attitude

Forum Virgin

0 likes 21 Dec 2004

a few days ago I joined this site and posted a message, I made a mistake and mentioned the name of the area, when I come back onto the board the following day there was a reply on the post from a couple calling me a prat, saying I had fucked up another location,
to cut it short I posted another reply they said I was offensive and the thread was locked .
Over the last few days I have read through some of the posts on here and it seems to me there is a really strong attitude problem among a lot of the people who use this site. OK I made a mistake why not point it out why get offensive and start name calling?
On one of the threads here someone has even posted a picture of a car they deem to be a problem there have been suggestions of posting car number plates on the internet to name and shame people, a lot of threads seem to contain sarcastic and childish comments, is there any need for this attitude?
How would any of you like it if someone posted photos of your car on here or your reg numbers?
I have been dogging both as a couple and as a single male for a number of years now
and came onto this baord out of interest, it seems to me that was a mistake and I dont think I'll bother coming posting on here again with the superior attitude a lot of the people on here have, gona look back here in a couple of days and see what the reaction is to this, no doubt Im going to have some more replys similar to the last

RedHot

Sex God

0 likes 21 Dec 2004

I haven't read the post to which you refer about you giving out locations and then being called a prat so can't comment on that.
However, if you have not bothered to read the posting guidlelines before making your post, and then you have named a specific location, I feel the mistake is entirely down to you.

Quote by fred640
How would any of you like it if someone posted photos of your car on here or your reg numbers?

:roll:
Read the rules - that simply won't happen on this site. It is forbidden to name and shame.
People have been known to get vast amounts of problems at certain locations when they have been named on the net. These range from boy racers dashing around the car parks, to rapists, muggers and violent physical attacks and drug dealers to name but a few evil

If you are the seasoned dogger that you claim to be, you would surely have known about such things going on and would not have named your location :roll:
I daresay you will get more replies of the nature you are expecting and go off on your way thinking we are all a bunch of unfriendly people, but actually we are anything but unfriendly.
We all look out for each other, warn other members of potential trouble spots and take a genuine interest in our fellow doggers/voyeurs.
That is why idiots like yourself, who don't read the guidelines before posting and who name locations are shouted at and called prats. It's because they are putting each and every one of us at risk and we don't look kindly upon that mad

:x
If the day comes when you run into some trouble while out dogging, you may realise what we're talking about. Hopefully you won't have to learn the hard way unlike some other members on here :evil:
Tracy-Jayne

Mal

Mod

0 likes 21 Dec 2004

Quote by fred640
a few days ago I joined this site and posted a message, I made a mistake and mentioned the name of the area, when I come back onto the board the following day there was a reply on the post from a couple calling me a prat, saying I had fucked up another location,
to cut it short I posted another reply they said I was offensive and the thread was locked .
Over the last few days I have read through some of the posts on here and it seems to me there is a really strong attitude problem among a lot of the people who use this site. OK I made a mistake why not point it out why get offensive and start name calling?
On one of the threads here someone has even posted a picture of a car they deem to be a problem there have been suggestions of posting car number plates on the internet to name and shame people, a lot of threads seem to contain sarcastic and childish comments, is there any need for this attitude?
How would any of you like it if someone posted photos of your car on here or your reg numbers?
I have been dogging both as a couple and as a single male for a number of years now
and came onto this baord out of interest, it seems to me that was a mistake and I dont think I'll bother coming posting on here again with the superior attitude a lot of the people on here have, gona look back here in a couple of days and see what the reaction is to this, no doubt Im going to have some more replys similar to the last

