hiya all who read............
don't know if i's happened to anyone else but............ we reguarly go into the one chatroom.........quite happily........ but of recent we have been recieving emails from member/s of that room (has to be as we have only given out our email to those people we thought we trusted) emails to our account. We understand that SH can do nothing about it but was just wondering has anyone else?
Emails are from a address XXXXXXXXX gimmicking themselves as two cpls who males want Angel and ladies want H despite our descrip stipulating that we advertise for a female for Angel only! We got mails stating H is stopping Angel and spoiling for others. And now they have sent another mail asking if WE had got the hint by not being in chat.
All this has done has made us wary of who we talk to as said in last email from them ( mind it is our addy so we cant raise an issue with SH hence why posting it here). It is said 'we have talked to them about them ( them being fab four)How two faced!. How we trust in our reg room? not fair on those who aren't part of it!
So what we do?
do we trust who we talk to? why should people bully us into what we might've thought about but haven't decided on yet? why cant people let people be what they are comfy with and not pressurise? and not be two faced?
I (Angel) dont worry about the 'fabfour' moaned at us for something we didnt advertise for anyways so hahaha but why try and hound us off site with a ficticious email addy and bullying tactics??
Advice and offerings more than welcome...this aint a moan btw just something that niggles if ya know what I mean.................
next query where should I post this? op do as you will :awe
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Sex God
Send one back saying Fuck Off and go about your business as you normally do guys..
I have spoken to you many times and found you amicable and good to talk to..
I have spoken to you many times and found you amicable and good to talk to..
Sex God
yep send one reply with grow up then redirect ya email in to Spam box if they reply then don't reply back because ya going to there level if it keeps happening then report them to you email provider and the will take it up.
Orgasminator
yes know how you feel not had it happen to us but like all the others say tell them to fuck off we know not as easy as that as some people have sad life,s so we would just block them or open a new msn account and just give your msn to people you trust 100% and dont leave whatever room your in because of them why lose your other friends ...we would not.
ps what is your msn addy lol
john&shaz xxx
ps what is your msn addy lol
john&shaz xxx
hi,
sorry to hear your facing so much stick.
i know its to late now, but this is a lesson to others, dont give out outside email addys, i tend to keep everything to this site.
keep going in your fave /reg room, dont let the odd one or two fools put you off.
they will either give up or slip up.
xxx fem xxx
sorry to hear your facing so much stick.
i know its to late now, but this is a lesson to others, dont give out outside email addys, i tend to keep everything to this site.
keep going in your fave /reg room, dont let the odd one or two fools put you off.
they will either give up or slip up.
xxx fem xxx
Quote by Angel_and_H
Advice and offerings more than welcome...this aint a moan btw just something that niggles if ya know what I mean.................
next query where should I post this? op do as you will :awe
If you raise a support ticket to Admin or send the email, complete with email address, to a Mod by PM then we can find out if they are registered on the site. As the AUP specifically mentions abusing others then action can and will be taken.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you.
:cry:
Sex God
Quote by Jags
Advice and offerings more than welcome...this aint a moan btw just something that niggles if ya know what I mean.................
next query where should I post this? op do as you will :awe
If you raise a support ticket to Admin or send the email, complete with email address, to a Mod by PM then we can find out if they are registered on the site. As the AUP specifically mentions abusing others then action can and will be taken.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you.
:cry:
But if its happening via messenger then no-one in admin is bothered Jags ....
Believe me......I know......
I had threats of physical violence made towards me
and the person in question even said they were going to go the the next munch I was going to in order to carry out the threats and still nothing was done. We can't control things which happen outside the site and don't think anyone would want or like that to happen.
If the threats are via messenger then the email address can be searched for on the site database. If they are using a different one then we can't help.
As others have said, direct the mail into your spam folder and block them from MSN. If the messages start get threatening report it to their ISP service and/or police.
It's just a reminder that we all need to be careful with our personal information and not be quite so trusting. Whilst we all may share a common interest in this lifestyle there are going to be the usual number of idiots out there - just are there are to be found in any other community.
