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Quote by AtomCom2001
Well why don't we have a poll about it and see what the response is..?
We have lots of speculation on this... Why not get some real facts....

I knew I shouldn't have posted, I need to go shopping and I can't stop myself now :doh: :lol2:
It is well known that the majority of chatroom users don't even venture into the forum so having a vote would just show completely bias results.
If they did, surely there would be more comments here in this forum than there already are dunno
52 are on the forum now, 979 are in chat and the numbers are pretty accurate as I can see the chat servers :thumbup:
Edit because I had the wrong amount of people on the forum, it was less than I had put
Quote by Mallock2006

Well why don't we have a poll about it and see what the response is..?
We have lots of speculation on this... Why not get some real facts....

Quote by AtomCom2001
perhaps a poll to gague views then lol

I think the answer to this is a no.. Because I try to setup a poll and the 'powers that B' removed it...
sorry
Think you've answered your own question earlierin the thread...
Yes that is correct the did remove my last poll.. But what are the frightened of..? The do not mind silly polls on what type of pc there are using, but if it a poll about the something to do with the site its self they do not seem to want it..
From the amount of views and posts this topic has got from males, females and couples I would say that this seems to be a important topic to people.
There has been a comment that it is only single males that do not want this feature, but just scanning though the posts you can see that it is just not the case.
Quote by Dawnie
Well why don't we have a poll about it and see what the response is..?
We have lots of speculation on this... Why not get some real facts....

I knew I shouldn't have posted, I need to go shopping and I can't stop myself now :doh: :lol2:
It is well known that the majority of chatroom users don't even venture into the forum so having a vote would just show completely bias results.
If they did, surely there would be more comments here in this forum than there already are dunno
52 are on the forum now, 979 are in chat and the numbers are pretty accurate as I can see the chat servers :thumbup:
So are you saying that the people the use the forum are not indicitive of those that use the chat rooms?
A poll is a poll, 50% is 50%, I am sure the people that use the forum have the same thoughts, wants, needs, opioins as those that use the chat rooms do you not agree?
Quote by AtomCom2001
So are you saying that the people the use the forum are not indicitive of those that use the chat rooms?

Yes, that is what I am saying. Such as those members that only use the ads are not going to have the same opinion as others of the chatrooms or forums.
Quote by AtomCom2001
A poll is a poll, 50% is 50%, I am sure the people that use the forum have the same thoughts, wants, needs, opioins as those that use the chat rooms do you not agree?

I do not agree :thumbup:
Think of it along these lines:
You have a poll saying "is it a good idea to have sex with multiple partners at the same time?"
Ask that question in a swingers club and the poll would be likely to be 100% in favour.
Now ask that same question at your local church during Sunday service - same result? I very much doubt it!
There are a lot of people using the chatrooms who don't even know the forums exist!!
Mal
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Quote by Mal
Think of it along these lines:
You have a poll saying "is it a good idea to have sex with multiple partners at the same time?"
Ask that question in a swingers club and the poll would be likely to be 100% in favour.
Now ask that same question at your local church during Sunday service - same result? I very much doubt it!
There are a lot of people using the chatrooms who don't even know the forums exist!!
Mal
wink

I do think a lot of people of this site might disagree with you there.. But then again I could be wrong. I will wait with interest on peoples comments to that statment
Quote by AtomCom2001
Think of it along these lines:
You have a poll saying "is it a good idea to have sex with multiple partners at the same time?"
Ask that question in a swingers club and the poll would be likely to be 100% in favour.
Now ask that same question at your local church during Sunday service - same result? I very much doubt it!
There are a lot of people using the chatrooms who don't even know the forums exist!!
Mal
wink

I do think a lot of people of this site might disagree with you there.. But then again I could be wrong. I will wait with interest on peoples comments to that statment
Why do you think they might disagree with me? Care to explain your reasoning?
Quote by Mal
Think of it along these lines:
You have a poll saying "is it a good idea to have sex with multiple partners at the same time?"
Ask that question in a swingers club and the poll would be likely to be 100% in favour.
Now ask that same question at your local church during Sunday service - same result? I very much doubt it!
There are a lot of people using the chatrooms who don't even know the forums exist!!
Mal
wink

