Well after 20 years of marriage we're spicing things up. We're both reasonably fit. We both have active professional working lives which keeps us busy. Rick's passion is motorcyles so keep conversation away from bike!! We've had a few fun evenings with other couples but are still pretty new to this. We don't initially want full swap but are happy with pretty much anything else and who knows where things might go with the right couple, though neither of us is into anything weird or painful. We have young kids so often can't accomodate.