I'm a newbie to all this and really don't have a scoobie. Sent a few polite first inquiries and not getting any response. I'm not making a secret of the fact I'm married, would that be an issue? I'd be interested to know if I need to approach things differently somehow?
Looks like I'm doing as well here on a forum as sending messages, am I missing something?
Well first thing you might be rushing it a bit expecting answers in the forum in a matter of hours- more often than not people reply in a matter of a day or so, not so much hourly!
Secondly- you are a single guy on the site and there are quite a lot of us about, we're far from an endangered species that couples and women are having to try hard to find.
As one of many, that might change your viewpoint; the people you've approached might have had 20-30 responses just that day- what made yours stand out? A couple of other things- being unwilling to share pictures of your face will cause some people to be put off, conversely not wishing to share pictures of your tackle is a positive, if people want them, they'll ask!
It can be helpful to get verified, many couples won't even contemplate meeting people who aren't. As for your question about being married- well that will depend on other peoples view- to some it will matter, to others it wont- you'll only know by engaging with them and asking.
As I say when asked about this site, the more effort you put in, the more likely you are to have a positive experience. Finally it can be worth going along to socials or clubs to meet people in person and establish a reputation as one of the people who will actually turn up- if you ask a lot of couples looking for guys they'll tell you their biggest annoyance is "timewasters" i.e. people who don't do what they say they intend to do.
Hope this helps.
Thank you for your feedback, I guess your first observation is a measure of my own lack of experience of how things work here. It was apparent from the off that there are shedloads of solo guys here, how to stand out from the crowd, other than being straight up and honest? I suppose my level of experience here is also a measure of how confusing deng I am to do that?
Discretion dictates the lack of an identifiable profile pic, I thought I'd posted a reasonable snap in the private bit but the tech defeated me on that, took forever to get a profile one on..