I do think a lot of people of this site might disagree with you there.. But then again I could be wrong. I will wait with interest on peoples comments to that statment
Why do you think they might disagree with me? Care to explain your reasoning?
What is the title of this forum?
Quote by AtomCom2001
Think of it along these lines:
You have a poll saying "is it a good idea to have sex with multiple partners at the same time?"
Ask that question in a swingers club and the poll would be likely to be 100% in favour.
Now ask that same question at your local church during Sunday service - same result? I very much doubt it!
There are a lot of people using the chatrooms who don't even know the forums exist!!
Mal
wink

I do think a lot of people of this site might disagree with you there.. But then again I could be wrong. I will wait with interest on peoples comments to that statment
Why do you think they might disagree with me? Care to explain your reasoning?
What is the title of this forum?
That doesn't answer the question at all, does it?
Quote by Mallock2006
However, when the new Chatroom finally opens rolleyes :roll: you will be able to open Couples only rooms. confused :? :?

There are only a few people making a comment on the likes or dislikes of a couples only room on this thread but within the chatroom, there are tons and tons of people asking for couples only rooms. The option to select couples only profiles when opening a chatroom has been built into the new version of chat, by request.
Not because OPs have asked for it, we are just willing to try it to see if it helps cut down on any complaints from couples about nasty single men :roll:
If it doesn't work out and causes more problems, we'll be asking Elliot to take it away again :lol2:
My personal opinion is, I wouldn't be happy chatting in a couples only room. Not only do I like single men but I'd rather just chat to anyone :?
The only people likely to complain are the "nasty" single guys who have been complained about by the couples and they are the ones the new facility has been designed to exclude so they are bound to be upset...
I just think its a totally pants idea and just serves to create a bigger divide :-(
It may well create a " divide ", but if it stops the comments from the " nasty " guys, for us it will be well worth it. Mrs777 would never go on cam outside the Kent room, as at least in there, she has some protection! Having a poll would serve no benefit at all, but where is the problem to have 1 room out of loads, for couples who want to meet other couples, but more importantly, to get away from the foul guys who use this site. By that I don't mean all guys, but the ones who use this site to be foul spoil it for many others. That is a fact that only really couples or fems can justify.
We were in a room last night and guys were inundating people on cam with whispers and comments like " open your legs so i can see ya pussy ". Not nice is it? That was just one of many, and that was one of the nicer things said. Until people ignore the whispers or report these people to admin, it will continue to happen.
Quote by Mal
Think of it along these lines:
You have a poll saying "is it a good idea to have sex with multiple partners at the same time?"
Ask that question in a swingers club and the poll would be likely to be 100% in favour.
Now ask that same question at your local church during Sunday service - same result? I very much doubt it!
There are a lot of people using the chatrooms who don't even know the forums exist!!
Mal
wink

I do think a lot of people of this site might disagree with you there.. But then again I could be wrong. I will wait with interest on peoples comments to that statment
Why do you think they might disagree with me? Care to explain your reasoning?
What is the title of this forum?
That doesn't answer the question at all, does it?
What I am saying (and please do not think I am being difficult or annoying for the sake of it) is that people generally on a forum about a particular subject have an interest or knowledge on that subject. Your analogy would have only been correct if this forum was about say HIFI systems.. but it is not, it is a forum about the chatrooms on the Swinging Heaven site. So I would suggest that people that use this room have an interest in the chatrooms. So I would say that their views are very close to that of the chatroom users.
But like I said I am not just trying to be annoying, I am just trying point out a view. I have to admit I have 2 profiles one as single male and 1 with my partner as a couple. So I not just a single male feel down trodden on... hehe
Quote by naughtynymphos1
Personally i think a couples only chat room will help the single guys, after all if your looking for couples then surely you want to be talking to couples after single men, if the couples that are after other couples use the couples only room then your not going to waste your time talking to people who dont want to meet you lol

