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mancunian
3 weeks ago
Straight Male, 61
0 miles · North Yorkshire
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Sex God
Quote by kentswingers777
Some could say it is merely " wanting your cake and eating it ". Just a thought.
I can see your point.
However does your cake come with instructions?
Does it tell you when, where and how it should be eaten?
Would you enjoy the cake the same?
In edit whilst doling out the evening meal a thought crossed my mind
Could be argued that you get to have two bites of the cake?
Second edit and thought.
Not sure about the wording of a civil marriage but a wedding in church the couple getting married make a vow to be faithful to on another and to foresake all others.
Doesn't that then exclude married couples from being here?
Sex God
Quote by TheLovelyOne
... The whole point of cheating is to be dishonest.
It's unlikely to be the whole point, or even the driving force; it's more likely that the point of cheating is to fulfil some unmet need or fancy.
Can't follow the arguement that the whole point of cheating is to be dishonest. It's too blunt. Cheating is dishonest, deciectful, and breaking the trust of another. I can't go with it being fun too, from a previous post, that's disrespectful.
I care about my wife, but as the TheLovelyOne points out, the reason behind my cheating is, it's about an unforfilled need. Strange as it may seem when I'm elsewhere I do wish it was her I was with, and doing what I'm doing with her. It's unforfilment that drives me.
Sex God
Straight in I'm a married man who is here without my partners knowledge or consent, and is a total secret from her.
Pauses whilst eye brows raise and a few mutterings occur.
Due to my own set of personnal circumstances this is the only way I am able to socialise. Odd you may say but true. Unfortunatly my other half is unable to put her point of view across so you are unable to make a balanced opinion. I have never hidden the fact that I'm married and it is clearly written in my profile.
I wouldn't try to talk my wife into coming here or joining as she has made her views quite clear as to what she thinks to swinginging and swingers. It occured when a search on her account threw up Swinging Heaven by chance, should you wish to know. Her opinion of the ladies who would be here or any swinging site for that matter is quite uncomplementary, even though she has never met you. I do wonder what she would think if she were to discover a friend was a swinger. Would her opinion of her friend change? Would the friendship cease as a result of this discovery?
Next point am I really here to socialise after all I am a deciectfull male. It the main yes. In four years of being here I've had one successful meet. The others have been on my travels outside of SH. Those I have played with all knew of my marital status.
Another point I have noted is just how judgemental people here can be despite their claims of a relaxed lifestyle. Many has been the time in chat I've spoken to people before they checkout my profile. I know when they do because the inadvertant whisper gives them away and they go all coy and quiet, or they just go silent. One minute I'm good enough to talk to the next I'm not.
Another point. I have noticed that a number of couples play separatly, one reason being that they cannot agree on another couple. I know of one such couple. She stated that she wouldn't play with a married man on his own but her husband now fits just that catagory, married man playing away even though it's with his partners consent. In effect she wouldn't play with her husband!
Finally as Sassy Siren says If I'm caught, then it's me in the firing line. Toasted Testicles anyone?
Pauses whilst eye brows raise and a few mutterings occur.
Due to my own set of personnal circumstances this is the only way I am able to socialise. Odd you may say but true. Unfortunatly my other half is unable to put her point of view across so you are unable to make a balanced opinion. I have never hidden the fact that I'm married and it is clearly written in my profile.
I wouldn't try to talk my wife into coming here or joining as she has made her views quite clear as to what she thinks to swinginging and swingers. It occured when a search on her account threw up Swinging Heaven by chance, should you wish to know. Her opinion of the ladies who would be here or any swinging site for that matter is quite uncomplementary, even though she has never met you. I do wonder what she would think if she were to discover a friend was a swinger. Would her opinion of her friend change? Would the friendship cease as a result of this discovery?
Next point am I really here to socialise after all I am a deciectfull male. It the main yes. In four years of being here I've had one successful meet. The others have been on my travels outside of SH. Those I have played with all knew of my marital status.
Another point I have noted is just how judgemental people here can be despite their claims of a relaxed lifestyle. Many has been the time in chat I've spoken to people before they checkout my profile. I know when they do because the inadvertant whisper gives them away and they go all coy and quiet, or they just go silent. One minute I'm good enough to talk to the next I'm not.
Another point. I have noticed that a number of couples play separatly, one reason being that they cannot agree on another couple. I know of one such couple. She stated that she wouldn't play with a married man on his own but her husband now fits just that catagory, married man playing away even though it's with his partners consent. In effect she wouldn't play with her husband!
Finally as Sassy Siren says If I'm caught, then it's me in the firing line. Toasted Testicles anyone?
Sex God
Lucy, divorce like so many things in life is a journey, some of us choose to take it, others like yourself have the journey thrust upon them.
How long it takes to complete that journey no one can truely answer as each journey is as unique as the individual that undertakes it. How you journey is entirely up to you, but whilst on your journey you will have the company of many friends, some here that I have seen, who wish you well and will keep your spirits high.
Good friends are a joy to have and a richness beyond compare.
Listen not to those you are judgemental of you for they walk not the same journey as you upon this earth.
Haveing not met you I can't help but wonder of what delights I have missed judging by the comments above.
How long it takes to complete that journey no one can truely answer as each journey is as unique as the individual that undertakes it. How you journey is entirely up to you, but whilst on your journey you will have the company of many friends, some here that I have seen, who wish you well and will keep your spirits high.
Good friends are a joy to have and a richness beyond compare.
Listen not to those you are judgemental of you for they walk not the same journey as you upon this earth.
Haveing not met you I can't help but wonder of what delights I have missed judging by the comments above.
