Ok I am going to add to this. I think Marya has been very honest as I will here and if opinions of all sorts cant be added to a thread why have one? I wont have any smiley faces or xxxx as its just my opinion I am adding.
I loved the original SH chatroom before there were cams as that was what it was a chatroom. The banter was great and very funny. (Not to say it isnt now but its different when cams are available).
However, things have moved on and as they do you learn to adapt your behaviour to accomodate those changes or else you just leave. I think I have adapted and most of the time behave in accordance with the site changes.
I am not a cam watcher unless someone points out something funny to me and yes, I have been a sheep and followed the crowd at times, I will admit that and sometimes I have said something funny to me or stupid, though not often. Men wanking or women wanking or couples playing are not what I go in the chatrooms for to be honest but if I want to watch I can so choose to.
I think Von has made a very good point about piss taking though I know at times, though personally not being on cam , I have a level of piss take of me that has gone maybe too far and I have taken it on the chin. But I will be mindful not to do it to men or women or couples on cam in the future as I will just carry on as I always have and ignore them or watch them if I did so choose.
I have other thoughts which I have no intention of sharing in here as thats my business but I hope an open debate about how to conduct yourself in a chatroom about individual preferences is just that. The AUP keeps me safe hopefully and if I break it I will be told off I am sure and have been once and again took it on the chin.
Tolerance is an interesting was of thinking about it and I will think more in future.
Corrie
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Mid''s room...and the tolerance of people.
to me im not bothered if a man is wankin on cam, I can switch off whatever floats their boatn I certainly wouldnt disrespect them or laugh at them- so what they are havin a wank!!!!!!
Granted can b annoyin when they whisper u to talk dirt whatever, they certainly wouldnt chase me out of a room for that.
In my opinion live n let live
Whatever does it really matter?!?!!?
Granted can b annoyin when they whisper u to talk dirt whatever, they certainly wouldnt chase me out of a room for that.
In my opinion live n let live
Whatever does it really matter?!?!!?
Orgasminator
As a mids room regular I enjoy watching the cams – I’m quite happy to watch ladies and couples whether they are playing or just showing faces. As a straight guy I don’t usually watch the wankers though I often flick through all the cams to see what is happening – and I appreciate the ladies point about whispers – I get them from the bi/gay guys (as well as some from guys that say “straight” on their profile lol) – but its my option what cams I watch. However I feel that constant appeals to “watch my cam” from anyone is simply “reverse” directing, whatever they are doing on cam.
And yes I am a wanker on cam myself !! Not in the mids room – if a lady or couple are interested we’ll set up a private room and both parties go on cam – I think I would be too embarrassed to do it in front of people I know socially but never expect to “play” with.
And the mids room (and probably lots of other “regional” rooms) is very much a social place – many of us have met at socials and munches or camping and have plenty to chat about. What the occasional visitors who pop in and say “not enough talk about sex” fail to realise is the amount of “under the covers” meets, deals and arrangements that are going on under the surface. I would care to bet that more real sexual encounters are set up in the regional rooms than in all the others put together – if only because of geographic proximity.
But getting back to the original point – leave the wankers alone if they behave themselves – they are not hurting anyone and you don’t have to watch. Throw them out if they pester people with uninvited whispers, just as you would anyone else.
And yes I am a wanker on cam myself !! Not in the mids room – if a lady or couple are interested we’ll set up a private room and both parties go on cam – I think I would be too embarrassed to do it in front of people I know socially but never expect to “play” with.
And the mids room (and probably lots of other “regional” rooms) is very much a social place – many of us have met at socials and munches or camping and have plenty to chat about. What the occasional visitors who pop in and say “not enough talk about sex” fail to realise is the amount of “under the covers” meets, deals and arrangements that are going on under the surface. I would care to bet that more real sexual encounters are set up in the regional rooms than in all the others put together – if only because of geographic proximity.
But getting back to the original point – leave the wankers alone if they behave themselves – they are not hurting anyone and you don’t have to watch. Throw them out if they pester people with uninvited whispers, just as you would anyone else.
Quote by flower411
Introduce me to a male wanking on cam who DOES NOT :
Assume I am female,
Whisper me immediately I view their cam,
and I`ll refrain from taking the piss !
if they whisper u uninvited u should copy and paste and have them removed. its not your place or your right to abuse anyone.
Orgasminator
Quote by flower411
Introduce me to a male wanking on cam who DOES NOT :
Assume I am female,
Whisper me immediately I view their cam,
and I`ll refrain from taking the piss !
if they whisper u uninvited u should copy and paste and have them removed. its not your place or your right to abuse anyone.
I go into the chatrooms to chat !!!!! I`m certainly NOT going to report every unwanted whisperer !!! :shock:
I`d spend the whole evening copying and pasting
It`s not my place to police the chatrooms.
AND I definately do not abuse anyone !!!!!
If an uninvited whisper does happen thats constant and annoying then you should report it rather then take it on your own shoulders, it points out maturity and using the facilities that are there to be used and keep a peaceful atmosphere.
sorry about including admin, ops and room host facilities, nothing personal i promise, but you are all there to provide a service afterall.
This shouldnt be a telling off thread? I posted on here to express a view as did Flowers and people wont post on a thread if they think they will be told off for their way of handling things? I now ignore paople who whisper rather than say in main room please dont whisper as they get bored very quickly if you ignore them.
So let people express their views openly and hopefully somewhere in the middle minds will meet.
So let people express their views openly and hopefully somewhere in the middle minds will meet.
Orgasminator
Quote by Corrie2007
This shouldnt be a telling off thread? I posted on here to express a view as did Flowers and people wont post on a thread if they think they will be told off for their way of handling things? I now ignore paople who whisper rather than say in main room please dont whisper as they get bored very quickly if you ignore them.
So let people express their views openly and hopefully somewhere in the middle minds will meet.
If i came across in my posts in this fashion then i apolgise, wasn't my intention.
Orgasminator
Quote by flower411
Introduce me to a male wanking on cam who DOES NOT :
Assume I am female,
Whisper me immediately I view their cam,
and I`ll refrain from taking the piss !
if they whisper u uninvited u should copy and paste and have them removed. its not your place or your right to abuse anyone.
I go into the chatrooms to chat !!!!! I`m certainly NOT going to report every unwanted whisperer !!! :shock:
I`d spend the whole evening copying and pasting
It`s not my place to police the chatrooms.
AND I definately do not abuse anyone !!!!!
If an uninvited whisper does happen thats constant and annoying then you should report it rather then take it on your own shoulders, it points out maturity and using the facilities that are there to be used and keep a peaceful atmosphere.
sorry about including admin, ops and room host facilities, nothing personal i promise, but you are all there to provide a service afterall.
Constant and annoying whispers will be reported !
I simply said I would not be reporting every unwanted whisper, which is what the previous poster had suggested ! :shock:
For some reason they also accused me of being abusive, which is just weird !!!
Sorry i mis-read your post in the wrong context, easy mistake. I'm sure the poster (who i'm sure didn't intent to offend you) did to.
Sex God
Quote by naughtynymphos1
have you ever noticed tho how noone ever takes the piss out of women flashing their bits on cam
Yes I've noticed this too.
I've always been of the view that SH is quite matriarchal in essence, and can sometimes be a little confusing and a little scary for us sensitive, victimised males.
:shock: :shock: :shock:
Sex God
Quote by naughtynymphos1
have you ever noticed tho how noone ever takes the piss out of women flashing their bits on cam
Oh they do they told me to get me bra back on cos its not the right time of year for an eclipse
Sex God
i've considered all aspects of this thread and the thoughts of the various posters id just like to say IN TRUE MIDS ROOM STYLE
there was a young lady called Von,
a straight girl thats sexiest bar none,
we wish she was Bi
at least give it a try ,
if she does then let Rose be the one!!
luv ya dare dudes
if you dont like the wankers dont watch them, they are just the same to us as the tits oot girlies.
Staggy xx
there was a young lady called Von,
a straight girl thats sexiest bar none,
we wish she was Bi
at least give it a try ,
if she does then let Rose be the one!!
luv ya dare dudes
if you dont like the wankers dont watch them, they are just the same to us as the tits oot girlies.
Staggy xx
End of the day it takes all sorts to make the world go around and its a good job we are all different. If you dont like what you see on cam turn it off and stay quiet others might enjoy it.
For information the Mids Room is very close knit and except for a few in there I never get welcomed and feel like an outsider thats why I dont go in very often and if I do I dont stay long.
For information the Mids Room is very close knit and except for a few in there I never get welcomed and feel like an outsider thats why I dont go in very often and if I do I dont stay long.
Sex God
aww we luv ya alan you old fuddy duddy..
wrats
xx
wrats
xx
Quote by flower411
have you ever noticed tho how noone ever takes the piss out of women flashing their bits on cam
You should come into our room sometime !!! The piss taking and banter is the most entertaining bit !!
we love the banter too but when peeps are bullied of cam by the piss taking its abuse.
think the mids room is taking an unfair bashing in this thread.. from my own experience..a s i can only speak for me..... ive found the room not 'clique' like i have in others.. im welcomed, even before i had a cam to prove i was a girl , and spoke like a hairy trucker.. and some were conviced i was male, they still welcomed me.. introduced me, made me part of conversations... and banter with me with im in a mishceiveous mood.... other rooms do as i bounce between a few differnent ones.. but this is the least of the clique rooms ive come across.. so i think everyon should stay there for a bit.. find your feet say hello, join in the conversation.. its there for everyone.. as if people have private chat they will whisper instead so the flow of the room doesnt stop.. this is more about talking to people in here, not just about the swinging side..... so alot will be disappointed if they are expecting to fuck on cam or wank an get all eyes on them.. as to be perfectly honest........ if i wanted to watch fucking.. or wanking i would go to a room more suitable for that.. and i think thats what people dont get.. this room really is one of the 'chat' room... and they come in.. get frustrated at not being watched.. whisper get ignored, cos it says .. DONT WHISPER, on the door.. and then leave thinking its clique.. but if you use the mids room in the way its inteneded.. to chat, and to make friends...... then you will find it the friendlest , most kind room on the server.
my two pence..
furby xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
my two pence..
furby xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I agree with Furby. Mids room is friendly and chatty . any place where people go regularly will seem cliquey to newcomers at first but you only have to join in a bit..watch the chat a little and learn a bit about ppls likes and dislikes are and in no time you will feel at home too.
Yes we do take the pee out of some guys..also some girls , politicians, kids tv , popstars and each other..in fact anyone is fair game..if you dont have a sense of humour its pretty sad isnt it?
Yes we do take the pee out of some guys..also some girls , politicians, kids tv , popstars and each other..in fact anyone is fair game..if you dont have a sense of humour its pretty sad isnt it?
Sex God
we also agree with furby cos she runs the clique and we wanna stay in it.... 
:bolt: :giggle: :giggle:
wrats
xxx
:bolt: :giggle: :giggle: wrats
xxx
Quote by Miss-slut
right all this posting makes me want to wank who wants to watch hahahaha
im still fat and getting fatter!!!!
ohhhhhh ffs.. if i have to.. ok .. go on then.. wank.. il watch an ooo an arrrr you in all the right places..
you done yet.........
are you nearly there yet........
ffs.. the baby will be here before you come.. hurry along darling........
heheheeh
kisses xxxxxxxxxxxx
furby xx
As is often the case I can see both sides:-) It is everyone's choice whether to watch wank cams or not. Those wankers who are also uninvited whisperers and reverse directors should be removed for their rule breaking, not for wanking. On the other hand, just as you should expect someone to comment on what you say in a chat room if they feel like it, you should expect them to comment on your cam if you choose to have it live and they have an opinion on what it is showing.
If anyone wants to be accepted in a room then they should make an effort to interact, not expect others to fall over themselves just because they have chosen to visit. Most people who complain rooms are cliquey fail to understand that.
Finally the issue of room control is made much more difficult because there is no sensible strategy in place for dealing with the fact that chat ops are rarer than hen's teeth, especially during the day. Having 'room ops' for want of a better term, who have permanent room host controls in one specific room only would cut down on the amount of rule abuse by persistent offenders. Of course having a more transparent and consistent approach to rule breakers would also be helpful as a deterrent!
Just my 2 pence:-)
Unc.
If anyone wants to be accepted in a room then they should make an effort to interact, not expect others to fall over themselves just because they have chosen to visit. Most people who complain rooms are cliquey fail to understand that.
Finally the issue of room control is made much more difficult because there is no sensible strategy in place for dealing with the fact that chat ops are rarer than hen's teeth, especially during the day. Having 'room ops' for want of a better term, who have permanent room host controls in one specific room only would cut down on the amount of rule abuse by persistent offenders. Of course having a more transparent and consistent approach to rule breakers would also be helpful as a deterrent!
Just my 2 pence:-)
Unc.
i agree you can turn cam off if u dont want to watch a wank on cam but the other thing i dont get is when couples come on to chat and when u click their cam its just a single guy wanking?
And i do get annoyed when the wanker whispers you and states look at my cam or whisper something dirty for me to cum?
Im sorry if i have offended anyone of late and if i have i hope u still love me??
Now before the baby comes is anyone going to watch me wank??????????????????
And i do get annoyed when the wanker whispers you and states look at my cam or whisper something dirty for me to cum?
Im sorry if i have offended anyone of late and if i have i hope u still love me??
Now before the baby comes is anyone going to watch me wank??????????????????
Quote by FurbyHug
think the mids room is taking an unfair bashing in this thread.. from my own experience..a s i can only speak for me..... ive found the room not 'clique' like i have in others.. im welcomed, even before i had a cam to prove i was a girl , and spoke like a hairy trucker.. and some were conviced i was male, they still welcomed me.. introduced me, made me part of conversations... and banter with me with im in a mishceiveous mood.... other rooms do as i bounce between a few differnent ones.. but this is the least of the clique rooms ive come across.. so i think everyon should stay there for a bit.. find your feet say hello, join in the conversation.. its there for everyone.. as if people have private chat they will whisper instead so the flow of the room doesnt stop.. this is more about talking to people in here, not just about the swinging side..... so alot will be disappointed if they are expecting to fuck on cam or wank an get all eyes on them.. as to be perfectly honest........ if i wanted to watch fucking.. or wanking i would go to a room more suitable for that.. and i think thats what people dont get.. this room really is one of the 'chat' room... and they come in.. get frustrated at not being watched.. whisper get ignored, cos it says .. DONT WHISPER, on the door.. and then leave thinking its clique.. but if you use the mids room in the way its inteneded.. to chat, and to make friends...... then you will find it the friendlest , most kind room on the server.
my two pence..
furby xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
its a chat room with cams, we chat, we watch ,its not just for chat or just for cams its for both. we try and bear in mind, if we r just chatting others my be waching and others showing. this is why we say be tolerant of wat other peeps are in the room for. and dont asume we r all their for the same reason .its a chat room with cams and therfor suitable for all of the above. xxxxxx
ok, have read all the comments made so far, some say it's ok 2 take the P out of ppl on cam,we would say, thats ok if you know these ppl, and they know you'r only joking, but to ridicule ppl that may just pop in occasionaly, and who dont know you, in our eye's is abuse.
Would you go to someone you have seen on occasion in the town, and say omg you'r fat/ugly ect.......dont think so........so why would you do it on here, is it because you feel safe behind your computer???
Everyone is different, thats what makes us interesting.
Live and let live.
ohh and could someone please clarify.....is the mids room, a chat only room? because if it is then we need to know because oooooooooooops we'v broken the rules.
Thanks. Von and Toney. xxxxxx
Would you go to someone you have seen on occasion in the town, and say omg you'r fat/ugly ect.......dont think so........so why would you do it on here, is it because you feel safe behind your computer???
Everyone is different, thats what makes us interesting.
Live and let live.
ohh and could someone please clarify.....is the mids room, a chat only room? because if it is then we need to know because oooooooooooops we'v broken the rules.
Thanks. Von and Toney. xxxxxx
Sex God
Quote by daredevil-32
ok, have read all the comments made so far, some say it's ok 2 take the P out of ppl on cam,we would say, thats ok if you know these ppl, and they know you'r only joking, but to ridicule ppl that may just pop in occasionaly, and who dont know you, in our eye's is abuse.
Would you go to someone you have seen on occasion in the town, and say omg you'r fat/ugly ect.......dont think so........so why would you do it on here, is it because you feel safe behind your computer???
Everyone is different, thats what makes us interesting.
Live and let live.
Agreed :thumbup:
Quote by daredevil-32
ohh and could someone please clarify.....is the mids room, a chat only room? because if it is then we need to know because oooooooooooops we'v broken the rules.
Thanks. Von and Toney. xxxxxx
Nope.....
Its a chatroom with cam facility for those that wish to use it.. :-)
I didnt say it was a chat ONLY room... i said its more of a chatting room than the others, like ive said in the past i like watching cams i enjoy seeing the people im speaking to... i like to watch the men wanking, i like the couples playing i love the faces chatting... i was trying to put the point accross thats its a friendly unclique room where everyone is welcomed, but as it says no whispering , no directing on the door.. i thought maybe thats why some of the peopel on the site felt it was that way, if everyone is talking normally and flirting an having fun an maybe not watching the cams, maybe thats why some people have that opinion... il keep quiet now... every time i defend the room it doesnt help.. so im finished on this thread.. il keep my nose out of it, head down and just carry on as normal.... sorry again von if you felt i was classifying this a CHAT ONLY room i wasnt .. i was mearly sayiing its not specificly a room where you walk in and are expected to get your kit off or ya tits out.. i like the fact its a more chatty room i feel no pressure in there.. i was actually defending the room.......
furby.
furby.