I agree. But I also think it's the 'only' bit that's causing the problem. Personally I don't understand why a single, male or female, would want to go into a room called 'couples seeking couples' (note the lack of the word 'only') unless they get their kicks agrivating people. Sensible room hosting gets rid of the idiots most of the time. Just because someone has a couple's profile does not mean they're not going to cause agrivation in a room or that they are indeed a couple.
There has been mention of the parallel between a couples only rooms in chat and a singles only social. I don't think it's the same (of course I would say that wouldn't I biggrin ). For a social you have to travel to get there, you only have limited places and no-one else can wonder in and out. In chat if you don't like the room you're in you can just make another one.
Stands back and waits for ridicule and derision.
H.x
Quote by H-x
Personally i think a couples only chat room will help the single guys, after all if your looking for couples then surely you want to be talking to couples after single men, if the couples that are after other couples use the couples only room then your not going to waste your time talking to people who dont want to meet you lol

I agree. But I also think it's the 'only' bit that's causing the problem. Personally I don't understand why a single, male or female, would want to go into a room called 'couples seeking couples' (note the lack of the word 'only') unless they get their kicks agrivating people. Sensible room hosting gets rid of the idiots most of the time. Just because someone has a couple's profile does not mean they're not going to cause agrivation in a room or that they are indeed a couple.
There has been mention of the parallel between a couples only rooms in chat and a singles only social. I don't think it's the same (of course I would say that wouldn't I biggrin ). For a social you have to travel to get there, you only have limited places and no-one else can wonder in and out. In chat if you don't like the room you're in you can just make another one.
Stands back and waits for ridicule and derision.
H.x
A very good question indeed!! WHY would a single guy go into a room that clearly states " couples for couples ONLY " ? Now if we can find the real answer to that one, it would solve a lot of things on this thread. Somebody will no doubt say " because they can " but thats not the answer. Is it to perve, or to annoy? Or are they just chancers hoping that if there is only couples in the room, that they may change a couples mind and maybe meet them? Whatever the reason people must know that if you are a single guy, and go into a room that clearly states couples ONLY, surely they must know it will annoy?
Quote by kentswingers777
A very good question indeed!! WHY would a single guy go into a room that clearly states " couples for couples ONLY " ? Now if we can find the real answer to that one, it would solve a lot of things on this thread. Somebody will no doubt say " because they can " but thats not the answer. Is it to perve, or to annoy? Or are they just chancers hoping that if there is only couples in the room, that they may change a couples mind and maybe meet them? Whatever the reason people must know that if you are a single guy, and go into a room that clearly states couples ONLY, surely they must know it will annoy?

I think you've missed my point a little, I'm not great at expaining things biggrin
My point was that it's the word 'only' that is causing the problems. I don't see the harm in a single person going in the room so long as they don't annoy anyone, I just don't understand why they would want to.
I don't tend to go on cam but I've had as many unwanted whispers from couples as single guys and even single women, even though my profile says I'm not looking for them. Like I said, sensible room hosting is the best way to get rid of this, however kicking someone merely because they have a certain profile and before they've even put finger to keyboard is not entirely fair is it?
H.x
Quote by kentswingers777
Personally i think a couples only chat room will help the single guys, after all if your looking for couples then surely you want to be talking to couples after single men, if the couples that are after other couples use the couples only room then your not going to waste your time talking to people who dont want to meet you lol

I agree. But I also think it's the 'only' bit that's causing the problem. Personally I don't understand why a single, male or female, would want to go into a room called 'couples seeking couples' (note the lack of the word 'only') unless they get their kicks agrivating people. Sensible room hosting gets rid of the idiots most of the time. Just because someone has a couple's profile does not mean they're not going to cause agrivation in a room or that they are indeed a couple.
There has been mention of the parallel between a couples only rooms in chat and a singles only social. I don't think it's the same (of course I would say that wouldn't I biggrin ). For a social you have to travel to get there, you only have limited places and no-one else can wonder in and out. In chat if you don't like the room you're in you can just make another one.
Stands back and waits for ridicule and derision.
H.x
A very good question indeed!! WHY would a single guy go into a room that clearly states " couples for couples ONLY " ? Now if we can find the real answer to that one, it would solve a lot of things on this thread. Somebody will no doubt say " because they can " but thats not the answer. Is it to perve, or to annoy? Or are they just chancers hoping that if there is only couples in the room, that they may change a couples mind and maybe meet them? Whatever the reason people must know that if you are a single guy, and go into a room that clearly states couples ONLY, surely they must know it will annoy?
Maybe it's because the very same couples are also actively seeking single men as well. Wanting your cake AND eating it? I couldn't help but notice that you are actively advertising for single men.
While this is your choice and one that you are entitled to, I think it strikes at the heart of this debate. It is also entirely possible that some people might find this a tad confusing to say the least.
I'm not trying to criticize you in any way, but I'm trying to highlight the fact that it isn't such a clear cut problem, and that some couples, not you neccessarily, are clearly complicit in making the "problem" worse.
Quote by H-x
Personally i think a couples only chat room will help the single guys, after all if your looking for couples then surely you want to be talking to couples after single men, if the couples that are after other couples use the couples only room then your not going to waste your time talking to people who dont want to meet you lol

