Quote by UrbanSin
I disagree with the black and white of fantasy about a legal act is OK whilst fantasy about an illegal act is wrong. Firstly, and for the avoidance of any doubt at all I think that fantasising about any act involving children is horrid and is sufficient grounds for the involvement of the police
Let me share my own personal history....
A long long time ago... I can still remember... I answered an ad on loot (pre-internet days) . I was about 23 she was about 30. The ad was in the "naughty" section but just expressed a desire for "no strings fun" and we exchanged letters (yes - really was pre-internet) which resulted in phone calls and phone sex. During which we explored the fact that we were "sexually charged" strangers. This exploration culminated in a fantasy play. We'd never met... in fact she never knew my name but she asked that I pretend to break into her apartment and her. I was very circumspect and went to the extent of recording an entire conversation from the receptionist at her work answering the phone all the way through to her "agreeing to be " - this resulted in me knowing her name but to repeat at no point has she ever known my name. On the allotted night, I phoned her as agree from just outside her apartment, this was her cue to leave the door ajar and I entered in torch light and proceeded to play out a whole scene. We had agreed safe words and I would've stopped at the merest hint of an issue but that was not required. We both really enjoyed the experience. It was never repeated and we never met but we did talk on the phone for many months and years afterwards. She has since become a well known journalist but to this day she has very little idea of who I am.
So to get to my point. I felt that in the other thread the simplistic "legal fantasies are good.... illegal fantasies are wrong" was too simplistic. is rightly illegal but I played out a fantasy that was very enjoyable for both parties. So I reject the black and white argument that it is wrong to fantasise about illegal acts (although to make the point one last time I do feel it is abhorrent to have any sexually motivated discussion on children).
Thoughts please -which illegal acts is it ok to fantasise about and why?
The most obvoius point to me reading this is that yes, while is legal what you acted upon here wasn't actually . It was a carefully worked out and most importantly agreed upon scene between two consenting adults. There is nothing wrong with either fantasising about or doing that.
Whilst it might have been based on the concept of it wasn't actually . It was just overpowering sex and as much as you would like to think that is what you played out, its a world away from the reality. Therefore to me the legal/illegal side of the line is still simplistc and clear. If its illegal to do then you're on very shakey ground.
Its more about how we define the legal things we do to make them sound/feel like something that they're really not. You may have defined it as or play but what you fantasised about was not illegal as it wasnt truely .
It sounded like great fun incidentally.
