When in chatland and ermmmmmm casually looking through profiles as one does It occurs, not infrequently that we happen upon couples profiles which on further exploration we discover that they are single. Is this reportable, and should we? It seems to me that a couples tag should mean a couple. Ok I'm not too naive to believe that all are as they should be, but. If the profile is on a couple tag then goes on to state he or she are single, play as a single and the partner/second half of the profile is n/a'd throughout and, with some the ads are from singles looking for.....etc, then surely thats not quite right is it. The AUP states :- No person is allowed to pass themselves off as a different gender unless it is the case, blah blah blah. But this seems inadequate a guideline. So, to report or not report?
I've had many guys give me the excuse that they don't want to pay to have their profile changed after they split up with their partner. Some of the time it's true, but some of the time you know they never had one in the first place. But if admin then changed them to a single profile the people who did want to change but didn't want to pay would be within their rights to be a bit miffed. Plus it's a hard thing to prove really, unless they come clean. H.x
Ok what about ..... If someone advertises on the forum for meets etc and lets say for example the age of poster/member advertising for a meet changes dramatically from one ad to the next lets say if one ad says that the poster is 40 say the next saying that the same poster is 34 for example. following on from that if the ad is saying that the member is wanting a meet for two of them as a couple, some ads saying they are married some saying they are not, example being X's 'husband' is Y in one ad then the next ad weeks later saying X's 'boyfriend' is Y even though the partner is the same one in each ad? remembering the member is a single. Is that ok? Sorry if this is confusing and sounding a bit 'up the arse' but i'd just like to know, it is relevant. It may just be that someone somewhere may just get the hint that its time to be sensible.
But is it such an issue? Is it the role of a member to snitch on another member, or is it the role of admin etc to "police" the profiles. It doesn't bother me that someone would want to embelish their profile with a white lie about age or if someone who was once a couple and is now single doesn't want to fork out to change their profile or vice versa it is none of my business. It I was deceived by a member then I would simply ignore them in future.
I thought that full members can change profile from a couple to single for free (know someone who did it)......but have to pay to revert back to a couple? I personally think that some members who have a couples profile and now single, continue with the couples profile believing that they will get more meets (and more people chat to them in chatland)as a couple rather than a single. I have talked to males and females who do this. Find it annoying to be honest as its these singles under the preetence of a couple that tend to pester me more in chat (my experience only) So if they are going to decieve on something like that why should I believe anything else they say??
Quote by Davinaukcd the role of a member to snitch on another member,
If the member cares about this site and I believe the majority look upon it as a community then I think they would. So Yes I think they would snitch same as they would snitch on some one doing something wrong in their real life community. I wouldn't call it snitching tho I would call it being a caring member of society.
Quote by Davinaukcd But is it such an issue? Is it the role of a member to snitch on another member, or is it the role of admin etc to "police" the profiles. It doesn't bother me that someone would want to embelish their profile with a white lie about age or if someone who was once a couple and is now single doesn't want to fork out to change their profile or vice versa it is none of my business. It I was deceived by a member then I would simply ignore them in future.
Fair point I can see where your coming from It's not something that I would feel good in doing Dave Just making sure I'm clear about the rules n stuff really, though because I know a lot of people who may want to take an interest in what this member professes to offer when in fact its a complete load of bullshit. I don't really care about the member advertising but I do about the members being duped by it. They are/might be mates or future mates. Last thing I want to see is people becoming disheartened. It aint easy sometimes, crappola makes it even less so.
Quote by Davinaukcd But is it such an issue? Is it the role of a member to snitch on another member, or is it the role of admin etc to "police" the profiles. It doesn't bother me that someone would want to embelish their profile with a white lie about age or if someone who was once a couple and is now single doesn't want to fork out to change their profile or vice versa it is none of my business. It I was deceived by a member then I would simply ignore them in future.
It's an issue if you believe honesty is important. If you don't, then it's not.