I agree. But I also think it's the 'only' bit that's causing the problem. Personally I don't understand why a single, male or female, would want to go into a room called 'couples seeking couples' (note the lack of the word 'only') unless they get their kicks agrivating people. Sensible room hosting gets rid of the idiots most of the time. Just because someone has a couple's profile does not mean they're not going to cause agrivation in a room or that they are indeed a couple.
There has been mention of the parallel between a couples only rooms in chat and a singles only social. I don't think it's the same (of course I would say that wouldn't I biggrin ). For a social you have to travel to get there, you only have limited places and no-one else can wonder in and out. In chat if you don't like the room you're in you can just make another one.
Stands back and waits for ridicule and derision.
H.x
Ridicule and derision …………………though I also plan to add handcuffs and candle wax!
Seriously though, a couples only room, and a singles only social are the same, because they are exclusive. How long it takes to get there and how many places are there when you do, are of no real importance.
Clarify what you mean by this would you H, I don’t want to go AH HA! :bounce: The murderer is……. Only for you to say…er…actually that’s not what I meant. redface
“In chat if you don't like the room you're in you can just make another one.”
Isnt the chatroom a facility for chatting to people dunno
I dont recall them ever being a medium soley used for arranging meets :dunno:
Lots of couples here and singles alike actually use the chatrooms to chat to people they have met at socials etc and have no intention of playing with but have become good friends...
If couples in a room have no intention of playing with single guys then they dont have to talk to them do they.....
If some single guys are nasty then use the proper channels and report them stating room name,server number and approximate time and action will be taken against them....
Seems a shame to exclude the many many single guys who are pleasant because of the behaviour of a few...
BBW_lover, H-X etc.. maybe you should check this out seems we do not relly know what is going on..
Quote by Dawnie
So are you saying that the people the use the forum are not indicitive of those that use the chat rooms?

Yes, that is what I am saying. Such as those members that only use the ads are not going to have the same opinion as others of the chatrooms or forums.
Quote by AtomCom2001
A poll is a poll, 50% is 50%, I am sure the people that use the forum have the same thoughts, wants, needs, opioins as those that use the chat rooms do you not agree?

I do not agree :thumbup:
Quote by Mallock2006
Isnt the chatroom a facility for chatting to people dunno
I dont recall them ever being a medium soley used for arranging meets :dunno:
Lots of couples here and singles alike actually use the chatrooms to chat to people they have met at socials etc and have no intention of playing with but have become good friends...
If couples in a room have no intention of playing with single guys then they dont have to talk to them do they.....
If some single guys are nasty then use the proper channels and report them stating room name,server number and approximate time and action will be taken against them....
Seems a shame to exclude the many many single guys who are pleasant because of the behaviour of a few...

:thumbup::thumbup::thumbup::thumbup::thumbup:
All extremely valid points.
Quote by Stormwalker
Ridicule and derision …………………though I also plan to add handcuffs and candle wax!
Seriously though, a couples only room, and a singles only social are the same, because they are exclusive. How long it takes to get there and how many places are there when you do, are of no real importance.
Clarify what you mean by this would you H, I don’t want to go AH HA! :bounce: The murderer is……. Only for you to say…er…actually that’s not what I meant. redface
“In chat if you don't like the room you're in you can just make another one.”

