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im thinking of asking admin to possibly introduce a block button on the site, im interested in finding out peoples feelings on this issue before i ask. the block button can be used to block pestly people or people you just dont get on with ie fallen out with. i know you can disable ur whisper button on chat and can change ur settings in people that can contact you via messages. please leave your thoughts thankyou mands xxxxx
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u can ignore the mgs u get in ur inbox, if u click the ignore button, u wont get mail from them again
but a block button where u can not see them in chat or they cant see ur profile would be a good thing, ive got enough stalkers on here that im trying to avoid wink
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lol i agree not bothered about messages lol, just the chat, ive been on a few sites, some free n that option is there. this is the most exspensive site ive been (but i like it lol) n it doesnt have it?????, oh well if it gets more interest ill pass it on to admin, fingers crossed lol, but not my legs lol
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Sounds good to us ,we get hassle from a certain no of guys when we are camming, it would be nice to be able to block them when they persist
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Sounds good to us ,we get hassle from a certain no of guys when we are camming, it would be nice to be able to block them when they persist

i agree fran xxxx
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lol i agree not bothered about messages lol, just the chat, ive been on a few sites, some free n that option is there. this is the most exspensive site ive been (but i like it lol) n it doesnt have it?????, oh well if it gets more interest ill pass it on to admin, fingers crossed lol, but not my legs lol

i think it will get more interest with open legs, if u mention it to people in the chat room and then send them the link to this post they can comment on it
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lol i agree not bothered about messages lol, just the chat, ive been on a few sites, some free n that option is there. this is the most exspensive site ive been (but i like it lol) n it doesnt have it?????, oh well if it gets more interest ill pass it on to admin, fingers crossed lol, but not my legs lol

i think it will get more interest with open legs, if u mention it to people in the chat room and then send them the link to this post they can comment on it
good idea ty hun xxx
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I can see the benefits of being able to block people in chat.
In the old one, you could put them on "ignore" which was handy but I think the fear is it might create even more clique-ness (yes, the dreaded C word!)and that could drive people away from using that facility at all. Not good for business!
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Quote by Marya_Northeast
I can see the benefits of being able to block people in chat.
In the old one, you could put them on "ignore" which was handy but I think the fear is it might create even more clique-ness (yes, the dreaded C word!)and that could drive people away from using that facility at all. Not good for business!

id just like it to stop some of the abuse you get, sometimes if im not interested in playing with certain ppl im called all sorts n i dont see why i should lol. xxx
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Gets my vote Mands.
It's often the best way to diffuse a situation before it can really start. We've all been in a chatroom at some point I'm sure when it gets heated and rather nasty.
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Gets my vote.
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I can see the benefits of being able to block people in chat.
In the old one, you could put them on "ignore" which was handy but I think the fear is it might create even more clique-ness (yes, the dreaded C word!)and that could drive people away from using that facility at all. Not good for business!

id just like it to stop some of the abuse you get, sometimes if im not interested in playing with certain ppl im called all sorts n i dont see why i should lol. xxx
Don't blame you. I have experienced enough of that side myself but just report 'em if they're nasty or break the rules.
I'm not against the block button, I'm just not sure admin would go for it as it's possibly not in the site's best interests.
Anyway .. will let you get back to your debate! smile
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lol if that would be admins answer my reply would be is it in your interest if more people leave, as ive known a few. £50 is a lot of money to join and another £20 for Xtras, there are alot of sites out there that are cheaper and some free that are mostly run just as well as this site. ive been in swinging for about 5 years now, and if this site continues to be of use to me with things other sites off, i wouldnt mind spending the money per year and would pay again and again each year xxxx
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Looking at this from a chatroom's op point of view....
All of the trouble makers would instantly put all the chat op's on block and then they wouldn't see any of the warnings before their screens go grey.
So immediately I can see that an over-ride would be needed.
As to your comments on other, lesser used sites have this facility I can totally agree how the option appearing on those sites would make it seem as though it would be possible.
I've been in many discussions on the development of the chatroom with admin and the biggest problem with additional features in here is the high volume of users renders most chat systems prone to crashing on a regular basis.
The theory behind a block button sounds quite appealing. However the application may not be quite so straight forward.
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Is there not a place for you to put your ideas for new chat when you sign on??
Just add whatever you would like to see and I am sure that if admin can do it and it will make the site better,then they will.
One thing that I know for sure is, admin strive to make this the best site on the net and are continually improving it as they go along.
Although some of the improvements are not to everyone's liking wink
The old saying springs to mind here" you can please some of the people some of the time etc"
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Quote by Mandsgame36
I can see the benefits of being able to block people in chat.
In the old one, you could put them on "ignore" which was handy but I think the fear is it might create even more clique-ness (yes, the dreaded C word!)and that could drive people away from using that facility at all. Not good for business!

