Turns out I can't use the chatroom unless I cough up £17 per month...I don't think so! And I am limited to 3 messages a day. I'm not going to waste them on a no thanks, so if I don't reply take it as a polite "Thanks but I am not interested". Guys, "cougar" is in the name for a reason. It appears that the term cougar needs explaining. If you are older than me, I won't be interested.