I do happen to believe that honesty is important, and I also care about the site. I wouldn't have been here for several years if I didn't. Is it such an issue that I should feel oblidged morally or otherwise to apply my standards to complete strangers, I happen to think not. I prefer to spend my time on here having fun and a light hearted laugh, rather than pedantically pick holes in profiles. Lost I'm not implying that, that is what you meant, I'm just trying to explain my point of view. I was under the impression that profiles and adverts are vetted before becoming "public" and that the custodians of the site apply the rules where and when necessary, and I'm sure that they do.
Quote by Davinaukcd I do happen to believe that honesty is important, and I also care about the site. I wouldn't have been here for several years if I didn't. Is it such an issue that I should feel oblidged morally or otherwise to apply my standards to complete strangers, I happen to think not. I prefer to spend my time on here having fun and a light hearted laugh, rather than pedantically pick holes in profiles. Lost I'm not implying that, that is what you meant, I'm just trying to explain my point of view. I was under the impression that profiles and adverts are vetted before becoming "public" and that the custodians of the site apply the rules where and when necessary, and I'm sure that they do.
I don't see it as applying my standards, just the site standards. It would be terribly sad to trawl profiles looking for something to report but if I happen across anyone with a misleading profile I'll ask them to see if I've misunderstood. Those who are intending to deceive other members usually get defensive or abusive; those I'd report. Where it's someone whose circumstances have changed I suggest they speak to a friendly Op to get things sorted. There are lots of really nice, genuine people on here but there are also some of the not so nice, not at all genuine variety unfortunately.
OK, so here's a question if someone is behaving irresponsibly as the host of a room (for example kicking people without good reason) should they be reported to chatroom ops / Admin or should we just get on with it and ignore them? I would normally opt for the get on and ignore 'em attitude but this of course doesn't help make the site a better experience for others?
Quote by flower411 OK, so here's a question if someone is behaving irresponsibly as the host of a room (for example kicking people without good reason) should they be reported to chatroom ops / Admin or should we just get on with it and ignore them? I would normally opt for the get on and ignore 'em attitude but this of course doesn't help make the site a better experience for others?
Yeah !! this is important !! All sorts of stuff can be overlooked on a regular basis. But when you decide to host a room you should know the rules and stick by them !! If you ever come across a room host breaking the rules ....... Report Em !! as soon as ya can ... OK I quite agree ...... but would this not overload the chatroom ops who are probably busy enough : I personally would be happy to report mismanagemnt of rooms as it spoils it for all users but at the same time I am aware that ops aren't paid workers, are doing it in their free time and probably have better things to do
Report - always. It cannot and should not be one rule for one and one for another. The room host has a responsibility to uphold the AUP and rules. It cannot and should not be otherwise. Good point kinky
just a thought , if a couple want to advertise on here as a couple wouldnt it pay for the site to put an option on there profile saying that they have been verifed as a couple , it could go along the line of that the female part of the couple has to phone admin to verify that they are a couple and if they cant it must state on their profile that they arent verified . dont know hard it would be to step up. just a thought ,
i have and would again report a badly hosted room as i know others have also reported people for having a couples profile and been found out to be a single conning others into believing they a couple if a room is hosted by somone who is booting people at random and not giving fair and just warnings then they shouldt be hosting rooms at all making others enjoment of the site less happy and even scaring people from joining in the conversation for fear of getting booted out of a room.
Quote by flower411 OK, so here's a question if someone is behaving irresponsibly as the host of a room (for example kicking people without good reason) should they be reported to chatroom ops / Admin or should we just get on with it and ignore them? I would normally opt for the get on and ignore 'em attitude but this of course doesn't help make the site a better experience for others?
Yeah !! this is important !! All sorts of stuff can be overlooked on a regular basis. But when you decide to host a room you should know the rules and stick by them !! If you ever come across a room host breaking the rules ....... Report Em !! as soon as ya can ... OK I quite agree ...... but would this not overload the chatroom ops who are probably busy enough : I personally would be happy to report mismanagemnt of rooms as it spoils it for all users but at the same time I am aware that ops aren't paid workers, are doing it in their free time and probably have better things to do To be honest ...If you are finding so many problems with room hosts that you think you might overload the ops .... Maybe it`s you !! A tongue in cheek response .... I hope :wink: But to make a rather more serious point, lets say only a hnadful of more experienced / well known / more vocal :wink: members report at the moment if this increased by 2 or 3 times the number would we be creating a problem for the ops? Just a thought?