OK, make sure the hand cuffs are fur lined.
I'll try to explain slightly better.
If you have a room entittled 'couples seeking couples' you'd go in if you were a couple looking for another couple, yes? It involves very little effort on your part, a click of the mouse. If you don't like it in there you move on to another room.
The same would be true for a singles room in chat, it would be there for singles looking for other singles, why would you go in if you were a couple? Your presence there isn't stopping someone else who is actually looking for what's in the room from being there, unless it's very busy, and when you move on it makes way for them.
With a social, where you actually have to travel, usually some distance, to get there. The places are limited so your being there is stopping someone else from attending. If it's a singles social, why would a couple wish to attend? Yes, I reaslise that socials are just that, events where people can get together and be social, it's not a meet market (sorry I've been wanting to use that pun for a while) but the social that I think we're all talking about came into being because several single swingers said they'd like to meet other single swingers in a social environment. Yes you can do that at a normal social but at the end of the day it's a numbers game. A normal social 80% of the attendees would be couples, if you don't want to meet couples that limits your choice somewhat.
And the murderer is.........
H.x
Quote by H-x

A very good question indeed!! WHY would a single guy go into a room that clearly states " couples for couples ONLY " ? Now if we can find the real answer to that one, it would solve a lot of things on this thread. Somebody will no doubt say " because they can " but thats not the answer. Is it to perve, or to annoy? Or are they just chancers hoping that if there is only couples in the room, that they may change a couples mind and maybe meet them? Whatever the reason people must know that if you are a single guy, and go into a room that clearly states couples ONLY, surely they must know it will annoy?

I think you've missed my point a little, I'm not great at expaining things biggrin
My point was that it's the word 'only' that is causing the problems. I don't see the harm in a single person going in the room so long as they don't annoy anyone, I just don't understand why they would want to.
I don't tend to go on cam but I've had as many unwanted whispers from couples as single guys and even single women, even though my profile says I'm not looking for them. Like I said, sensible room hosting is the best way to get rid of this, however kicking someone merely because they have a certain profile and before they've even put finger to keyboard is not entirely fair is it?
H.x
This comment shouldn't be ignored and I think the Ops should make special note of this too. The idea that all single guys are automatically are problem is akin to saying all men are rapists.
When you've 'solved' the problem with all these "nasty" male types, what do you intend to do with everyone else????
What we need is a muppet filter but then I fear the chat rooms would be empty biggrin
H.x
Quote by H-x
What we need is a muppet filter but then I fear the chat rooms would be empty biggrin
H.x

H-x - you're too clever for this place.
… and you've given away my master plan.
:lol2:
Quote by bbw_lover
This comment shouldn't be ignored and I think the Ops should make special note of this too. The idea that all single guys are automatically are problem is akin to saying all men are rapists.
When you've 'solved' the problem with all these "nasty" male types, what do you intend to do with everyone else????

If you was to read my previous posts, I never said ALL guys were like this!! To prove a point go onto the chat on a Fri or Sat night after the pubs have shut. See the comments that get posted then. As we have also said we have met some really nice guys from this site, so that does not mean all guys are like this.....does it? As far as I am concerned this thread has run its course, and no nearer to reaching a conclusion other than whether you like it or not, the new chat will feature a couples only room. Time will then tell if it was a good idea.
Quote by H-x
OK, make sure the hand cuffs are fur lined. And Pink? rolleyes
I'll try to explain slightly better.
If you have a room entittled 'couples seeking couples' you'd go in if you were a couple looking for another couple, yes? It involves very little effort on your part, a click of the mouse. If you don't like it in there you move on to another room.
The same would be true for a singles room in chat, it would be there for singles looking for other singles, why would you go in if you were a couple? Your presence there isn't stopping someone else who is actually looking for what's in the room from being there, unless it's very busy, and when you move on it makes way for them.
With a social, where you actually have to travel, usually some distance, to get there. The places are limited so your being there is stopping someone else from attending. If it's a singles social, why would a couple wish to attend? Yes, I reaslise that socials are just that, events where people can get together and be social, it's not a meet market (sorry I've been wanting to use that pun for a while) but the social that I think we're all talking about came into being because several single swingers said they'd like to meet other single swingers in a social environment. Yes you can do that at a normal social but at the end of the day it's a numbers game. A normal social 80% of the attendees would be couples, if you don't want to meet couples that limits your choice somewhat.
Tell you what, obviously we are going to have to agree to disagree on this, I see no difference between the two, and you do. C’est la vie. kiss
And the murderer is.........Undergoing further questioning by an eminent Scottish criminal psychologist innocent
H.x
Quote by kentswingers777

This comment shouldn't be ignored and I think the Ops should make special note of this too. The idea that all single guys are automatically are problem is akin to saying all men are rapists.
When you've 'solved' the problem with all these "nasty" male types, what do you intend to do with everyone else????

