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should u be allowed in chatrooms without having completed basic info in your profile? could it be setup that u cant get use of rooms or adds until u have completed the basics????
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Should ur profile be completed before you get acces to chatrooms, or members profiles, ie winks/email etc
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should u be allowed in chatrooms without having completed basic info in your profile?
Yes
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could it be setup that u cant get use of rooms or adds until u have completed the basics????
No
Who are we to dictate what people put on their profiles
Some have reasons to hide who they are, jobs or personal life.
Some are here to 'show off' rather then to meet.
Some are only here to take a look round and not ready to advertise for fun.
I'm bored now
Personal choice, I thought that is what swinging was all about :dunno:
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im not expecting anyone to put their job title and postions but the basics, ie sex, age location, and maybe what they are looking for.
Some, a lot have nothing u get the id name and thats it. and they wonder why they get asked for info in the rooms or people pester them in whispers
Some, a lot have nothing u get the id name and thats it. and they wonder why they get asked for info in the rooms or people pester them in whispers
Sex God
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im not expecting anyone to put their job title and postions but the basics, ie sex, age location, and maybe what they are looking for.
Who says they are looking for anything
Why do they need location if they are only here to take a look to see if swinging is something they want to get involved with :dunno:
Why do they need details to have a chat to someone :dunno:
Maybe its me but I'm not getting your point at all, sorry
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forget it
Sex God
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Many people don't actually want or need to fill in a profile. If you are in a chat room and you want to know then why not just ask? If you have a problem with people that haven't filled in a profile to your satisfaction then chat to someone else.
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god rocked the boat her, wish i hadnt said anyhting
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should u be allowed in chatrooms without having completed basic info in your profile?
Yes
Quote by scottishdj2
could it be setup that u cant get use of rooms or adds until u have completed the basics????
No
Who are we to dictate what people put on their profiles
Some have reasons to hide who they are, jobs or personal life.
Some are here to 'show off' rather then to meet.
Some are only here to take a look round and not ready to advertise for fun.
I'm bored now
Personal choice, I thought that is what swinging was all about :dunno:
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Sex God
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should u be allowed in chatrooms without having completed basic info in your profile? could it be setup that u cant get use of rooms or adds until u have completed the basics????
and there was me thinking you has written some litterary masterpiece, bust you invested 1 line and a cock shot.............
to be honest your profile and your ads give nothing away about you.... so to be honest i think you are being a tad rich to criticise anyone else???? how does your ad seperate you from most of the 10,000 ads in men seekeing women for example????
swinging means different things to different people, so why should everyone play by your rules..... not everyone is looking for the same thing,
I see it as a CHAT room 1st... and if anything leads for talking and getting to know people, then that is a bonus,
Others see it as a sex site...... and the matter that you actually have to talk to people is merely a bump in the road to sexual gratifiacation.......
everyone is different... remember that!!!!
sean x
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should u be allowed in chatrooms without having completed basic info in your profile? could it be setup that u cant get use of rooms or adds until u have completed the basics????
and there was me thinking you has written some litterary masterpiece, bust you invested 1 line and a cock shot.............
to be honest your profile and your ads give nothing away about you.... so to be honest i think you are being a tad rich to criticise anyone else???? how does your ad seperate you from most of the 10,000 ads in men seekeing women for example????
swinging means different things to different people, so why should everyone play by your rules..... not everyone is looking for the same thing,
I see it as a CHAT room 1st... and if anything leads for talking and getting to know people, then that is a bonus,
Others see it as a sex site...... and the matter that you actually have to talk to people is merely a bump in the road to sexual gratifiacation.......
everyone is different... remember that!!!!
sean x
I don’t think he’s criticising anyone Fabio, but that’s what you’re doing though, he’s asking opinions on whether people who don’t fill out the basics on their profiles should be allowed into chat or be allowed to post ads etc, a simple yes or no would be sufficient with your reason why, (although i think Dawnie pretty much summed it up) not a dig at his profile and a spout about criticising people that do things a different way, but look at your reply the first thing you done was criticise?? Anyhow it’s nice to see a nice filled out profile, but I’m also happy to at least see the basics especially from people who are actively seeking meets, but don’t even have so much as an age or a rough location on there profiles, but I do agree its down to the individuals choice whether they do or don’t fill them in, just like its my choice to ignore those who don’t.