Quote by Lost When in chatland and ermmmmmm casually looking through profiles as one does It occurs, not infrequently that we happen upon couples profiles which on further exploration we discover that they are single. Is this reportable, and should we? It seems to me that a couples tag should mean a couple. Ok I'm not too naive to believe that all are as they should be, but. If the profile is on a couple tag then goes on to state he or she are single, play as a single and the partner/second half of the profile is n/a'd throughout and, with some the ads are from singles looking for.....etc, then surely thats not quite right is it. The AUP states :- No person is allowed to pass themselves off as a different gender unless it is the case, blah blah blah. But this seems inadequate a guideline. So, to report or not report?
Def report. :shock: We have heard the " dont want to pay to change it " milarky! I think it cost a fiver ffs. I know of a person who is def posing as a couple and when I see him in the room cos he knows that I know, he instantly leaves the room. There are many reasons why this happens. The major one is he feels he has more chance with a couples profile and the other is he has no intention of meeting anyone says " its not just guys " I have never known a female to pose as a couple to get a meet. Dont think she would have too1 :shock: There is so much deception in swinging. :lol:
Quote by kentswingers777 Def report. :shock: We have heard the " dont want to pay to change it " milarky! I think it cost a fiver ffs. I know of a person who is def posing as a couple and when I see him in the room cos he knows that I know, he instantly leaves the room.
I really hope you have reported this profile so that we/Admin can check it out and do something about it?
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple Def report. :shock: We have heard the " dont want to pay to change it " milarky! I think it cost a fiver ffs. I know of a person who is def posing as a couple and when I see him in the room cos he knows that I know, he instantly leaves the room.
I really hope you have reported this profile so that we/Admin can check it out and do something about it? I did not if honest as I have been slated before for reporting a dodgy room. Cos I put it in the wrong section of the forum. :shock: If a single guy is posing as a couple it is very difficult to prove if " he " says otherwise.I have now though. x
Quote by tangothree just a thought , if a couple want to advertise on here as a couple wouldnt it pay for the site to put an option on there profile saying that they have been verifed as a couple , it could go along the line of that the female part of the couple has to phone admin to verify that they are a couple and if they cant it must state on their profile that they arent verified . dont know hard it would be to step up. just a thought ,
A superb idea but think it is long down the road of starting this now with so many members. I have always advocated a system where people can leave feedback. Even if only positive feedback could be given, it would at least let others know that they..meet and turn up, and are genuine nice people. Negative feedback could not be given though, I feel that would work well.
Feedback is a big no-no for us, as we believe that one of the important traits in swinging is discretion. We don't want folks knowing who we've played with as thats our business and no-one elses. Verification of couple acounts could be done with a answerphone system similar to leaving a message like the voice ads, but of course just by the female half. One of our biggest bug-bears that we have come across is accounts that have said created in 2003/2004/2005/2006 and the female half is "now" 18.... I mean WTF! and yes we do report those profiles!
Quote by Rogue_trader Feedback is a big no-no for us, as we believe that one of the important traits in swinging is discretion. We don't want folks knowing who we've played with as thats our business and no-one elses. Verification of couple acounts could be done with a answerphone system similar to leaving a message like the voice ads, but of course just by the female half. One of our biggest bug-bears that we have come across is accounts that have said created in 2003/2004/2005/2006 and the female half is "now" 18.... I mean WTF! and yes we do report those profiles!
That is a true comment for you. But you could always ask whoever you met not to leave any feedback. Those who want to can. I have always said whilst it will not eradicate the timewasters on here at least if people have something written, you know they are genuine. There is nothing worse than a timewaster. We belong to another site that has always had feedback and it does work really well. As I have also said, only being able to leave positive things, as to leave anything negative would not work. I feel if SH were to have something like that in place, once it had been running for a while I feel people, thats the genuine people out there, would love it.
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It occurs, not infrequently that we happen upon couples profiles which on further exploration we discover that they are single. Is this reportable, and should we?
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