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Disappointed of Berkshire writes, "to stay or not to stay, that is the question".
I am interested in the topics and think the people on the Café are a nice bunch, I enjoy the café but I can never be a swinger because my wife has become a celibate, and so perforce have I.
So.. I am potentially a dogger, (if I ever find the action).
However, there seems such a reluctance on the part of anyone to share locations, (and I understand some judgments must be made and that it's not always easy), that it's hard to see a point in the dogging forum.
Last week I announced that I would be in Telford this week, and asked for some locations. If I do a search on Telford I come up with registered users, Alan, BigBoy69, Gurl, Phil J, 1sttimer, shropsDogs, Jackie and Ben, hanny, smileymark, Truck Dogger, dogging fun, and Crosseh.
Not one of the above or anyone else mailed me a location or offered advice.
Now it's true I might be an undercover cop or a member of the MBB, but I thought that if I got involved in the forum and joined in, then some form of mateyness would eventually rise to the top. It didn't, or at least it hasn't.
I'm only up to 126 posts, but still that's more than casual interest and I thought might give rise to a response or two.
What's the general view? It's obviously a good spot for Wendy to announce she's out for the night, and for other promotions of a like kind, but it doesn't seem to offer much else.
You've got nothing on your profile, not even a location area, and you have only been on here a month. Nobody owes you anything. It takes time to get people to warm to you. Patience is what is required, both on here and when dogging. You don't NEED this Site for you to go dogging. You can dog anytime you like. Just go out and do it and meet other doggers at the different locations. They may or may not tell you other places. They may or may not tell you the best times to be out.
Just have patience and something might just happen one of those times. That's what it's all about.
Mal
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Oh hunny sorry your not having much luck.....
But time and patiance is all it takes....there is a locations section on here sumwhere which might help.....however couples r hard to find.....but i know u'll take the time to find a nice couple on here and arrange sumthing......
So good luck hunny...hope sumthing cums up for u... wink
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You don't NEED this Site for you to go dogging. You can dog anytime you like. Just go out and do it Mal
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Yes, that's the point. If you are a true single male then the time you can spend on this hobby is only limited by you, if however one is in a relationship then finding six hour windows is quite rare, and so if a little addional knowledge can be obtained obviously it makes matters a lot easier, especially if out of area. It's what one hopes the site might help with.
Finding one hour windows is an everyday occurance but unlikely to meet with success.
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Oh hunny sorry your not having much luck.....

Just love your avatar, I'm dreaming of snuggling in! Thanks for the comments.
Thanks hunny......every1 seems to b noticing it.....and to think i was only going to put it up for afew hours lol
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Thanks hunny......every1 seems to b noticing it.....and to think i was only going to put it up for afew hours lol

Don't you mean them! biggrin cool 8-) 8-)
Most doggers chat to other doggers and get local news.
The serious doggers also visits places in daylight, get the lie, and check the place for signs of action the previous night.
Recon in the dark to check who is who, and what is what.
Funnily enough, even though most places that CAN be used are listed you'll find that silly little places are also used...like small car parks at local beauty areas...if a place is used for recreation it'll also be used for sex...parks, lakes etc.
But in reality, he who waits get action sooner or later, and also gets sleep.
yeah,jomu is right mate,it really is a waiting reason that doggers are reuctant to divulge locations is simple,you represent competition in an already saturated people new to dogging expect to turn up and get some action within minutes of arriving,of course that can,and does happen,but its bloody rare!dunno about daytime forays,searching among the debris for clues,but if that works for jomu!maybe ray mears could do a special programme on it? i have to say though,i have had my best experiences at the most unlikely times,and when out with the missus,have entertained at some unusual times too! you have to remember,couples that wish to play to large gatherings are in a minority,so smaller venues or off-peak times are preffered
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Why did my name come up in the search?
I dont even know where Telford is !!!
- just a confused gurl

