I'm new to the chatrooms, so this might seem like a stupid question, but when is it OK to whisper?
Obviously I would avoid anybody who requests no whispers in their profile, but do I always need to ask permission in the open chatroom first? Sometimes I want to whisper without anybody else knowing about it.
I don't want to offend anybody, so any guidelines will be much appreciated.
Thanks
James
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James,
look out for the ...... By entering the chatroom I confirm I have read, understood and agree to abide by the Chat Room T & C's aka
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/chatroom/user-rules.html link
Many find it polite to be asked so always worth giving them the opportunity to reply
look out for the ...... By entering the chatroom I confirm I have read, understood and agree to abide by the Chat Room T & C's aka
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/chatroom/user-rules.html link
Many find it polite to be asked so always worth giving them the opportunity to reply
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James,
look out for the ...... By entering the chatroom I confirm I have read, understood and agree to abide by the Chat Room T & C's aka
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/chatroom/user-rules.html link
Many find it polite to be asked so always worth giving them the opportunity to reply
I read the rules but couldn't find anything specific about whispers.
Thanks for the advice!
Hi James, from a single girl perspective, whispers without asking can get overwhelming and become very annoying - the other night I had 10 different peeps I didn't know whisper within 3 minutes of entering the room. Most are hi, how are you, hi Hun, hey babe and seriously, it's boring! I've now changed my settings so I don't see whispers unless I allow them but some may think I'm just being rude ignoring them.
Saying hi in the room or even just asking to whisper shows respect up front, marks you as different and is always welcome. That's just my view, rules or no rules. Glad to see u taking an interest in etiquette :-)
Saying hi in the room or even just asking to whisper shows respect up front, marks you as different and is always welcome. That's just my view, rules or no rules. Glad to see u taking an interest in etiquette :-)
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Hi James, from a single girl perspective, whispers without asking can get overwhelming and become very annoying - the other night I had 10 different peeps I didn't know whisper within 3 minutes of entering the room. Most are hi, how are you, hi Hun, hey babe and seriously, it's boring! I've now changed my settings so I don't see whispers unless I allow them but some may think I'm just being rude ignoring them.
Saying hi in the room or even just asking to whisper shows respect up front, marks you as different and is always welcome. That's just my view, rules or no rules. Glad to see u taking an interest in etiquette :-)
Not a single fem like Missy but know the odd thing or 2 about chatrooms :lol2:
The old rule used to be ask before whispering and alot of members still prefer to be asked before they are bombarded with whispers. There are tools to block whispers but at the end of the day manners cost nothing and they do go along way.
Have fun in the Chatrooms that's what they are about and hopefully you will find what your looking for.
Probably each to their own. We are very new to the chatrooms and to be honest don't mind whispers, most of the time we sit there trying (and failing) to follow the main room conversation and its actually nice to have someone come and talk to us away from the main room. If we're not interested or are chatting elsewhere the whisperer will just gets a polite no thank you.
So far we have found almost everyone polite (in whispers), don't have a problem with a hi to break the ice although no one has actually asked whether its ok to whisper. However, I would imagine that anyone with a cam up is probably bombarded with whispers which would get annoying very quickly.
Manners and treating people with respect cost nothing and I would hope would get most over the the first hurdle of chatting.
I was going to say treat people as you want to be treated but with such a diverse range of pepple using the chat rooms thats probably a dangerous statement to make
So far we have found almost everyone polite (in whispers), don't have a problem with a hi to break the ice although no one has actually asked whether its ok to whisper. However, I would imagine that anyone with a cam up is probably bombarded with whispers which would get annoying very quickly.
Manners and treating people with respect cost nothing and I would hope would get most over the the first hurdle of chatting.
I was going to say treat people as you want to be treated but with such a diverse range of pepple using the chat rooms thats probably a dangerous statement to make
We don't mind whispers but the inevitable "who is this, m or f" demand from single men usually get ignored. We find that if you take issue with the whisperer for this approach to intiating chat, they get the hump and are sometimes abusive.
Single men seem unaware that there are hundreds of others doing the same thing at the same time! Any criticism of them ends up in couples being labelled as "arrogant" when really a more accurate description would be "tired". Don't get us wrong, we have had some good chatting with some great single men. It's just that others need to realise that social skills still apply...
Single men seem unaware that there are hundreds of others doing the same thing at the same time! Any criticism of them ends up in couples being labelled as "arrogant" when really a more accurate description would be "tired". Don't get us wrong, we have had some good chatting with some great single men. It's just that others need to realise that social skills still apply...
I'm quite happy to whisper in someones ear in the pub, whether we've been introduced or otherwise 
: and i thought i was a bit reserved.
I don't get many whispers in't chatroom unless the cams on .... well 'cept for meeko makin' lewd suggestions, but we're all used to him, and ya have to make allowances, there's stuff goin' on at their house.
I whisper to anyone I know if I have something discreet to share, or some advice to impart; otherwise very rarely and I'm sure you'll tell me whether you're mr or mrs if you wish to do so.
: and i thought i was a bit reserved.I don't get many whispers in't chatroom unless the cams on .... well 'cept for meeko makin' lewd suggestions, but we're all used to him, and ya have to make allowances, there's stuff goin' on at their house.
I whisper to anyone I know if I have something discreet to share, or some advice to impart; otherwise very rarely and I'm sure you'll tell me whether you're mr or mrs if you wish to do so.