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I don’t think he’s criticising anyone Fabio, but that’s what you’re doing though, he’s asking opinions on whether people who don’t fill out the basics on their profiles should be allowed into chat or be allowed to post ads etc, a simple yes or no would be sufficient with your reason why, (although i think Dawnie pretty much summed it up) not a dig at his profile and a spout about criticising people that do things a different way, but look at your reply the first thing you done was criticise?? Anyhow it’s nice to see a nice filled out profile, but I’m also happy to at least see the basics especially from people who are actively seeking meets, but don’t even have so much as an age or a rough location on there profiles, but I do agree its down to the individuals choice whether they do or don’t fill them in, just like its my choice to ignore those who don’t.
you are right it is all about choices.....
I'll give you an example of one that i have made with connection to this site.... i use to have an avatar of me on the front.... i took it down and changed it with "sparty" because there was a friend who isn't a member stumbled across the site and recognised it.... if that had been someone else it could have been a lot worse....
There is a connection between me and "sparty" some know it, so who didn't asked......
so back to the thread in hand....
they had the choice to fill it in... and for what ever reason, they decided not to,
you also have the choice to go and find out more about those people, or just to ignore them......
why should one persons "choices" be any more or less important than anyone elses? for every choice there is a consequence.... but do you want that choice taken away from people......
why then when he didn't get the response he was looking for did he just say "forget it" rather then maybe argue the merits for the case the other way... my arguement is that if you want people to fill in the basics properly then what do you really learn about someone from "one line in an ad and a cock shot" which is what the forwarder of the original question has done.... which is me playing "devil's advocate"
if i want to know something about someone, me personally, i go and talk to them.... I know some people who do, however if you make you mind up about someone from a few words on a profile without doing that and it works for you then good for you.... again i know some people who do
again it is all about "choices"
but why should everyone be forced and have there "choice" taken away to do something that they may not be entirely comfortable about doing for any reason??
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that’s better hun 
but we're talking different things here i said basics for example age, height, location, interests and what their looking for etc, I’m not talking detailed descriptions or face pics slapped all over the place, im commenting on completely empty profiles the same ones that a wink appears in our inbox telling us to have a look at their profile? anyway you know what i mean, and i know what your saying but its bad enough on here trying to reply to the pm's we receive without having to ask someone with an empty profile to describe themselves, like Dawnie said, some people may be here for the banter, others may just be curious, but the people actually seeking to meet should at least put a little on their profile to give you an idea of their rough location or compatibility, we can't answer for anyone else but the first thing we do when chatting or before responding to a pm is look at the person/s profile if its empty then we don't take it any further, if its complete and looks nice and looks like we're compatible, we wont just send a pm saying lets shag, its just a nice start to see a detailed profile then we could take it further, but if you think like your wording that because someone has a detailed profile and a nice few words then “there in†your miles off, i'm only saying its a good start to have something to go on, remember this isn't just about chat, it also mentions ads and to be honest i don't see the point of posting an ad with a completely blank profile.
but we're talking different things here i said basics for example age, height, location, interests and what their looking for etc, I’m not talking detailed descriptions or face pics slapped all over the place, im commenting on completely empty profiles the same ones that a wink appears in our inbox telling us to have a look at their profile? anyway you know what i mean, and i know what your saying but its bad enough on here trying to reply to the pm's we receive without having to ask someone with an empty profile to describe themselves, like Dawnie said, some people may be here for the banter, others may just be curious, but the people actually seeking to meet should at least put a little on their profile to give you an idea of their rough location or compatibility, we can't answer for anyone else but the first thing we do when chatting or before responding to a pm is look at the person/s profile if its empty then we don't take it any further, if its complete and looks nice and looks like we're compatible, we wont just send a pm saying lets shag, its just a nice start to see a detailed profile then we could take it further, but if you think like your wording that because someone has a detailed profile and a nice few words then “there in†your miles off, i'm only saying its a good start to have something to go on, remember this isn't just about chat, it also mentions ads and to be honest i don't see the point of posting an ad with a completely blank profile.
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to be honest i don't see the point of posting an ad with a completely blank profile.
Correct me if I'm wrong but is it not a pre-requisit of joining that you have to place an ad
Not saying it excuses some of the things you mention but for those who are here simply for the banter in the forums or the chatrooms it would explain why they have an ad but a blank profile.
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to be honest i don't see the point of posting an ad with a completely blank profile.
Correct me if I'm wrong but is it not a pre-requisit of joining that you have to place an ad
Not saying it excuses some of the things you mention but for those who are here simply for the banter in the forums or the chatrooms it would explain why they have an ad but a blank profile.
Too true but that complicates it further steve, as people are posting ads they might not want to but have to when joining, yet they don't have to fill out a profile, funny old world huh
Forum Virgin
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Hubby & i have been swingers for quite a while, & we understand that for various reasons people don't want to show there identity to everyone, but out of politeness an idea of their area & things they like would be good, it doesn't give away who they are to there neighbours/friends, who if they find them on this site are looking to do exactly the same......... have fun, & in the case of single males get what they're not already getting!!!!!