Well sorry to libel you, but if you click search and type Telford, there you are about 5th on the list. Mind you, as we all know threads change direction a lot. Basically Telford is a dull town in the very West Midlands and is a world heritage site for the Ironbridge built in 17-something, and a pimple of a hill called the Wrekin where Birmingham goes for a hard days walking. (This encyclopedic knowledge discovered last week).
lol gurl, Dont worry, Telford is up norf some where, to cold up there for softy southerners like us !!! lol
Hardly.
I've never been to a site that anyone cleaned up their mess at yet.
The least you get are loads of expended tissues.
If you go to a site and it's got loads of coke cans and maccy-d bags with a smattering of gutted tailor-mades and handrolled dog ends then its kids.
Even if peeps pick-up the rubbers and tissues they leave behind the wrapper for the rubber...
Just sense really....no point wasting time at a place that's dead, or used by kids a lot.
Don't forget, most guys at sites will happily lie about where the action is
"Nahh mate, nothing doing here...not for years...I'm only here because it's local and I've got no cash for petrol. You may like to try harlots pit...just along the dual carriageway for 25 miles then left at the roundabout"...etc etc etc etc etc
I was told last night about a place where "couples shag on the picnic benches"
Yeah....as if....so I went there this morning, before any cleaners...anyway, I'll be back there tonight....early...
hehehehe we do love Jomu's almost SAS dogging tactics , he has studied as a master for years . We rarely contradict him (except when hes in one of his blue periods)and what he sez here is just as true as usual .
Couples get the same treatment in reverse . Although we have had nothing but nice reactions from almost all the doggers weve met , you have to ask 'how stupid do they think we are?' sometimes. We often get told that certain sites are 'really busy' and 'lots of couples in and out' and low and behold when we get there no one lolol we dont get bent outta shape about it, but it is funny .
You can tell when most doggers are lying because their lips are moving , but its all part of the sport , what a giggle it all is. The last guy we chatted to at Stoke Woods explained to us that the old mondeo (filled with MacDonalds wrappers ) he was in was just one he was using while his Porche was being serviced -- like we cared what car he drove !
Have Fun xx
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my comments about jomu's dedicated methods were tongue in cheek,any dogger that takes his craft so seriously gets my respect!it paints a great picture though,jomu sifting through the debris,like david bellamy,"good gwasious,wubbers all over the place".maybe you could corden the area off with crime scene tape,you could plot the positions of participants with cardboard cutouts!calculate relative distances by the cum splatter!! oh i'm having fun!no wonder jomu leapt on my thread regarding cleaning up afterwards,columbo would be proud of you mate!mate,dont take this as an attack,please,its only a bit of point about doggers telling porkies is right,there is so much bullshit at our local,i've taken to wearing then if i'd found a productive location,i wouldn't share it with the world either!
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Last week I announced that I would be in Telford this week, and asked for some locations. If I do a search on Telford I come up with registered users, Alan, BigBoy69, Gurl, Phil J, 1sttimer, shropsDogs, Jackie and Ben, hanny, smileymark, Truck Dogger, dogging fun, and Crosseh.
Not one of the above or anyone else mailed me a location or offered advice.
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I wondered why when we are from Kent we came up in a search for Telford !!! Guess what, we posted asking for locations in Telford to put on a show and get some action and were underwhelmed with ZERO replies. And that is as an active couple, so dont feel too bad at least you are getting replies. lol
Love
Jackie and Ben
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Well, seeing as our name is now in lights (sort of confused ) I suppose we ought to unmask ourselves. YES! We live near Telford and it is oop North but not as North as Manchester and not as South as Gloustershire. And there isn't really anything happening in Telford (we're still not sure if it actually exists), but around the periphery there is lot's of places for fun, they're just not advetised at all, which kind of suits us.....that way we can organise things just for us smile
If Jackie & Ben are ever back up around Shropshire way, say hello and we'll let you know some excellent places.
J & D
I wondered why when we are from Kent we came up in a search for Telford !!!

Yeah we thought that ! Im sure if you had , had the mass e-mail and enjoyed it with your names pasted in you would have been tempted to go though guys lol
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as a staffordian I can not understand how shropshire let Jackie and Ben slip through their metaphorical grasp....should you ever venture this way again ...you are assured a most warm welcome ... smile :)
Hi shrops dogs by the way always nice to meet a neighbour . lol
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Shame really...as if you had 'libeled' me.....Then I would have demanded satisfaction from you.
- just a gurl

I would do my best!
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Oh it's not a lot, but if forced I might be able to squeeze a little out of the piggy bonk for you.
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Seems strange to me that "Musketeer" seems to understand that posting a few messages on here is going to result in his gaining some dogging experience!Chris

Firstly Chris, thanks for the pm. In my defence I would say that I understand your point, and I think it has also been made elsewhere. However since my "nights out" are few and far between I had hoped that this site might short circuit the route to success.
Maybe in some way it has, but I suppose my main comment was the lack of shared information via pm, although I got slammed by Mal for that supposing that I had been here long enough for trust to develop, he may be right.
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Then beware....I might just take you for everything you have...and then some !!!
- just a 'greedy' gurl

Oh it's not a lot, but if forced I might be able to squeeze a little out of the piggy bonk for you.
Ooooooooh !!!......Is that like a doggy bonk?
And no ones going to force you...Unless you want me too?
- just a 'domme' gurl
Very like a doggy bonk, only pinker, but I can tell you I rattle either way.
(I'm running out of inuendo here, perhaps we should flesh this out one day).
Sure are.
I heard today that a couple (and audience) "had their collars felt" at a local park....just a show and wank job, but the arrival of old bill shut that down...
The local "police presence" is becoming a joke, there seem to be more law at the parks than in the town. Both sides.
Used laybys are subject to much more regular patrols and even neighbouring counties seem to be getting in on the act and doing the reg number two step.
Now we have Mr (brain-dead) Blunkett saying that the police should use ASBOs' for a wider range of anti-social behaviour....this from a guy who's shagging a married woman WITHOUT her husband knowing...and he calls US "anti-social".
And with hardly a week going by without another copper being locked-up for , you get to think that some of these guys need a serious look at a dictionary...try looking at HYPOCRITE.
Or:
Do not, as some ungracious pastors do,
Show me the steep and thorny way to heaven,
Whiles, like a puffed and reckless libertine,
Himself the primrose path of dalliance treads,
And recks not his own rede.
William Shakespeare 1564-1616: Hamlet (1601)
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