Ok, hi, I've lurked long enough. Dogging...how do I pursuade a reluctant and slightly moralistic hubby that this is something I really want to try. I've tried bringing it up in conversation and all I get is 'tut tut, how awfull and what's wrong with these people' .
My sex drive may be a lot higher than his but I would have to think seriously about infidelity if he doesn't get his act together soon. I have a gf who I've discussed this with and she wondered what would happen if we just turned up on our own. Safety and security being top of the list. Also how would other doggers react if two women turned up without men?
Suggestions, advice etc requested.
One persons DePravity is anothers pleasure
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Interesting! A number of men have posted the same question about their wives and swinging and have all been told the same thing.......you shouldn't be trying to push something on your partner they don't want. I would say the same applies in your case, the threat of infidelity doesn't seem the best way to go about getting what you want. If you've tried discussing it and he's not interested in it, your time might be better spent finding out what he would be interested in? However, I don't know your circumstances and have no desire to judge them! 
As for turning up at a dogging site with a female friend, the initial expectation will most likely be that you will be putting on a girl on girl show, prayers answered for most doggers everywhere. Reactions will vary depending on the audience though, some will love watching two girls, some will assume two girls out must be looking for men to be involved and others will insist that you need them to act as a minder service for you - you'd need to be clear about what you are looking for and don't be persuaded otherwise, although I guess your comment on infidelity may mean you are looking for participation anyway. If it were me (female), I'd have a look but not be too excited about, but my dogging tastes tend towards watching MF couples
As for turning up at a dogging site with a female friend, the initial expectation will most likely be that you will be putting on a girl on girl show, prayers answered for most doggers everywhere. Reactions will vary depending on the audience though, some will love watching two girls, some will assume two girls out must be looking for men to be involved and others will insist that you need them to act as a minder service for you - you'd need to be clear about what you are looking for and don't be persuaded otherwise, although I guess your comment on infidelity may mean you are looking for participation anyway. If it were me (female), I'd have a look but not be too excited about, but my dogging tastes tend towards watching MF couples
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Ok, hi, I've lurked long enough. Dogging...how do I pursuade a reluctant and slightly moralistic hubby that this is something I really want to try. I've tried bringing it up in conversation and all I get is 'tut tut, how awfull and what's wrong with these people' .
My sex drive may be a lot higher than his but I would have to think seriously about infidelity if he doesn't get his act together soon. I have a gf who I've discussed this with and she wondered what would happen if we just turned up on our own. Safety and security being top of the list. Also how would other doggers react if two women turned up without men?
Suggestions, advice etc requested.
One persons DePravity is anothers pleasure
:violin:
:welcome: And i would most definately agree with serendipity on this issue, i am in a similar situation to yourself but at least my partner will go out with me and enjoys what we do together.
The last thing you should do is push the issue to the point of alienating your partner and end up them resenting you for it.
You may wish to try roll play with him and find out what he wants, i wish you luck.
shad.
u out 2nite? u have pm..
bloody hell, i just wrote you a wicked reply , but kept hearing ali g shouting "keep it real" so i scrubbed it...there was about 20 paragraphs, my longest to date, and its all gone..yipeeee, i'm free
if that is you in the avetar, then you are a stunningly attractive woman..
as shad aknowledged, many couples that have incompatable sex drives, find dogging can bridge the gap, the (usually male) partner has his satisfaction in the voyuerism.
you, at present are not in such a relationship, and it would appear that your desire for sex, potentially, is greater than your desire to stay faithfull to your partner..but can i ask? what is it about dogging, that you feel can satisfy your desires in a way that a discreet afair, or the relitive security of a sex club cannot?
phew, done it..three paragraphs and not too much bollocks...now, where's me julie, yo, hoe..smoke this
bloody hell, i just wrote you a wicked reply , but kept hearing ali g shouting "keep it real" so i scrubbed it...there was about 20 paragraphs, my longest to date, and its all gone..yipeeee, i'm free
if that is you in the avetar, then you are a stunningly attractive woman..
as shad aknowledged, many couples that have incompatable sex drives, find dogging can bridge the gap, the (usually male) partner has his satisfaction in the voyuerism.
you, at present are not in such a relationship, and it would appear that your desire for sex, potentially, is greater than your desire to stay faithfull to your partner..but can i ask? what is it about dogging, that you feel can satisfy your desires in a way that a discreet afair, or the relitive security of a sex club cannot?
phew, done it..three paragraphs and not too much bollocks...now, where's me julie, yo, hoe..smoke this
Wise words from all of you. Serendip and dd 'specially.
So if he doesn't want to play my games, in fact doesn't want to play any games perhaps he won't mind if i go out and play on my own (not literally on my own...too chicken for that). Wish i'd have seen dd's 20 pages sounds intuiging.
So it seems to me that i only have two choices 1, get with the programme i.e. get out there and try what there is; or 2, stay at home and use up my battery suuply.
For those who know more, is it unusual for a woman to be a voyeur?
The idea of watching and the temptation of knowing that i could join in if and when has me going to spar for more duracell. God the prices they charge.
So if he doesn't want to play my games, in fact doesn't want to play any games perhaps he won't mind if i go out and play on my own (not literally on my own...too chicken for that). Wish i'd have seen dd's 20 pages sounds intuiging.
So it seems to me that i only have two choices 1, get with the programme i.e. get out there and try what there is; or 2, stay at home and use up my battery suuply.
For those who know more, is it unusual for a woman to be a voyeur?
The idea of watching and the temptation of knowing that i could join in if and when has me going to spar for more duracell. God the prices they charge.
I dont know if it is your husband fantasy but almost every single man out ther would love to see their wife having sex or doing some kind of sexual activity with another man. I for one am in the same boat. I think about it and she knows but she wont do it.
Ask hubby what he thinks of it and if he would give it a go with you. He might say yes he might say no. Either way you have asked the question. Or better still go out to your site one night but tell him your both going out for a drive. Go to the site and see what happens. Start getting a frisky in the car. See how he reacts.
If he aint interested see if someone else will go with you or go alone but be careful.
Hope it works out for you
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Ask hubby what he thinks of it and if he would give it a go with you. He might say yes he might say no. Either way you have asked the question. Or better still go out to your site one night but tell him your both going out for a drive. Go to the site and see what happens. Start getting a frisky in the car. See how he reacts.
If he aint interested see if someone else will go with you or go alone but be careful.
Hope it works out for you
:happy:
