Sex God
Thought it was about time this post got a bit of an airing, so dragged it out of the SH cellar and stuck it in here for a while
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CAN I OFFER THE SINGLE GUYS A BIT OF ADVICE?
Quote by browning
Well said marco, I doubt if the single guy's will take any notice though.
You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink....................
Actually some of them do.
I forgot someone asked me to thank Marcuso as he had read this thread and made a few adjustments to his ad and, (well let's just say it had the desired effect) :thumbup:
I really worry if i'm overstepping the mark sometimes with PM's and the like and keep re-reading this and asking those i contact to tell me if i am.
EG if someone comes on line should i make contact or wait
: Same with msn they may have logged on to talk to someone else. I just worry if i'm bugging them. Though i'm sure they would say.
Or how long before asking if a 2nd meet is ok if at all.
Not looking for answers to these it just somethig i think about and there anr't deffinate answers.
EG if someone comes on line should i make contact or wait
: Same with msn they may have logged on to talk to someone else. I just worry if i'm bugging them. Though i'm sure they would say.Or how long before asking if a 2nd meet is ok if at all.
Not looking for answers to these it just somethig i think about and there anr't deffinate answers.
Forum Virgin
Lads,do yourselves a favour and read the 1st post on this thread..............it's not rocket -you have my utmost respect and love bro'.
Peace and Love peeps.
Mark a.k.a Slowhand 67
xxx
Peace and Love peeps.
Mark a.k.a Slowhand 67
xxx
Sex God
Nothing wrong with giving this a bump every now and again,
Sex God
Oooh, mustn't miss a chance to bump Edin BBW..woohoo! BUMP!!!
Sex God
As the new year as started, it may be time to get this one out again
Sex God
lol i thought it was snap or rummy or poker 
sorry childish i know
but agree with what marcuso says :)
sorry childish i know
but agree with what marcuso says :)
Sex God
Time for an airing, its been hiding in the basement for a while.
Orgasminator
Its all rubbish i tell you, just take plenty of pics of your dangly bits, (no face pics) and send em to couples looking for couples or couples looking for fems, lie loads in your replys. im telling you. Marcuso ha what does he know
Warming the Bed
can't help but feel that if you could condense it down to three lines, and tattoo it on a pair of tits, some of these fellas might take more notice.
I have made it a bit easier to read for single guys but didn't change the length as that would be an injustice to the original scripture. xxx
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/members/view-members-photos.html?userid=02271217
first photo the one of the breasts in pink top
thank you please
Casanova
I agree with all the points that have been made and someone may have added the points that I am going to make, but there was too much to read back on and I lost the will to live lol.
I have noticed that some 'single' guys only put up pictures of women? Why? It's almost like they are attempting to catch the attention of a women through female bate. This may get initial interest with bi women (no interest at all for straight women) but if you are looking to meet 1 on 1, how is that going to promote meeting you?
Then there are the thousands of single guys who email single women asking to meet and don't offer any picture at all. I don't care how handsome you think you are, how important your job is etc, if I can't see what you look like or at least have a body shot I'm not going to meet you. Trust is very important and the fact you don't trust me with your picture, indicates that I can't trust you.
It is understandable that not everyone is able or happy to put face pics on here, but there is no reason why you can't add one to your private gallery and show those pics to the people you are geniunely interested in meeting. No one else can see those pics.
Also, read profiles before replying to them or sending a cutnpaste. I have had zillions of people tell me that they have a gorgeous female buddy who is very bi curious and they would love to meet me etc. I'M STRAIGHT!!! Stop looking at the pretty pics and read! I find intelligence attractive.
Vx
I have noticed that some 'single' guys only put up pictures of women? Why? It's almost like they are attempting to catch the attention of a women through female bate. This may get initial interest with bi women (no interest at all for straight women) but if you are looking to meet 1 on 1, how is that going to promote meeting you?
Then there are the thousands of single guys who email single women asking to meet and don't offer any picture at all. I don't care how handsome you think you are, how important your job is etc, if I can't see what you look like or at least have a body shot I'm not going to meet you. Trust is very important and the fact you don't trust me with your picture, indicates that I can't trust you.
It is understandable that not everyone is able or happy to put face pics on here, but there is no reason why you can't add one to your private gallery and show those pics to the people you are geniunely interested in meeting. No one else can see those pics.
Also, read profiles before replying to them or sending a cutnpaste. I have had zillions of people tell me that they have a gorgeous female buddy who is very bi curious and they would love to meet me etc. I'M STRAIGHT!!! Stop looking at the pretty pics and read! I find intelligence attractive.
Vx
Sex God
Quote by Jiggle
searching through some of my old posts and spotted this, so though i would life it out of the archives
Crikey what you been doing in the celar again
but good idea, about time this had an airing agian 
Sex God
This is a good thread - well done Jiggle for finding it!
Master of Sex
Ignore Marcuso's advice. Roger743's "Idiot's Guide to Swinging for Single Males" tells you all you need to know!!!
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/10408.html
............ and don't forget to read his Appendix which gives tips on using the chatrooms:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopicpage/10408/20.html
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/10408.html
............ and don't forget to read his Appendix which gives tips on using the chatrooms:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopicpage/10408/20.html
Just read though some of this...interesting stuff!
One little bit of advice from me would be, set your privacy settings on your profile page!
When I open messages, then profile the sender, I can often see a large trail of quickie messages to loads and loads of people, that makes you realise that some folks blast out messages left right and center, it sort of does not look good!
One little bit of advice from me would be, set your privacy settings on your profile page!
