this aint supposed to a heavy thread,just some personal know its sometimes an issue with guys,that couples have gatherings around the car,talk all night,then have heard it said about us,"timewasters","prickteasers"and"gasbags",its not a problem,but maybe a little rarely instigate conversations with doggers,but often respond to a casual "hello" in a similar usually has the effect of stopping the dogger in his tracks,and throwing himself against the car like a doggers,seeing their forward scout hasn't been shot down in flames,now join the enter,the drivers spot the gathering,thinking they are missing a full on extreme anal penertration gangbang leap from their vehicles and attach themselves to the car is now full of ciggie smoke and hallitosis!!....ok,there are ways around the issue,without causing offence,but the point is this,we usually go out with the intention of playing,sometimes,through the overbearing amount of "rattle" this becomes inpractical or rarely go home wishing we had talked more,but usually wish we had kept the window and our mouths shut!
have you ever considered mentioning to them that you are prepared show for 1 or 2( or as many as you fancy), singling out the ones who appeal and then going somewhere a bit quieter to play? its what we do in that situation, and it also lets the guys know that you are not into big crowds, without offending anyone. word soon gets round and they are less likely to hound you when they see you again.
hiya funcouple,ta for the input,although the thread was just a bit of banter rather than a plea for help we do appreciate your do like the social aspect,and the missus loves the attention!...we like to keep our options open,which is why we dont do private meets,so,when guys gather around the car for some chat,sometimes it serves to dampen our enthusiasm for alfresco passion,then,feeling we should act,in the way you describe,only leaves us feeling shoe-horned into performing,at that point,we take the easy,or lazy option of doing nothing!!.....really,the point i was making,if any,was that guys sometimes talk themselves out of a show,or more........i do respect that its only our take on it of course,and understand your approach being right for you.
no worries d/d, as long as you find what you are looking for. xx