If the threats are via messenger then the email address can be searched for on the site database. If they are using a different one then we can't help.
As others have said, direct the mail into your spam folder and block them from MSN. If the messages start get threatening report it to their ISP service and/or police.
It's just a reminder that we all need to be careful with our personal information and not be quite so trusting. Whilst we all may share a common interest in this lifestyle there are going to be the usual number of idiots out there - just are there are to be found in any other community.
Sex God
Quote by Jags
We can't control things which happen outside the site and don't think anyone would want or like that to happen.
If the threats are via messenger then the email address can be searched for on the site database. If they are using a different one then we can't help.
I think if someone from the site is being threatening off site deliberatly so it cant be labeled a "site issue" then some form of action is appropriate.......This is something I have always felt..
And I know exactly who it is I dont need a database searching to try and tally up an email address with a user name..
Quote by Mallock2006
We can't control things which happen outside the site and don't think anyone would want or like that to happen.
If the threats are via messenger then the email address can be searched for on the site database. If they are using a different one then we can't help.
I think if someone from the site is being threatening off site deliberatly so it cant be labeled a "site issue" then some form of action is appropriate.......This is something I have always felt..
And I know exactly who it is I dont need a database searching to try and tally up an email address with a user name..
WHAT exactly do you want from us then? Another argument. It's obvious you have your own agenda which is tearing you apart.
Sex God
Extremely sorry I think some of the things that happen here are wrong
I'll just go lie down and wont speak again till my opinion agrees with yours shall I :roll:
I'll just go lie down and wont speak again till my opinion agrees with yours shall I :roll:
Quote by Mallock2006
Extremely sorry I think some of the things that happen here are wrong
I'll just go lie down and wont speak again till my opinion agrees with yours shall I :roll:
Who says your opinion and mine have to agree?? That wasn't the point of my comments but your comment does indicate again your own agenda.
It saddens me that you have had bad experiences on here and that it appears that there is nothing I can do to make it better. If snarling at me helps then carry on doing it.
Sex God
You keep harping on about me having "my own agenda"
If me wanting people who threaten physical violence dealt with is an agenda then yeh........S'pose I do....
And as for making things better well.....
Admin have had all the evidence and chosen not to do anything,something which is becoming habit of late, so it obviously doesnt matter........Well not to them anyway....
If me wanting people who threaten physical violence dealt with is an agenda then yeh........S'pose I do....
And as for making things better well.....
Admin have had all the evidence and chosen not to do anything,something which is becoming habit of late, so it obviously doesnt matter........Well not to them anyway....
Quote by Mallock2006
You keep harping on about me having "my own agenda"
If me wanting people who threaten physical violence dealt with is an agenda then yeh........S'pose I do....
And as for making things better well.....
Admin have had all the evidence and chosen not to do anything,something which is becoming habit of late, so it obviously doesnt matter........Well not to them anyway....
Rather than continually slagging off Admin why not take it to them. Whilst I understand that you HAVE done this there is no point airing your agenda or your obvious bitterness in the public forum so much when the answer lies elsewhere.
:P
Quote by Angel_and_H
hiya all who read............
We got mails stating H is stopping Angel and spoiling for others.
:therethere: you two
No one should have to put up with that.
Don't let it stop you going in the chat rooms - you are obviously well liked in the rooms you go in and you should continue to enjoy yourselves. :thumbup:
The worst that could happen is they start getting nasty in chat and then the ops can do something about it.
As had been said, it's probably best to block their email addy and ignore it.
Although personally I'd be tempting to send them a email back first.
Something along the lines of:
Dear Stalkers
I suppose I should feel flattered by your persistence.
Someone who takes the time to send unwanted messages to people clearly not interested in them must be really desperate to meet them (or maybe just desperate).
And now you can't even bear my on line presence, such is your desperation.
I honestly started to pity you, but then realised this was silly as you're clearly incredibly happy (well they do say ignorance is bliss).