id just like it to stop some of the abuse you get, sometimes if im not interested in playing with certain ppl im called all sorts n i dont see why i should lol. xxx
Just wanted to add that if you are receiving abuse from other members then you can use the 'report' button on their profile and Admin will look at the logs and take appropriate action. No means no and it's your choice to meet or not meet who you want, receiving abuse for the choices you make is unacceptable. Please either do that or drop one of the chatops a PM and report it that way.
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I agree with ian chat ops would be instantly blocked and it would be hard for adin to filter the so they could be safe from it...however a few sites n chatrooms over the years have had the room ops doindg the blocking IE you go to them with the coplaint and if they decide you have a decent reason they will activate the block feature.
Can it be done on here, i dunno.
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I like the idea of a little more control over who we are contacted by and how. This is something that we have asked for several times when we have been asked our opinion on how to improve the site. It could work, really it could!
Chat-Ops would need an override, but that's no major problem, it's only a simple piece of code. In all honesty a chat-op isn't likely to bother anyone so nobody would try blocking them anyway, apart from the minority of people that cause grief in the chat room in the first place. As I said before, a simple piece of code rendering them unblockable would prevent this from being an issue.
Other block options could be explored to prevent 'some' of the problems that occur. For example, wouldn't it be nice to be able to block certain people from seeing your profile? either as an individual or as a demographic group. Imagine it as a reverse of the current search facility whereby you select the types of profiles you don't want to be able to see your profile, rather than the type of profile you want to see. Of course this might lead to a lot of people blocking single male profiles, lol.
Yes it's true that this might lead people to upload spoof profiles, but there are verification methods used on other sites that SH could learn from.
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Quote by Trevaunance
In all honesty a chat-op isn't likely to bother anyone so nobody would try blocking them anyway

You must remember that some if not all the chat ops joined the site for the same reason as you did......
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You must remember that some if not all the chat ops joined the site for the same reason as you did.

My wife scared them into it too?!?!
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Quote by Trevaunance
You must remember that some if not all the chat ops joined the site for the same reason as you did.

My wife scared them into it too?!?!
Yep..... and can you ask her to pack the PM's in now please. biggrin (I'd do it myself, but I'm too scared. :eeek: :scared: )
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Last night my wife and I were on cam on server one when our evening was ruined by one individual.
We were sat at the PC, chatting not performing and having quite a pleasant time of things in a very busy room. A chap then started to type to the room in general, insulting my wife. Things like, 'she's only got long hair so it covers her face' enough was enough so we turned our cam off. His reaction? he said 'thank god for that, it was making my eyes bleed'!
Now the problem is that there is nothing we could do to stop him from seeing us, other than turn off our cam. He has all the control and we left the room for a while until we were told that he had gone by a very nice couple we had never chatted to before.
Yes we can ignore his emails, but we cant stop him from viewing our cam, we cant stop him typing insults in the chat room and we cant prevent him from ruining our night on another occasion.
We have had the same problem with this guy for nigh on three years, so it's not an isolated incident, and it began when he didn't understand the meaning of the word no.
We have approached chat-ops about it before, and I understand their position, but they told us he hadn't broken site rules and therefore nothing can be done about it. Conversely we noticed him come into a room we had opened a few months ago and kicked him straight away. We were then threatened with an indefinite ban because we kicked him without reason or warning!
So with all this in mind the ability to block this person would have been a welcome facility last night.
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Last night my wife and I were on cam on server one when our evening was ruined by one individual.
We were sat at the PC, chatting not performing and having quite a pleasant time of things in a very busy room. A chap then started to type to the room in general, insulting my wife. Things like, 'she's only got long hair so it covers her face' enough was enough so we turned our cam off. His reaction? he said 'thank god for that, it was making my eyes bleed'!
Now the problem is that there is nothing we could do to stop him from seeing us, other than turn off our cam. He has all the control and we left the room for a while until we were told that he had gone by a very nice couple we had never chatted to before.
Yes we can ignore his emails, but we cant stop him from viewing our cam, we cant stop him typing insults in the chat room and we cant prevent him from ruining our night on another occasion.
We have had the same problem with this guy for nigh on three years, so it's not an isolated incident, and it began when he didn't understand the meaning of the word no.
We have approached chat-ops about it before, and I understand their position, but they told us he hadn't broken site rules and therefore nothing can be done about it. Conversely we noticed him come into a room we had opened a few months ago and kicked him straight away. We were then threatened with an indefinite ban because we kicked him without reason or warning!
So with all this in mind the ability to block this person would have been a welcome facility last night.

