you make contact with them or they make contact with you..
you discuss meeting up etc after a few pm's or emails back and forth..then you dont hear from then again
maybe other people have nothing better to do with there time than just flaffing about, but for us it involves baby sitters, arranging all the bits and bobs..only to be blown out at the lat minute by the silence mode or just not about mode..damm rude we think :x and seriously getting on my tits!..(i wish lol)
oh well another wasted evening in front of the tv (viewing type!)