I often trawl the forums and I see lots of different peeps, those with kids those without and those with grown up ones,] Im curious to know how do peeps fit in this lifestyle when they have kids at home, because I personally find it exceedingly difficult (single parent), I cant meet at home, and to meet elsewhere takes an awful lot of planning Guess what im saying is it really worth it (stupid question really cos it has been in the past) but i guess im erring on taking a break, and going back to celibacy, which aint really me, but its just so difficult with the organisation, would like to know others experiences of the lifestyle and how you make it work for you xxxxxx PS i dont wanna take a break really coz i love having fun
We seem to still get the ever present advances from guys that don't meet our profile, are too far away, only want a social or that we simply don't hit it off with (sometimes more than one). Our kids are 14 and 12. It's very difficult at times to fit everything in, especially with kids at such an inquisitive age. Not to mention an age when they don't want to go to bed. That's why we are so more direct these days than when we first joined the site. Quite frankly there are plenty of ways to be a timewaster, and the paragraph above describes a few of them. We have had plenty of no-shows, just like so many other people on here. It's galling to think of the effort we have gone to in getting the kids out the house, or worn out when they were younger; the money spent on getting in a few drinkies, some new underwear or whatever else was required; and the multitude of other things that have to be thought of at times to arrange a great meet only to be let down by yet another guy. The long distance guy who says 'I'll be there in two hours' and after four we go to bed. The guy that swears blind he is on the way, but unfortunately there are leaves on the line and his train can't get here. The lost guy. The guy that never intended to meet, just fancied it. The guy that has bottled it at the end of the road. The guy who's aunties step cousins dog has just bitten the cat that scratched a squirrel that ran in the road and caused a car crash meaning he cant get his car off the drive! Many new people to this site just assume that everyone falls into bed with everyone and that by signing up they will be guaranteed sex until they beg for a night off. The reality however is somewhat different. They fail to realise that we are all people with our own lives to lead and sometimes we get on, sometimes we don't. Sometimes meeting for sex or coffee is practical, but at other times it's laughable to contemplate. However, when we find someone that we can see eye to eye with long enough to get groin to groin; when they meet our profile; and when they don't have ridiculous 400 mile train journeys, then it is most definitely still worth the effort of arranging a trip to nannies for the kids at the weekend or for them both to sleepover at a friends on the same night. It's worth putting the effort in and getting the reward. In short, remember who you are here, why you are here and most importantly... Your password so you can still come back one day ;)
Understand where you're coming from Kat. Ours are 18 & 12 , no longer an age where they can ( or want to ) go to grandma's for the night cos all their mates are here and grandparents have no internet conection for their xbox live lol. The eldest can say he's out for the night one minute then return 2 hours later with 3 girls and 2 other lads who are now stopping at ours for a hot tub party. The youngest has a mate stop over after football most weekends. Weekdays can be difficult as they have various sport training sessions Monday to Friday . On the odd occasion we have a free house for a night it's ......RIGHT lets get someone round lol . Usually now we have to arrange a stop over at the other persons place or hotel meet. This does take some logistical planning and cost but certainly can make the meeting more worthwhile as it is something we're both really looking forward to keep the faith
My children are young adults and live with me and their stepdad but having the time and place for fun isnt a problem as we meet at Chams and never ever would even think about accomadating
when my kids were younger they stayed at relatives or had sleepovers at friends and those were the times to play, short notice meets. being divorced there was always the ex they stayed with on a more regular basis. but now they are more grown up the older ones babysit the younger ones, more time to plan and get excited over the planning of things. dont give up even if its just staying on the site and chatting to friends and possible future meets
we same kat, 16yo at home, she has mates over two three nights a week, we plan stuff coz she says she is going to do such and such so we start to make plans or think about making plans, then hey presto she announces she changed plans. as anything she does usually involves us being her personal taxi service it always impacts us. our son has long since left home but we have his kids at a weekend now and then. weekday meets out of question, as are week nights, weekends are restricted to sat nights. at the mo all our plans are on hold till new year due to xmas and other issues. long and short, your not alone kat we all struggling. must be very hard for you being a single parent and even getting time to yourself must be hard let alone time enough to play. don't give up just yet the site would be very quiet without you.
It's very difficult getting out as our youngest is now at the age where she's not keen on going to grandparents because they don't have internet access. We have to plan well in advance and try arrange meets around our birthdays etc so we can get away to a hotel for the night without all the questions of why you going away for the night. Socials are a good night away because we get plenty of notice and time to arrange things.
Not had a meet yet, but planning to have one during school hours and see how it goes (if the guy doesn't bottle it which I have an inkling he will.) I would only arrange a babysitter or sleepover if I knew a guy well and thought him reliable and worth the expense ;) Other than that, have you thought of going to places like Rio's (if you live near London) or swinging clubs? At least you'll know the people there are up for it...
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