If you was to read my previous posts, I never said ALL guys were like this!! To prove a point go onto the chat on a Fri or Sat night after the pubs have shut. See the comments that get posted then. As we have also said we have met some really nice guys from this site, so that does not mean all guys are like this.....does it? As far as I am concerned this thread has run its course, and no nearer to reaching a conclusion other than whether you like it or not, the new chat will feature a couples only room. Time will then tell if it was a good idea.
So what was the point of the post then????????????
Quote by bbw_lover

This comment shouldn't be ignored and I think the Ops should make special note of this too. The idea that all single guys are automatically are problem is akin to saying all men are rapists.
When you've 'solved' the problem with all these "nasty" male types, what do you intend to do with everyone else????

If you was to read my previous posts, I never said ALL guys were like this!! To prove a point go onto the chat on a Fri or Sat night after the pubs have shut. See the comments that get posted then. As we have also said we have met some really nice guys from this site, so that does not mean all guys are like this.....does it? As far as I am concerned this thread has run its course, and no nearer to reaching a conclusion other than whether you like it or not, the new chat will feature a couples only room. Time will then tell if it was a good idea.
So what was the point of the post then????????????
I give up !!
Yes muppet filter gets our vote.
Exccept for Mr Snuffolopocus, though technically he is was from Sesame Street so not sure if that counts.
It has to be said having read all the deluge of comments recently posted, some very good points have been raised.
If there was a couples 4 couples room (regardless of if the word 'only' was used in it or not) and it was only accessed by people with couples profiles. Then it would not to be wrong to make the logical assumption that those people using that room at that particular moment in time, were looking for couples, and looking to talk to couples, as opposed to coming into the room for a gold old gossip and a chinwag. Again if that was a room aimed at couples who wanted to meet other couples then one would have to wonder why singles would want to go in there?
We are not suggesting it as the way fowards, but it seems to use that argument has some validity. If on the other hand people feel it would die a death for this reason because people would never use it because either the majority disagreed with its existence, or there wasn't a need for it, well it would be quickly proven to be correct, as it would remain either empty or largely unused.
I think there is also a valid argument to a degree about equal membership access and being able to state preferences on your profile anyway, which gives people a clear idea of what you want. Funny thing is, that simply doesnt work. Many profiles including ours tell people not to send us a standard response, but we will still get several of those a week anyway (even from couples, I must fairly point out)
I am not sure what the best solution is here, but I do know alot of people don't use chat at all because of the problems they have had with it, similar in nature to ours. And the fact of the matter is, they don't want to complain about it and get involved in all that, they don't even want to post about it in here. They simply just left chat and do it all by mail instead. That doesn't seem right either.
I guess the moral of the tale is an all too familar one, you can please some people, some of the time, but never all of the people, all of the time.
Quote by H-x
I don't tend to go on cam but I've had as many unwanted whispers from couples as single guys and even single women, even though my profile says I'm not looking for them. Like I said, sensible room hosting is the best way to get rid of this, however kicking someone merely because they have a certain profile and before they've even put finger to keyboard is not entirely fair is it?
H.x

I am sure most people know the rules of using chat and will report anyone they feel has become a nuisance - and I have to agree with H-X - it is NOT always single males who whisper uninvited.
I have lost count of the times I have been in chat in my non op account, only to get whispers asking if I want to talk dirty with them/swap MSN details/go on cam etc etc - and probably at a ratio of 1 in 4 of such whispers are from couples accounts confused
So I, as I am sure have the other op's had first hand experience of this.
H-X also says about booting someone on account of their status not being fair - I agree - but it is also against the rules and anyone who is reported as doing so, will have the room logs checked by admin and receive an official warning or ban, depending on the severity of the situation.
Quote by bbw_lover
I think the Ops should make special note of this too. The idea that all single guys are automatically are problem is akin to saying all men are rapists.