The bit in bold is a breach of the rules. If you report the person, giving the name of the room then we can have Admin check the logs and take appropriate action. It's unacceptable to abuse other members. If you don't report it then there's nothing we can do. Reacting by kicking him when he comes into a room that you're hosting without reason or warning just puts you in the wrong. The old saying 'two wrongs don't make a right' comes into play... deal with it through the proper channels and you'll not be in the wrong with the possibility of receiving a ban yourselves.
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We have reported it before, and as previously stated we were told it wasn't against the site rules. But that's by the by now.
Ultimately it's another example of why a blocking facility would be a good idea. Since we joined this site almost six years ago the emphasise seems to have been on opening up communications. Yet there have been no improvements IMHO to prevent attention from people you don't want to deal with. All anyone can do is ignore it or report it, but not prevent it.
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Quote by Trevaunance
We have reported it before, and as previously stated we were told it wasn't against the site rules. But that's by the by now.
Ultimately it's another example of why a blocking facility would be a good idea. Since we joined this site almost six years ago the emphasise seems to have been on opening up communications. Yet there have been no improvements IMHO to prevent attention from people you don't want to deal with. All anyone can do is ignore it or report it, but not prevent it.

I'm not sure who told you that abuse was not against site rules as it clearly states in both the chatroom rules and the AUP that abuse is not acceptable and will not be tolerated.
Chatroom Rules
AUP
Abuse will be prevented, persistent offenders will be removed on a permanent basis so if this keeps happening to you then you should report it.
Feel free to PM me further details if you'd like help with it.
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I'm not sure who told you that abuse was not against site rules as it clearly states in both the chatroom rules and the AUP that abuse is not acceptable and will not be tolerated.

The Chat-op didn't think it classed as abuse as it wasn't 'spoken' directly to ourselves. They considered it more as an expression of opinion.
As I stated before I understand the Chat ops position, I didn't like it at the time, but I understand it. However the addition of some kind of blocking facility would at least prevent reoccurences of the event.
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I'm not sure who told you that abuse was not against site rules as it clearly states in both the chatroom rules and the AUP that abuse is not acceptable and will not be tolerated.

The Chat-op didn't think it classed as abuse as it wasn't 'spoken' directly to ourselves. They considered it more as an expression of opinion.
As I stated before I understand the Chat ops position, I didn't like it at the time, but I understand it. However the addition of some kind of blocking facility would at least prevent reoccurences of the event.
Well the comments you mentioned above sound to me like they were directed at you so I'd be inclined to take further action. There's really no need to be rude, if people don't like cams then don't watch them. If someone is sitting watching and making such derogatory remarks then that is unacceptable. In future, if it happens again, then please report it.
I understand the appeal of the block function... I'm just not sure I'd use it.
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I understand the appeal of the block function... I'm just not sure I'd use it.

I understand the appeal of mountain climbing, but I'm not going up Everest this weekend ;)
It would be no different from any other aspect of this site in that respect. The IM, details on your profile, photo's, Shrep, the playroom, chatrooms, even this forum can all be used or not, depending on what the member wants.
Essentially it is no different from the ignore facility built into the email system, except it would be site wide. Every member would have the right to use or not use the block facility as they see fit. But at least they would control over prevention, rather than relying on a cure.
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Quote by Trevaunance
I understand the appeal of the block function... I'm just not sure I'd use it.

I understand the appeal of mountain climbing, but I'm not going up Everest this weekend ;)
It would be no different from any other aspect of this site in that respect. The IM, details on your profile, photo's, Shrep, the playroom, chatrooms, even this forum can all be used or not, depending on what the member wants.
Essentially it is no different from the ignore facility built into the email system, except it would be site wide. Every member would have the right to use or not use the block facility as they see fit. But at least they would control over prevention, rather than relying on a cure.
Fair comment.
I guess I just use my own block function. :mrgreen: