Just some opinions here for my own future knowledge.
If you are chatting and in the normal manner of things the room is quite full and you wish to give a quick hello to someone you like the look of. Is it...
Considered rude to whisper someone with a brief message? - given that a message might not be noticed until after the potential chat session or that the message might not be something that you want to discuss in the main room?
Because while I do believe that constant unwarranted whispers are annoying, I have seen more and more users be told they are "stupid" (including myself )etc for making use of a perfectly useable chat function, merely for the purpose of being sociable ( and lets face it, swinging is being VERY sociable at its core )
I would actually think its more polite to give someone a little message, I'm flattered when I get them so I dont understand why users feel the need to break out the Tiger Tanks and go all Blitzkrieg about whispers!
Please note: my sense of humor is quite adverse, so please take this poll in good humor.
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Introcution whispers? hows that work?
Sex God
Hi, in case you're not aware we do have a line in the chatroom AUP that covers this....
Taken from here.
Whispers are perfectly acceptable as long as you ask and get a :thumbup: first. It's a vain attempt to try and keep the number of complaints about uninvited whispers to a level where they don't pee off admin so much that they decide to shut the site and go down to the pub and get blotto instead (they tend to just go down the pub, but forget to pull the plug first :doh: :lol2: ). :lol2:
As for why people get peeved about them; depending on which room you're in and who you are, you can't have a conversation because the whispers are constantly coming in and you can loose track of who's said what. Imagine trying to have a conversation with someone while there's 20 - 30 - 40 other people trying to talk to you at the same time.
Oh and I voted 4 - Nuke the b@&!@$ds!!!! :giggle:
Sorry.
Please do NOT whisper without asking first and getting a yeah.
Taken from here.
Whispers are perfectly acceptable as long as you ask and get a :thumbup: first. It's a vain attempt to try and keep the number of complaints about uninvited whispers to a level where they don't pee off admin so much that they decide to shut the site and go down to the pub and get blotto instead (they tend to just go down the pub, but forget to pull the plug first :doh: :lol2: ). :lol2:
As for why people get peeved about them; depending on which room you're in and who you are, you can't have a conversation because the whispers are constantly coming in and you can loose track of who's said what. Imagine trying to have a conversation with someone while there's 20 - 30 - 40 other people trying to talk to you at the same time.
Oh and I voted 4 - Nuke the b@&!@$ds!!!! :giggle:
Sorry.
I know that the rule was put in place to stop overabuse of the whisper function from taking over a users screen, I'm totally 100% behind people being able to log-on, chat without getting millions of messages from one muppet spamming the same sentence.
But I do also think that some of the responses to whispers and the way that we conduct ourselves online isn't exactly setting a good trend either. I myself had a whisper sent earlier just saying hi because there were 70 users in the room, all talking and it was easier and more noticeable to see said whisper.
Perfectly reasonable and not covered by the suggested rule, reasonable being something that I think is eluding a fair number of users at the moment
But I do also think that some of the responses to whispers and the way that we conduct ourselves online isn't exactly setting a good trend either. I myself had a whisper sent earlier just saying hi because there were 70 users in the room, all talking and it was easier and more noticeable to see said whisper.
Perfectly reasonable and not covered by the suggested rule, reasonable being something that I think is eluding a fair number of users at the moment
I do think some people get really rude about being whispered to, I was in a room the other evening and someone said. Blah don't whisper me you arse hole, I thought this showed the type of person the person being whispered too was. I would of thought myself don't worry I will not be whispering you again in a hurry.
I get whispers but I am never rude in my responses,I dont get many , and generally find ignored they soon move on. I might respond to the ones that catch my eye.
So in general I am not bothered about them.
Make it a big issues becomes a big problem, its about fun after all.
Some I think just get pleasure out of feeling popular within the room, by keep saying dont whisper
I get whispers but I am never rude in my responses,I dont get many , and generally find ignored they soon move on. I might respond to the ones that catch my eye.
So in general I am not bothered about them.
Make it a big issues becomes a big problem, its about fun after all.
Some I think just get pleasure out of feeling popular within the room, by keep saying dont whisper
Sex God
Quote by Kink81
I know that the rule was put in place to stop overabuse of the whisper function from taking over a users screen, I'm totally 100% behind people being able to log-on, chat without getting millions of messages from one muppet spamming the same sentence.
But I do also think that some of the responses to whispers and the way that we conduct ourselves online isn't exactly setting a good trend either. I myself had a whisper sent earlier just saying hi because there were 70 users in the room, all talking and it was easier and more noticeable to see said whisper.
Perfectly reasonable and not covered by the suggested rule, reasonable being something that I think is eluding a fair number of users at the moment
but with the greatest respect..... if you then had everyone whisper... thats would be 69 whispers that you would have to deal with..and then you have ever people coming in and leaving again.. would that be any better??? I think not.... I think i would be pissed off by it as well....
also by whispering in a room that states "no whispers without asking first" aren't you in effect disregarding the room owners wishes? after all.. you are better and know better than then... right???
I don't see what the problem with saying "can i whisper you" in public is.... if they say yes... do it, if they say no then dont.
I would love it if SH would finally put up a disclaimer saying you had read the rules before entering the chatroom, something like a pop up.. and you actually had to tick it.... too many people use ignorance as an excuse.......
Master of Sex
I think Minx sums up our stance quite well. I can appreciate why people find it rude and bad manners, but what we really don't understand is the aggresive respose it triggers. Invariably it's not contained to just the recipient of the uninvited whisper either, as often all their mates pitch in to have a go. The over-reaction like this is more likely to make us leave a room than any uninvited whisper.
Sex God
I'm locking this as easy has given the offical line regarding the matter.
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