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Having read all the replies on this, just wanted to add my lil say.......... :angel:
We have no probs with peeps who havent filled in their profiles just would like them not to whisper us asking me info ( as we have taken the time to write a profile explaining what we looking for :small-print: ). Tis a tad rude or too eager
All it means for us is when we click to have a look at their profile and there is no text then we just close the box .
Simple :thumbup:
We have no probs with peeps who havent filled in their profiles just would like them not to whisper us asking me info ( as we have taken the time to write a profile explaining what we looking for :small-print: ). Tis a tad rude or too eager
All it means for us is when we click to have a look at their profile and there is no text then we just close the box .
Simple :thumbup:
Sex God
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Too true but that complicates it further steve, as people are posting ads they might not want to but have to when joining, yet they don't have to fill out a profile, funny old world huh
As far as I'm aware you do not have to post an ad on this site. We have never posted an ad on this site.
It might just be possible to be successful in the swinging scene without filling in a profile or posting an ad. I can see that people that send winks but have nothing in a profile are being presumptious, but that is very different to complaining about unfilled profiles in general. I would be surprised if there are many users of this site that play more regularly than us, yet our profile is blank, deliberately blank. Would it be better if we filled the profile in with some invented facts and added a couple of stolen photos? Would the people who see the profile as an indication of genuineness be happier with that?
Sex God
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As far as I'm aware you do not have to post an ad on this site. We have never posted an ad on this site.
Part of the join up process for new members means that they must fill in an ad - hence some of the ads show random letters with no content, just to get past that phase of the join up process - which then allows the membership process to be completed.
In other words if you don't fill out *something* on ad when joining, the system won't let you complete the process
TJ
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In other words if you don't fill out *something* on ad when joining, the system won't let you complete the process
:? indeed.
It makes you wonder about the logic in that.
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Too true but that complicates it further steve, as people are posting ads they might not want to but have to when joining, yet they don't have to fill out a profile, funny old world huh
As far as I'm aware you do not have to post an ad on this site. We have never posted an ad on this site.
It might just be possible to be successful in the swinging scene without filling in a profile or posting an ad. I can see that people that send winks but have nothing in a profile are being presumptious, but that is very different to complaining about unfilled profiles in general. I would be surprised if there are many users of this site that play more regularly than us, yet our profile is blank, deliberately blank. Would it be better if we filled the profile in with some invented facts and added a couple of stolen photos? Would the people who see the profile as an indication of genuineness be happier with that?
Of course you can be successful in the swinging scene without filling out a profile, you can even be successful in the swinging scene without having a pc or being a member of this site so I don’t know where your getting that idea from, who said otherwise? Did anyone mention people with empty profiles couldn’t be successful in the swinging scene, or is that just your own interpretation, some mentioned an empty profile might put them off and surely that’s their choice, but if like you said you choose to fill out your profile then why does it have to be with invented facts and stolen photos? what’s wrong with using your own or are you trying to imply something else here? only you can answer that one.
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should u be allowed in chatrooms without having completed basic info in your profile? could it be setup that u cant get use of rooms or adds until u have completed the basics????
over two hundred peeps have viewed this question yet only 28 have voted, about 19 comments have been made and of that 19 some have made more than one statement so all in all that tells me this question is of no real interest sorry thats just my view
Sex God
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... some mentioned an empty profile might put them off and surely that’s their choice, but if like you said you choose to fill out your profile then why does it have to be with invented facts and stolen photos? what’s wrong with using your own or are you trying to imply something else here? only you can answer that one.
Some also suggested that filling in a profile should be mandatory. I am pointing out that a fully filled in profile is no guarantee of anything since it can so easily be falsified.
The thing that's wrong with filling in our profile is that we don't wish to. I can't answer what I might be implying because I'm afraid you've lost me there.
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when were loking for fun if the profile in question is empty we ask the details we need to know to make a meet happen. if we get a reply great we can move on a stage but if the answers are negative etc.
then hay hoe theres plenty more members.
if you force they will lie anyway which is much worst than nothing!
then hay hoe theres plenty more members.
if you force they will lie anyway which is much worst than nothing!
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when were loking for fun if the profile in question is empty we ask the details we need to know to make a meet happen. if we get a reply great we can move on a stage but if the answers are negative etc.
then hay hoe theres plenty more members.
if you force they will lie anyway which is much worst than nothing!
