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naughtynymphos1
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 52
UK
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Quote by sexyjo
Well from a single female perspective, I don't know how it is for single guys but I do see a few ads that I just think 'why do they bother'??? In my opinion, for many women, mostly, (see how I'm hedging my bets here???) sex, even tho it's sex through a swinging site, needs some sort of seduction/preamble. Isn't there some cliche about the most erogenous zone being the brain???
I'd want to meet a single guy if he was polite but flirtatious in his initial approach (PM or email reply to my ad), then if he went on to tell me a bit about him (personality does count!) and was honest and open, perhaps even to a fault, admitting some foibles is good in my book. Someone friendly, confident, with a wicked sense of humour and a broad minded attitude would go down well.
I would NOT want to meet someone who expects me to give them my address within 2 mins of MSNing with them (and then gets tetchy or rude when I won't, and calls me a timewaster or as one particularly polite young man did, a 'fat whale') who wants me to go round there 'right now' or someone who is clearly only interested in 'fucking me', i.e. doing something TO or even AT me, not thinking of whether I'm enjoying it or not.
Don't know whether this makes any sort of sense to anyone except me, but I just thought I'd add my two pennies worth.
I agree with you 100% Jo, when guys on here read our add and see that we also meet as single i get loads of mail from single guys asking me to meet them on my own and if i do not agree to meet them get accused of being a guy etc and have also had the abusive remarks off guys when i turn then down because they want my phone number after less than 5 mins of chat, now if i was looking to meet a guy i would expect them to want to chat on the phone so i could prove i was female but i do not expect to be pestered for it after a couple of mins and then get verbal abuse cause wont give them my number, as a rule i will only meet a guy if i have already met them at a munch, party, club etc that way there is not need for me to have to cam, send out pics or talk on phone its easier all round that way
Quote by bushwackers
ohhh i'm from Mansfield, what curry house is that then cause i never found any good ones
Hey I'm from Mansfield toooo, i hear the best Curry house is in huthwaite (Sutton Ashfield way)
On the subject of hard times ( i always get one when a womans around
)Clipstone
hey my hubbies from clippo small word eh lol
Quote by The Dukes
ohhh i'm from Mansfield, what curry house is that then cause i never found any good ones
Hey I'm from Mansfield toooo, i hear the best Curry house is in huthwaite (Sutton Ashfield way)
On the subject of hard times ( i always get one when a womans around
)well thanx for clearing up where Huthwaite is
Quote by dambuster
Does that mean I've pulled? I know this curry house in Mansfield
Mansfield ?????
Yer avin a tin baarfff aintchya ???
I don't think I've ever been out in Mansfield.
There's a decent one 500 yds from the house ! ! !
Although I did have a fairly decent karhai last week in a small Derbyshire town just south of here that I can't name just yet for fear of 'showing out' too much.
whats up with mansfield?? :shock:
Quote by marmalaid
Iv been on other sites before this one and ive noticed single men have a much harder time to find what there looking for can anyone explain why this seems to be the case?
I think that there has been so much bullshit on this thread. It's just as easy for a single male to find what he is looking for as it is for a single bifem to find what she wants.
When I first came here I had certain ideas about what I wanted, they were soon proved pretty silly (ok I was after a quick shag), so I changed what I wanted, I can now get exactly what I want pretty much any night of the week.
It depends on what you want, not what is available, so many people go through life not being happy because they are not getting what they want, I discovered that what I was after (a quick shag) was not what I wanted, what I wanted was a particular feeling, I found that I could just as easily get that by going out and playing a game of chess in a pizza shop or curry house whilst eating. So whether I go out and have the company of a lady to eat a nice meal and to chat to, or whether she comes to mine and we fuck all night I can come away feeling like I have had a great result.
To be honest the company and happy chat of a lady is much more rewarding than just a shag. Ok, a night of great sex after the chat is better still, but with or without I still get what I want.
HTH
Chris
Does that mean I've pulled? I know this curry house in Mansfield
ohhh i'm from Mansfield, what curry house is that then cause i enver found any good ones
Could have guessed that you'd turn up, you just wanna watch don't you?
Monsoon, wasn't impressed with the one across the road though (forget the name)
well go on then i'll watch if you insist lol
i'll pop in and see my mum while i'm up that way any way lol
Quote by marmalaid
Iv been on other sites before this one and ive noticed single men have a much harder time to find what there looking for can anyone explain why this seems to be the case?
I think that there has been so much bullshit on this thread. It's just as easy for a single male to find what he is looking for as it is for a single bifem to find what she wants.
When I first came here I had certain ideas about what I wanted, they were soon proved pretty silly (ok I was after a quick shag), so I changed what I wanted, I can now get exactly what I want pretty much any night of the week.
It depends on what you want, not what is available, so many people go through life not being happy because they are not getting what they want, I discovered that what I was after (a quick shag) was not what I wanted, what I wanted was a particular feeling, I found that I could just as easily get that by going out and playing a game of chess in a pizza shop or curry house whilst eating. So whether I go out and have the company of a lady to eat a nice meal and to chat to, or whether she comes to mine and we fuck all night I can come away feeling like I have had a great result.