This statement I do have a problem with and hope that it may be that I have taken it out of context.
It reads to me that the suggestion is that the op's are on the look out for single males causing problems - almost as if we are persecuting them, and perhaps not noticing any other account status which may also cause trouble? :shock: :?
If that is what is being inferred, I can only say how sad that makes me feel as a op sad
Every single one of us work bloody hard behind the scenes, and I can say in all honesty, there is not one single chat op that I would see as being as bigoted as to single out certain accounts types for special note as to their behaviour.
Day in, day out, we see problems arise involving ALL account types.
We treat them all the same - and single males certainly do NOT get treated more harshly than couples or fems.
My personal feeling is this - we only ever swing with single males - and we have met some fantastic guys from this site and have remained very close friends with many of them. Thus we know first hand that not all single guys are idiots.
However, when we go in to chat - that is what we do - chat.
I couldn't give a fiddler's fart if the guy I am talking to is a 3ft midget with one leg - no offense to midgets with one leg btw ;-)
Of if the couple have only one eye each in the middle of their forehead lol
We are there to CHAT!
I am personally not a fan of segregating rooms by account types, but since having couples only rooms was one of the most requested features for the new chat rooms, it is one that will be provided on a trial basis. As Dawn says, if it doesn't work out, then it will be removed.
Now can we all get back to chatting nicely again? biggrin
TJ
Quote by RedHot

I don't tend to go on cam but I've had as many unwanted whispers from couples as single guys and even single women, even though my profile says I'm not looking for them. Like I said, sensible room hosting is the best way to get rid of this, however kicking someone merely because they have a certain profile and before they've even put finger to keyboard is not entirely fair is it?
H.x

I am sure most people know the rules of using chat and will report anyone they feel has become a nuisance - and I have to agree with H-X - it is NOT always single males who whisper uninvited.
I have lost count of the times I have been in chat in my non op account, only to get whispers asking if I want to talk dirty with them/swap MSN details/go on cam etc etc - and probably at a ratio of 1 in 4 of such whispers are from couples accounts confused
So I, as I am sure have the other op's had first hand experience of this.
H-X also says about booting someone on account of their status not being fair - I agree - but it is also against the rules and anyone who is reported as doing so, will have the room logs checked by admin and receive an official warning or ban, depending on the severity of the situation.
Quote by bbw_lover
I think the Ops should make special note of this too. The idea that all single guys are automatically are problem is akin to saying all men are rapists.

This statement I do have a problem with and hope that it may be that I have taken it out of context.
It reads to me that the suggestion is that the op's are on the look out for single males causing problems - almost as if we are persecuting them, and perhaps not noticing any other account status which may also cause trouble? :shock: :?
If that is what is being inferred, I can only say how sad that makes me feel as a op sad
Every single one of us work bloody hard behind the scenes, and I can say in all honesty, there is not one single chat op that I would see as being as bigoted as to single out certain accounts types for special note as to their behaviour.
Day in, day out, we see problems arise involving ALL account types.
We treat them all the same - and single males certainly do NOT get treated more harshly than couples or fems.
My personal feeling is this - we only ever swing with single males - and we have met some fantastic guys from this site and have remained very close friends with many of them. Thus we know first hand that not all single guys are idiots.
However, when we go in to chat - that is what we do - chat.
I couldn't give a fiddler's fart if the guy I am talking to is a 3ft midget with one leg - no offense to midgets with one leg btw ;-)
Of if the couple have only one eye each in the middle of their forehead lol
We are there to CHAT!
I am personally not a fan of segregating rooms by account types, but since having couples only rooms was one of the most requested features for the new chat rooms, it is one that will be provided on a trial basis. As Dawn says, if it doesn't work out, then it will be removed.
Now can we all get back to chatting nicely again? biggrin
TJ
No this wasn't an accusation aimed at you at all. I was simply refering to a previous comment which hightlighted the fact that it wasn't just single guys behaving badly, and I felt it was an important point.
:D