I'd love to write more, but fortunately I don't have the time - my husband and I are busy finding sexual adventure with kind, respectful, sexy people who meet our criteria.
xxx
Sex God
Brilliant HLB bloody brilliant............
Forum Virgin
Someone once said to me "there is no such thing as a friend on Swinging Heaven, trust nobody" Now i wouldnt exactly go along with that entirely but they may have had a point. Giving out personal e-mail addresses can be a risky business and its one that i have to think hard about before doing so...
Its sad that there are a minority of people using the site that find rejection hard to take and feel the need to attack people with verbal and written abuse. But its a sad reflection on those that do it and not on the ones that are unfortunately receiving the abuse.
However, speaking as a single male, those of us that are genuine and adult enough to be able to take a no as a no and not hound anyone whether they be couples, single women or even single males (if thats your persuasion) will prevail in the long run.
Sometimes i think there should be a name and shame board within the site to post such items, however, i appreciate that this would not be feasible as it would no doubt be abused again by the minority who get a kick out of trying to destroy other peoples integrity and reputations.
I hope your problem has now been resolved Angel & H and the advice given by the others is the best on offer..... just banish the buggers into the junk folder for eternity and ignore them in the rooms you frequent and carry on enjoying this site for the purpose for which it was first established...
Good luck
Graham
Its sad that there are a minority of people using the site that find rejection hard to take and feel the need to attack people with verbal and written abuse. But its a sad reflection on those that do it and not on the ones that are unfortunately receiving the abuse.
However, speaking as a single male, those of us that are genuine and adult enough to be able to take a no as a no and not hound anyone whether they be couples, single women or even single males (if thats your persuasion) will prevail in the long run.
Sometimes i think there should be a name and shame board within the site to post such items, however, i appreciate that this would not be feasible as it would no doubt be abused again by the minority who get a kick out of trying to destroy other peoples integrity and reputations.
I hope your problem has now been resolved Angel & H and the advice given by the others is the best on offer..... just banish the buggers into the junk folder for eternity and ignore them in the rooms you frequent and carry on enjoying this site for the purpose for which it was first established...
Good luck
Graham
Warming the Bed
Graham the name and shame policy is not possible sadly as you said also could be open to abuse by in theory would sure stop some of this happening on here.
However, word soon spreads if someone is a persistent offender especially if you frequent certain rooms majority of the time.
Sorry Ange and H to learn what you've been through hope it won't stop you staying for the sake of genuine friends you apparently do have on here.
As others have said reducing the amount of personal information given helps to an extent. Yet at some point need to place trust in the other member and exchange these especially as planning a meet.
It's a right pain having to change an msn or address.
Not sure if others know but msn now have a new thing to join a network with your own contacts. Be warned this then makes your details available to people you don't know on their contact list.
Likewise all your contacts get passed on to not just to them but all of theirs too.
Never know who is being given access to your msn details without your consent.
:smile2:
However, word soon spreads if someone is a persistent offender especially if you frequent certain rooms majority of the time.
Sorry Ange and H to learn what you've been through hope it won't stop you staying for the sake of genuine friends you apparently do have on here.
As others have said reducing the amount of personal information given helps to an extent. Yet at some point need to place trust in the other member and exchange these especially as planning a meet.
It's a right pain having to change an msn or address.
Not sure if others know but msn now have a new thing to join a network with your own contacts. Be warned this then makes your details available to people you don't know on their contact list.
Likewise all your contacts get passed on to not just to them but all of theirs too.
Never know who is being given access to your msn details without your consent.
:smile2:
Warming the Bed
Hi guys sometimes a lot of new people who come on swinging heaven are happy to give out private email addresses very quickly without getting to know a little bit about the person/persons they are given this information to. If i was you guys im sure on msn or whichever email you use there is an option to block a certain address contacting you. Next time you go into your mail look for preferences and see if there is an option for blocking or blacklisting a perticular name. Im sure other peeps on here maybe able to help further in this matter. Good luck
simon / wendy aka slapper xx
simon / wendy aka slapper xx