Well if you have time to ask members with empty profiles where their located and what their after thats fine, but most couples and single fems don't even have the time to answer pm's let alone contact members to see if there local, i dont think anyone is trying to force anybody to fill out a profile and anyone thats gonna lie when doing so are surely not worth meeting anyway, if their gonna lie on their profile there also gonna lie when you chat surely? like i've stated before its up to the individual, but im a firm believer that you only get out of this site what your willing to put in, a profile is just a nice start, we're not just going to agree to meet someone because they have a nice profile, we'll still chat on phone, and cam, i'ts just nice to be able to compare and have something to go on rather than send emails to find out their at the other side of the country or are looking for totally different things, and to be honest we wouldn't consider pm,ing someone with an empty profile as we take that as a "we're not looking"
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a larger percentage of guys dont use there own post code some are still local others are miles away a profile is personal choice.
if you display an interst after someone has replied to an add for instance by asking a question most of us can tell a great deal by the way its answered and what is says cross ref to the other detail prevously given.
may be thats a bit deep but it works well for use.
in terms of time you only get out what you put in.
if you display an interst after someone has replied to an add for instance by asking a question most of us can tell a great deal by the way its answered and what is says cross ref to the other detail prevously given.
may be thats a bit deep but it works well for use.
in terms of time you only get out what you put in.
Sex God
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I just like being "me" here, with all my little foibles on display, not the other version society asks of me and which I am the other 99% of the time. I'm unlikely to meet anyone with a sexual intent since it isn't my primary aim, I like the people I like here, I don't want to have to fill in forms or conform to anyone else's mores.
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I personally find it really frustrating when I either see someone on cam or am just browsing through the chatters and find nothing in their profile.
I think the minimum requirement ought to be age, location, sexual orientation (perhaps) and what they are looking for. Also, pics wouldn't go amiss too - even if they're just partial (and no, not genital) shots!
I tend to find that if I check out someone's profile and it's either blank or partially completed, I think to myself 'Well if they can't be bothered then neither can I' and then just go back in to the chat room.
OK - enough rambling, I've had a few and am becoming rather opinionated lol xxxxx
CA x
I think the minimum requirement ought to be age, location, sexual orientation (perhaps) and what they are looking for. Also, pics wouldn't go amiss too - even if they're just partial (and no, not genital) shots!
I tend to find that if I check out someone's profile and it's either blank or partially completed, I think to myself 'Well if they can't be bothered then neither can I' and then just go back in to the chat room.
OK - enough rambling, I've had a few and am becoming rather opinionated lol xxxxx
CA x
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I personally find it really frustrating when I either see someone on cam or am just browsing through the chatters and find nothing in their profile.
I think the minimum requirement ought to be age, location, sexual orientation (perhaps) and what they are looking for. Also, pics wouldn't go amiss too - even if they're just partial (and no, not genital) shots!
I tend to find that if I check out someone's profile and it's either blank or partially completed, I think to myself 'Well if they can't be bothered then neither can I' and then just go back in to the chat room.
OK - enough rambling, I've had a few and am becoming rather opinionated lol xxxxx
CA x
Now this may sound quite radical..... but if I want to find out something about a person in the chatroom. - I talk to them. Interact, ask them questions, listen to the answers.
Oh yes - my profile IS blank. So blank that according to the search bot, in 636,949 members of the site there are no matches for me here.
But then maybe I have a couple of reasons why I want a blank profile.
Ian
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should u be allowed in chatrooms without having completed basic info in your profile? could it be setup that u cant get use of rooms or adds until u have completed the basics????
over two hundred peeps have viewed this question yet only 28 have voted, about 19 comments have been made and of that 19 some have made more than one statement so all in all that tells me this question is of no real interest sorry thats just my view
maybe people havnt come across this post yet, maybe people darent say what they really think for fear of being shot down, I have just voted and the votes say a bigger percentage says yes people should have to fill out a profile so it really does make you wonder why no more have posted.
I personally think it should be a requirement of people to fill out a basic profile, ie status, postcode(within reason) sexuality and if people arnt looking for anything there is a great big text box to write this in, but then again this is my opinion :lol:
some people moan about getting winks but if their profile isnt filled in then its not saying dont email/wink me im not looking, is it?
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Tina1 wrote
I personally think it should be a requirement of people to fill out a basic profile, ie status, postcode(within reason) sexuality and if people arnt looking for anything there is a great big text box to write this in, but then again this is my opinion icon_
I actually do have in my profile that Im only here to chat at the moment and have often been asked why I bother coming on at all. Gosh people are rude .... never me tho :P
I personally think it should be a requirement of people to fill out a basic profile, ie status, postcode(within reason) sexuality and if people arnt looking for anything there is a great big text box to write this in, but then again this is my opinion icon_
I actually do have in my profile that Im only here to chat at the moment and have often been asked why I bother coming on at all. Gosh people are rude .... never me tho :P
