BBC Fab Swingers Article.

How can we all protect ourselves? I'd only ever want sex with a woman who wanted sex with me and I'd be appalled if a woman had been coerced by a man to do something she didn't want to

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Link to article blocked by admin. It's an important subject, I think this link should be unlocked. See the BBC website for the story

Just read the story. Completely agree that this is an important subject that should be discussed.

I've seen posts and accounts here on SH that have made me really uncomfortable. Extreme domination and humiliation are massive red flags for me: posts from men inviting others to abuse their partners; pictures, videos and even webcams where the female looks too intoxicated to consent.

I do not know what sort of training or guidelines moderators work to. I would hope that they're regularly reporting accounts to the authorities rather than just removing content or banning accounts.

As the article says, consent can be complicated. Would most men even know the difference between pursuasion and coercion?

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Just read the story. Completely agree that this is an important subject that should be discussed.

I've seen posts and accounts here on SH that have made me really uncomfortable. Extreme domination and humiliation are massive red flags for me: posts from men inviting others to abuse their partners; pictures, videos and even webcams where the female looks too intoxicated to consent.

I do not know what sort of training or guidelines moderators work to. I would hope that they're regularly reporting accounts to the authorities rather than just removing content or banning accounts.

Unfortunately, it's not possible to make the BBC article link directly viewable on the site, as external links are disabled for understandable reasons. However, anyone interested in reading it should be able to find it by searching for:

"Woman left traumatised by swinging says website 'facilitated abuse'"

Speaking as just one moderator, I can only comment on the actions available to me personally.

I have never reported a post directly to the authorities, as that isn't something I have the authority or access to do. However, if content visible on the site whether in posts, profiles, profile descriptions, photos, videos, webcams or chatrooms raises concerns of the kind discussed in the article, and it is brought to our attention or spotted by the moderation team, we will take whatever action is available to us. Depending on the circumstances, that can include removing content, retaining records where appropriate, restricting accounts, suspending users, or issuing bans.

In more serious cases, matters are escalated to the site administrators. What happens after that is outside my remit, so I can't comment on the processes they may have in place or any decisions they make. What I can say is that concerns of this nature are treated seriously and are not simply ignored.

I would also add that moderators can only act on content that is either reported to us or that we happen to encounter ourselves. If members come across content that they believe breaches site rules or raises genuine concerns around consent, coercion or welfare, reporting it gives us the best opportunity to review it and take any action that may be necessary.