When I open messages, then profile the sender, I can often see a large trail of quickie messages to loads and loads of people, that makes you realise that some folks blast out messages left right and center, it sort of does not look good!
Quote by NLondonJohn
Ignore Marcuso's advice. Roger743's "Idiot's Guide to Swinging for Single Males" tells you all you need to know!!!
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/10408.html
............ and don't forget to read his Appendix which gives tips on using the chatrooms:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopicpage/10408/20.html
John, brilliant, well linked, so funny!!!
Orgasminator
I'm confused. I'm actually in in two minds about this.
Whilst I fully agree with everything that was posted (original post) and fully share the sentiment and support the motivation and reason of the poster (Thank you for this!) I however disagree that it should be addressing ONLY single males.
Lets face it: numpties and twats come in all shapes and sizes - its not an exclusive club of single males!
One couple I chatted to late last year at a club were talking about how they hate single guys being pushy, disrespectful and assuming hence why they prefer to only meet couples and go to Chams on couples night.
However I know another couple that had met them, the two ladies had conversed and exchanged numbers, only for the male half of first couple to get the number of the female of the second couple (though they had agreed all comms go through the girls) and start pestering her hoping for a meet while his wife doesn't know.
My point? by all means, post it - but PLEASE do not post it as a "Advice to single males" sticky, else it'll give a large number of couples and single girls reason to say "OMG - look at the atrocities those sad bastards get up to!" whilst some failing to look at themselves in the mirror.
One site did it, and till today, couples on that site STILL break pretty much every rule. When asked about it, their reasons smack of "Because we can."
Whilst I fully agree with everything that was posted (original post) and fully share the sentiment and support the motivation and reason of the poster (Thank you for this!) I however disagree that it should be addressing ONLY single males.
Lets face it: numpties and twats come in all shapes and sizes - its not an exclusive club of single males!
One couple I chatted to late last year at a club were talking about how they hate single guys being pushy, disrespectful and assuming hence why they prefer to only meet couples and go to Chams on couples night.
However I know another couple that had met them, the two ladies had conversed and exchanged numbers, only for the male half of first couple to get the number of the female of the second couple (though they had agreed all comms go through the girls) and start pestering her hoping for a meet while his wife doesn't know.
My point? by all means, post it - but PLEASE do not post it as a "Advice to single males" sticky, else it'll give a large number of couples and single girls reason to say "OMG - look at the atrocities those sad bastards get up to!" whilst some failing to look at themselves in the mirror.
One site did it, and till today, couples on that site STILL break pretty much every rule. When asked about it, their reasons smack of "Because we can."
Orgasminator
To clarify, no one ever said "Because we can" (but they might as well have) but a few had actually said to me "Listen, swigning is about couples not singles, the rules are made FOR us BY us - if you don't like it, you can go elsewhere that the rules accomodate you better".
My response to one: "If its so much about couples, am curious how 'accomodating' it is to single girls".
My response to one: "If its so much about couples, am curious how 'accomodating' it is to single girls".
I too agree with all the sentiments of the original post but I also share Ahabs views on couples and not just for the guys but also some of the women..... we play as a couple unless its girl girl only..... to have women aggressively going after my other half in one instance asking to "borrow him" is not what I would call polite...... and when u spell out what ur do's and don'ts are and couples think they can change ur mind last minute......
There should I feel be alot more respect towards each other by some people within the scene..... and no it should'nt just be directed to single guys but to everyone...........
There should I feel be alot more respect towards each other by some people within the scene..... and no it should'nt just be directed to single guys but to everyone...........
Quote by Ahabs
I'm confused. I'm actually in in two minds about this.
Whilst I fully agree with everything that was posted (original post) and fully share the sentiment and support the motivation and reason of the poster (Thank you for this!) I however disagree that it should be addressing ONLY single males.
Lets face it: numpties and twats come in all shapes and sizes - its not an exclusive club of single males!
One couple I chatted to late last year at a club were talking about how they hate single guys being pushy, disrespectful and assuming hence why they prefer to only meet couples and go to Chams on couples night.
However I know another couple that had met them, the two ladies had conversed and exchanged numbers, only for the male half of first couple to get the number of the female of the second couple (though they had agreed all comms go through the girls) and start pestering her hoping for a meet while his wife doesn't know.
My point? by all means, post it - but PLEASE do not post it as a "Advice to single males" sticky, else it'll give a large number of couples and single girls reason to say "OMG - look at the atrocities those sad bastards get up to!" whilst some failing to look at themselves in the mirror.
One site did it, and till today, couples on that site STILL break pretty much every rule. When asked about it, their reasons smack of "Because we can."
Orgasminator
Quote by Hunnibabe
I too agree with all the sentiments of the original post but I also share Ahabs views on couples and not just for the guys but also some of the women..... we play as a couple unless its girl girl only..... to have women aggressively going after my other half in one instance asking to "borrow him" is not what I would call polite...... and when u spell out what ur do's and don'ts are and couples think they can change ur mind last minute......
There should I feel be alot more respect towards each other by some people within the scene..... and no it should'nt just be directed to single guys but to everyone...........
AS I saw one lady say to one single guy who she'd taking a liking to and been chatting to for a fair part of the evening in a club: "You wanna fuck or what?"
Takes a brave man (with a pair of brass ones) to try that on a couple or single female!
Sex God
bumping up
Sex God
Just found this post and have sat down and read it. I have also read the two links. The articules are well written and very informative and have improved my morale here too. I have just spent 10 mins reading it all and am so glad I did too. Many thanks to all three authors.