HELP! New to this - Kent | Swinging Heaven

4 Sep 2003

Can anyone please help me and give some advice. I am completely new to dogging, but have always wanted to watch another couple 'at it'.
Through this forum, I learnt about the Rochester / Higham layby and visited it last night. There were a lot of cars there, mostly with single men like myself in them, but there were also a couple of cars with couples in them.
Being new I don't know the rules. I've read that if the interior lights are on the couple want to be watched so I sat patiently in my car waiting for a sign. Through the lights of other cars coming ands going it was clear that the couple a little way ahead of me were busy and I also had a car with a guy in it behind me.
Then another car pulled in behind the car behind me and after a couple of minutes the interior light came on and I thought we were away! Just then another car pulled in behind them and flashed his lights a couple of times. To my dismay both cars then drove off, never to be seen again.
Can anyone please explain exactly what happened. I'm dying to get involved with the scene but am fearful that I'll never see anything as my eyesight is bad enough in the daytime, let alone in a dark layby! LOL biggrin

4 Sep 2003

Well asked newbie. Was going to ask something VERY similar.
What is the code of practice? And how do you know someone is `up for it` when out? Who makes the first move? Is it the person who is there first or second or something different? Especially when dark as newbie says. You could get in a car with a total psycho. (although if they look like Gail Porter or Catherine Zeta Jones who cares!!!)

6 Sep 2003

Thanks for the reply Gen_Guy, but it appears that doggers are a solitary bunch as no-one seems to want to share information with us.
What worries me is that if information isn't made readily available then mistakes will inevitably happen and 'performers' may be scared off, or worst still, the police will become even more active in this particular field of human indulgance.
Very, very disappointed in it all really. I am so keen to learn, LOL

6 Sep 2003

Well, I was waiting for someone with a bit more knowledge to step forward but it seems it befalls to me....
Look for an interior light switched on, flashing head or break lights, windows wound down. Any or all of these. And sometimes couples are new and do none of them.
I seem to recall someone asking this about a week ago and I said much the same then; that we need a 'Dogging For Dummies' guide....
Just go along to a dogging spot and watch from your car. The best way to learn is by observation, after all.
Anyone else (Jumo?) who knows more please feel free to jump in at this point....
Hxx

7 Sep 2003

Thanks for the tips Heather. However, last night I went to my local dogging location and there were only a couple of cars there and in one of those the interior light went on and off a couple of times, folowed by the side lights going on. The only problem there was a single guy in the car, not a couple! Just my luck I guess.
I popped by there on my way home tonight ( ) and the place was deserted! I sat around for a while but no one turned up so I went home disappointed again.
That said, I won't give up. I'm sure that with time, and a lot of patience, I will fulfil my fantasy of watching someone else 'at it'.
Thanks again to Heather and Genuine Bloke for taking the trouble of responding to my posting. Sorry I got your name wrong in my first response Genuine Bloke!
Good luck, good health and be careful.
Newbie