de resistance is a fleeting in-crowd view on Kylie's Manchester concert dvd from a couple of years ago. Oh, and a fair few radio appearances a long time ago but, ahem, lets just say it wasn't the BBC....
Ant.
Ant.
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I've suffered from altitude sickness both times I've been up there for the NW munch :shock: It's ok when I first go up there, but when I've woken up the morning after the munch, I've felt dreadful, both times! :undecided:
Hmmm, you're obviously not acclimatised - I prescribe regular visits to help get over this !! :shock: Copious amounts of alcohol are of course not a factor in this as I'm sure you're aware
Although I must admit to a reverse sort of feeling whenever I venture too close to London... Too many people in not enough space
and the price of a pint keeps me sober :shock: Warming the Bed
Thanks for that vote of confidence in singles misschief !
Being one of the quieter members and with kids most weekends, I've only managed one munch and one other outing so far and so don't know as many people on here as I should by now. I have to agree though - virtually everyone I've come into contact with has been helpful but the one or two that were less than pleasant weren't single men...
So thanks again, and I got all giddy until I saw that you're down south...
Ant.
Being one of the quieter members and with kids most weekends, I've only managed one munch and one other outing so far and so don't know as many people on here as I should by now. I have to agree though - virtually everyone I've come into contact with has been helpful but the one or two that were less than pleasant weren't single men...
So thanks again, and I got all giddy until I saw that you're down south...
Ant.
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Before I make my New Years Resolution not to look a pratt in 2005 by transparently asking to meet people on here, I thought I'd have one go and see if anyone at all replies
So, if any couple (or heaven forbid, single woman!!) would like to meet Monday afternoon or evening somewhere in the North West for some fun (club, dogging or whatever), then please drop me a PM and prove that my New Year resolution will make a difference.
Thanks,
Ant.
So, if any couple (or heaven forbid, single woman!!) would like to meet Monday afternoon or evening somewhere in the North West for some fun (club, dogging or whatever), then please drop me a PM and prove that my New Year resolution will make a difference.
Thanks,
Ant.
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trains may not always be ideal for passengers but they are bloody good for bulk freight. The current argument that freight needs roads because there are no rail lines is a backwards one - if rail hadn't been left to rot, we wouldn't have distribution warehouses next to motorways, they'd be next to rail lines.
And passenger trains work well in metropolitan areas Manchester Metrolink is a good example - wish the lines near me hadn't been concreted over for cars - it would have made my commuting MUCH easier.
They're also quicker than planes for city centre to city centre journeys....
Ant.
And passenger trains work well in metropolitan areas Manchester Metrolink is a good example - wish the lines near me hadn't been concreted over for cars - it would have made my commuting MUCH easier.
They're also quicker than planes for city centre to city centre journeys....
Ant.
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Did I miss something? Is there a dress code for tonight (not that I have one, but you know what I mean I hope..)
And if people are thinking of going off to a club afterwards, if there are any single women going who would like to pair up with me for club entry (or anything else ) please let me know either by pm or tonight. Free transport offered in exchange!!!
Ant.
(not that I have one, but you know what I mean I hope..)And if people are thinking of going off to a club afterwards, if there are any single women going who would like to pair up with me for club entry (or anything else
) please let me know either by pm or tonight. Free transport offered in exchange!!!Ant.
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Can't believe no-ones mentioned Hornby trainsets...... Mine's still in the loft and probably worth a bomb (30 years old and all in boxes), but ungrateful sod that I was, although I had many happy hours with it, I always wanted a Scalextric set. Guess what my son got for Christmas the other year! We have a joint Lego collection as well but better not mention that.....
Ant.
Ant.
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I think one of the reasons you saw no action was that unfortunately (up here at least), single women alone in cars have become known as a trap - i.e. guy walks over and boyfriend jumps out of the bushes and mugs him....
Not nice at all, and a risk I'm not prepared to take. Now, in the daytime I might...
Ant.
Not nice at all, and a risk I'm not prepared to take. Now, in the daytime I might...
Ant.
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Speaking as a forcibly-divorced person, I can categorically say that if my ex and I had been swingers, we would still be together today.
Although we loved each other, she decided that sexually the grass was greener elsewhere and went off down that path. It hurt me greatly at the time and no the loss of sex didn't matter but the loss of emotional closeness that followed did.
It gives me no pleasure to say she regretted it after a year and suggested getting back together (she hadn't moved in with anyone - just had a succession of sexual partners). The timing was totally wrong though as I had just started to see someone and realise I could still have a life. I doubt I could fully trust her again anyway.
The end result is two people less happy apart than they were together and all because of us not being open enough about sexual desires.
Ant.
(I really must learn the art of concise posting).
Although we loved each other, she decided that sexually the grass was greener elsewhere and went off down that path. It hurt me greatly at the time and no the loss of sex didn't matter but the loss of emotional closeness that followed did.
It gives me no pleasure to say she regretted it after a year and suggested getting back together (she hadn't moved in with anyone - just had a succession of sexual partners). The timing was totally wrong though as I had just started to see someone and realise I could still have a life. I doubt I could fully trust her again anyway.
The end result is two people less happy apart than they were together and all because of us not being open enough about sexual desires.
Ant.
(I really must learn the art of concise posting).
I'm hoping I'm not half-way there yet..... 
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absolutely - I remember Super8 cinefilm being introduced - still have the camera somewhere...
And watching blatantly corporate 'informercial' programmes on BBC2 before it officially started...
And the original Radio Caroline and then the start of Radio One (which had live BBC orchestral music in the middle of the day)..... :cry:
Was going to say I should better stop while I'm ahead, but I guess it's too late for that !!
In my defence I was very, very young (in single figures).
Ant.
And watching blatantly corporate 'informercial' programmes on BBC2 before it officially started...
And the original Radio Caroline
and then the start of Radio One (which had live BBC orchestral music in the middle of the day)..... :cry: Was going to say I should better stop while I'm ahead, but I guess it's too late for that !!
In my defence I was very, very young (in single figures).
Ant.