To be honest the company and happy chat of a lady is much more rewarding than just a shag. Ok, a night of great sex after the chat is better still, but with or without I still get what I want.
HTH
Chris
Does that mean I've pulled? I know this curry house in Mansfield
ohhh i'm from Mansfield, what curry house is that then cause i never found any good ones
Quote by JustABloke
Is there anything wrong with, once having arrived at a meet and you dont' feel that you can go through with it (for whatever reason), to say, in a polite manner, I don't think we're right for each other, but as were here, might as make use of the time and spend some time having a few giggles?....or is that just me?
nothing wrong with that at all, i believe arranging to meet someone does not mean u will have sex with them, u arrange to meet to see if you like and if you do not you have to say, i would not like to think someone had sex with me out of obligation i would rather them say
Conversely, I wouldn't have sex with someone that either didn't fancy me, or was doing it out of obligation.....hell if I wanted that I'd get married...lol.....joking....
reminded me of summat i heard on telly last night, went along the lines ofsome guys saying.....when i meet mrs right i'm going to say no thanx i'm already married.....well i thought it was funny
Quote by JustABloke
guys posing as a woman or couple etc
I have to ask why people do this?.....do they think that when they meet, the woman/couple will say "oh well, your here now".....Muppets...complete muppets!
Well i have fell for it b4
years ago when we was very new, arranged to meet a couple and only the guy turned up and asked me to get in the car and he'd take me to his wife, obviously i was very weary and said i'd stay where i was and wait for him to come back with her, soon as he drove off i legged it home lol
But as i said i was new and u live and learn
Firstly most couples in the swinging scene have bi fems who would rather meet women than men, secondly most people in the swinging scene are single men and they greatly out number everyone else, also most of the single men are married and cheating which is not what most genuine swingers are after and thirdly if you read what little comeback people do post on time waster (that means pic collectors, no shows, guys posing as a woman or couple etc) most of them are single guys which makes you very weary of them all, saying that there are some genuine single guys on here i know a fair few but as i say in all my post of this nature guys who get known by going to munches etc do the best :thumbup:
Quote by sexyfella
so im i to understand that even though single gusy get a bad rap somtimes it works out?
Lots of single guys do well on here, i have met a fair few nice genuine guys, (ok so i've met some t**ts as well lol) but i find that the guys who take time to get to know people ie go to munches etc do the best rather than the guys who purly want to only talk to people they want sex with.
Quote by JustABloke
Is there anything wrong with, once having arrived at a meet and you dont' feel that you can go through with it (for whatever reason), to say, in a polite manner, I don't think we're right for each other, but as were here, might as make use of the time and spend some time having a few giggles?....or is that just me?
nothing wrong with that at all, i believe arranging to meet someone does not mean u will have sex with them, u arrange to meet to see if you like and if you do not you have to say, i would not like to think someone had sex with me out of obligation i would rather them say
Personally short of a sudden death in the family i don't think there's any reason at all why someone can't fire off a 10p (if that) text to say they can't show.
Now i have 3 kids and i know all to well that sometimes things come up which means you can't make your meet, like a few weeks back i was going to chams and had arranged to meet a guy there (he was going anyway) then my nipper fell of her swing and we had to take her to hospital as she had quite a serious cut to her leg but i still managed to let the guy know i wouldn't be going and get my daughter str8 to hospital for treatment, so its not hard really is it?
Now i have 3 kids and i know all to well that sometimes things come up which means you can't make your meet, like a few weeks back i was going to chams and had arranged to meet a guy there (he was going anyway) then my nipper fell of her swing and we had to take her to hospital as she had quite a serious cut to her leg but i still managed to let the guy know i wouldn't be going and get my daughter str8 to hospital for treatment, so its not hard really is it?
Quote by Robert1961
Went to a birthday party / gang bang earlier in the year
The lady wa aware of 8 guys turning up and did her best to accomodate us all but im sure she was put off by so many at once.
It was very much all in and do what you want to her, I could not see how she enjoying it.
since I have seen her with only 3 other guys and it was much more fun for all of us.
Just something to think about, smaller is better some times
With less guys the guys deffo seem to get more attention but some women like big groups and the free for all of having lots of men doing what they like to them
A gang bang :shock:
I would never do such a thing :angel:
Have to admit tho i do think 10 guys for her first go may be a little much for her and i would suggest you 'police' it rather than join in as some guys can get a bit excited and you can get pushed and pulled about a bit, so being there just for her may help her relax more and joining in wth the playing may distract you from whats going on
I would never do such a thing :angel:
Have to admit tho i do think 10 guys for her first go may be a little much for her and i would suggest you 'police' it rather than join in as some guys can get a bit excited and you can get pushed and pulled about a bit, so being there just for her may help her relax more and joining in wth the playing may distract you from whats going on
