Can somebody explain to me why some people seem to collect friends? I came across one with 2,200 friends and they've only been on the site a few months. How can they possibly keep in touch with all of them let alone meet.
Am I missing something ?
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Sex God
On certain other sites if you 'friend' someone you get to see their private pics. I tend to think that's why I probably get *shedloads* of unsolicited friend requests, because it is clear I have private pics.
But then there are those who think, as on Facebook, that friends = popularity.
I am generally only friends on here with folk I have either met (sexually or socially) or who I chat regularly with. I use the 'Favourites' function as a way of tracking hot boys who catch my eye though... slightly more discreet I feel! :rascal:
But then there are those who think, as on Facebook, that friends = popularity.
I am generally only friends on here with folk I have either met (sexually or socially) or who I chat regularly with. I use the 'Favourites' function as a way of tracking hot boys who catch my eye though... slightly more discreet I feel! :rascal:
Sex God
Personally I don't like the friends collectors, to me it looks naff.
I often get request from people who I have had no contact with, live miles away, or I have no interest in, they just get deleted.
I often get request from people who I have had no contact with, live miles away, or I have no interest in, they just get deleted.
Orgasminator
Quote by Sarah
Personally I don't like the friends collectors, to me it looks naff.
I often get request from people who I have had no contact with, live miles away, or I have no interest in, they just get deleted.
This ^^^^^ :thumbup:
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Casanova
I am a hoarder... I have tried hard to clear up my friends' list but it is still around 130. What is even scarier is... my "favourites" are nearing 80! 
Everytime I go into chatrooms I will come out with two or three new "friends" - people I've had a satisfying chat with, whether it was funny or interesting or exciting or horny or even very deep sometimes. Of course I won't meet all these people - some of them I don't even speak to again. But it is a little like leaving a trail or the door open, for more.
Even more wierdly... I keep specific people on my friends list that are "friends collectors" or have an active commenting habit, even though I do not know them/have never spoken to them. I do this because I like watching the activity, I am nosey and it is just another way of browsing profiles. I wish there was a friends collector type covering the southeast
Everytime I go into chatrooms I will come out with two or three new "friends" - people I've had a satisfying chat with, whether it was funny or interesting or exciting or horny or even very deep sometimes. Of course I won't meet all these people - some of them I don't even speak to again. But it is a little like leaving a trail or the door open, for more.Even more wierdly... I keep specific people on my friends list that are "friends collectors" or have an active commenting habit, even though I do not know them/have never spoken to them. I do this because I like watching the activity, I am nosey and it is just another way of browsing profiles. I wish there was a friends collector type covering the southeast
Sex God
Quote by Talltreescouple
Can somebody explain to me why some people seem to collect friends? I came across one with 2,200 friends and they've only been on the site a few months. How can they possibly keep in touch with all of them let alone meet.
Am I missing something ?
No, they are.
The definition of 'friend' for a start. If you get a request from such a person, to be their friend, you become just one of thousands. Not very exclusive and not at all complimentary. I would rather be the friend of 3 other people, who each have a handful of other friends. I would choose them, and they have chosen me. Friendship really shouldn't be a numbers game once we leave the play-ground. :needathumbdownicon:
Sad as it may appear to some, since I joined the site (nearly two years ago), I have only ever had one friend on here whom I’ve remained in touch with both on and of the site throughout my membership. He’s a good guy, has the patience of a saint and I care for him. That’s enough for me.
Sex God
Quote by coco01
Sad as it may appear to some, since I joined the site (nearly two years ago), I have only ever had one friend on here whom I’ve remained in touch with both on and of the site throughout my membership. He’s a good guy, has the patience of a saint and I care for him. That’s enough for me.
That chimes with my idea of a friend. Others, friendly and enjoyable to chat/be with as they are, are probably nearer to being aquaintances - somewhere between the two. I can't think of a word that covers that half-way relationship. (Damn - labels are appearing again!) LOL
Quote by noladreams
I am generally only friends on here with folk I have either met (sexually or socially) or who I chat regularly with. I use the 'Favourites' function as a way of tracking hot boys who catch my eye though... slightly more discreet I feel! :rascal:
pretty much how we feel about the friends thing - but we tend not to use the favourites function so our friends list also includes one or two people who we are interested in meeting rather than just those we have already met - by definition we would have already chatted to these people quite a bit in one form or another, and they have managed inexplicably to remain interested in us too.
Sex God
I think many people use the site in many different ways, and for different reasons.. If some like to collect friends or aquaintances I think that is perfectly fine.
Casanova
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I only get friends requests when I answer a post like this one, or declare in chat, that no one ever asks to be my friend :sad:
Just sent you a friends' request :haha:
Sexpert
Oh...sorry...erm...I thought this was a place for friends collectors...
I wanted to do swapsies and get some better ones
I wanted to do swapsies and get some better ones