So Fred
What is the point of this particular post? Is it just a statement of fact according to Fred which requires no comment? Or is it here for comments to be given? I'll work on the principle that you require comment otherwise pretty pointless post really!
You say you made a mistake. True, you did and it was commented on. You took umbrage, was offensive, but you never apologised for the mistake, did you? It was locked as it would have just turned into a battle. not what we want on here.
you complained now, with your knowledge of less than two weeks on the site that folk here have attitude. AND? We are adults and you have already portrayed your attitude by this post. so what makes you any different?
You state that someone posted a picture of a problem car. Did you report it to any of the moderators? Is it still there now? Personally, I think you need to put up or shut up. Posts like that are dealt with very swiftly, as yours was. we will not tolerate anyone 'naming and shaming' at all. Bust.
Fred, your experience of the forum is very, very limited. You might have been dogging for years, but you've been here less than 2 weeks. You haven't met anyone from here or spoken to anyone other than in anger. If you don't take time to get to know people on here, you won't fit in. It's not a case of a clique, more a social group that you spend time getting to know. We say this often in here and I'll say it again. If you saw a group of people talking in a pub and you wanted to join them, you would find something you have in common with them and join in their conversation. Anyone who walked up to that group and said they all had an attitude problem wouldn't get very far, would they?
Think about it. If you want to stay, stay. If you want to leave, just go. Nobody is forcing you to do either. But if you stay, respect our rules and our members.
Mal

bluexxx

Sex God

0 likes 21 Dec 2004

In short, you broke the rules and you were called a prat - so what? get over it. If you want to carry on using the site, abide by the rules and all will be well. Yes nutters and rapists do use the internet to find victims. If you have no common sense just blindly follow the rules. OK.

wild_rose_and_the_stag

Sex God

0 likes 21 Dec 2004

isnt a prat a term of endearment on here, same as twat eejut and wanker?
hope it is or ive been kidding myself im accepted as a friend by you lot??????
staggy lol

Cheshuntbloke

Sexlightened

0 likes 21 Dec 2004

Quote by fred640
On one of the threads here someone has even posted a picture of a car they deem to be a problem ................. How would any of you like it if someone posted photos of your car on here..........?

Hi Fred,
I'm on this site most days and tend to read the majority of the threads, the only recent thread I can recall showing a picture of a "problem" car is: http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopicpage/29740/20.html
I'm sure you don't mean this picture do you?!?! This picture has been shown on hundreds of sites on the net and has featured in magazines such as Nuts, Zoo, Loaded, FHM, Max Power etc etc etc. It's NOT a doggers car and was posted, I firmly believe, as a joke of the boy racers you find at dogging sites.
Best chill out mate, read the rules, read the threads and join in, IMHO this is the best site around so why not take onboard the advice of the Mods and either post away or move on?
All the best :thumbup:

Chief__moo

Sexpert

0 likes 21 Dec 2004

well this amused me quite alot,
the guy's obviously desperate and and basicly being a typical male, i think i remember the post he's referring too, typical single guy post i'm new looking for any couples or single girls looking for hot hard cock will be at italkshit road, up ur anus land.
so yeah ppl gave him shit for reasons stated above by blur and redhot. stating he wants instant action from the S/H community but cant be arsed to read the rules rolleyes

i'm new here and trust me, there's no attitude here. think u will find like on most forums ppl tend to reply in the same kind of manner as the first persons post. you cum accross friendly and genuine that's how ppl will react back to u, act like a complete ass and......
well surely u dont need that explaining to u.....?
swing heaven is a great genuine friendly place to go.........
please dont listen to this guy...... he aint got a clue, and is an arrogant pompus full o crap desperate sad little man.

wild_rose_and_the_stag

Sex God

0 likes 21 Dec 2004

im sure hes nice if you get to know him, give him a chance, state your case mate make it good , win them over with your amusing anacdotes, go on, i bet he does , you have the stage the spot light is on you ,now go for it.............................

petesue

Sexpert

0 likes 21 Dec 2004

At the end of the day do people really need to be told what is acceptable?
We as a couple have always been of the opinion that posting locations was not a sensible thing to do and for the reasons that most people know about.
Not meaning to point the finger at anyone but if people stop and think before they post then there would be no need for this thread.