Has finally managed to kick BT's ass and has my net back and just entered the chat rooms...... er... where is the chat??? Ive spent last 20 mins watching peeps advertise themselves lol Never mind, im used to talking to myself hahahaha
Well in many ways your right, most of the chatrooms are not about chatting, they are about exhibitionists doing what they enjoy and voyeurs watching them do it, about guys raining praise on every woman who shows a bit of leg or a cleavage, this is what cams and cam rooms are for no matter what else you think, if you want to have a private cam to cam chat you use msn or the like. It wasn't always that way and for swingers who are looking for real meets they are a bit of a pain in the ass, attracting thousands of people who have no intention of ever meeting anyone but do enjoy watching and performing. There is nothing wrong with this, most swinging sites have found that offering this form of service on swinging sites is very lucrative when it comes to membership fees and advertising. Those that are here for that are happy in what they do and if it is not for you avoid those chatrooms. The downside is that it does attract more dreamers to the site, those that talk the talk but never walk the walk, they chat about meets, even arrange them but never get round to doing it, they make no effort with pictures or profile text because they don't need it, some even think they will meet, the adrenalin gets going they make the right noises but then when they do get a meet the adrenalin levels drop and they can't be bothered going through with it. So it is up to the individual to decide what they want from the scene, if you only want to watch or perform on cam, have a great time doing that, if your honest put that on your profile, "only here for socialising" you will get a lot more respect for that, in the same way that many people who don't want cam chat, pictures swapping, cyber sex put that on thier profile. If your here to meet people look for the tell tale signs, how long has the person been a member, what shrep do they have, how far away are they, have they made an effort with thier profiles, do they have pictures you can view and so on. Avoid the directing rooms and go for the rooms more dedicated to chat, open your own room for what you are looking for. All that said chat works both ways, it isn't easy to get the conversation going but it takes 2 or more to do it, it is no good sitting in a chatroom saying nothing, open the conversation yourself, some will join in some won't but none will unless someone starts the conversation. The best guideline for swinging I can think of is to remember that it takes a lot of effort, it is not a dating game it is not a quick fix shag scene, profiles, chat even the social side takes a lot of effort from everyone who wants to enjoy it.
Hi Norty and Nice, I saw you in the chatroom earlier - in my alter ego (deviousdelights) and I'm sure that I said h - if I didn't I'm sorry as I was using this tiny netbook which has a teeny screen. The chatrooms are like any other social situation - sometimes it can be fun and interactive - sometimes it's dead, boring and people can be odd. I've seen another post where you stated you are new to this and not sure what to expect, I'd recommend taking your time and finding your way. The site has changed over the last few years, but you can still have fun. In the chat rooms say hi when you enter a room, the general etiquette is for others to say hi to you. Strike up a conversation, or just state your opinion on something that is being said. A lot of peoople seem to linger in the chat rooms and not say or do much. The cams are there if/when you want to use them. Don't click on them if you're not interested, or if you see something that doesn't interest you switch it off. You have to be confident and say more than hi in order to get into a conversation, sometimes people get lost in a thread of conversation and don't engage too quickly with new members in the room, the chat is fast and can be confusing. If you don't follow it, say so - ask questions - make odd statements - most people are relieved that someone is chatting and not just deblaring the beauty of a cock or some tits!! Hope that might be of some use. Good luck, Amber Vixen
I dont usually bother with chat of an afternoon, there have been exceptions but I have found it to be mostly silent guys cam fapping over a small number of fems and couples Head in after 9PM, as already suggested try the regional / non directing rooms, you should find its a whole different experience
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