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I didn't used to have ''no one liners, no profile text'' etc in my own profile, but then you get allsorts that are unsuitable and i've found that even if you put that - some don't bother to read the profile, or your desires, and therefore are not suitable (to me ) anyway.
Just reduces some of the dross for me - hence why it's there. If someone bothers to read my profile, and respond accordingly then I have the good manners to reply back. I'm sure most of the genuine folk do.
Just reduces some of the dross for me - hence why it's there. If someone bothers to read my profile, and respond accordingly then I have the good manners to reply back. I'm sure most of the genuine folk do.
Quote by twin_peaks
I didn't used to have ''no one liners, no profile text'' etc in my own profile, but then you get allsorts that are unsuitable and i've found that even if you put that - some don't bother to read the profile, or your desires, and therefore are not suitable (to me ) anyway.
Just reduces some of the dross for me - hence why it's there. If someone bothers to read my profile, and respond accordingly then I have the good manners to reply back. I'm sure most of the genuine folk do.
The woman on here are very picky and can be because of their numbers V men. Let's be honest, would us blokes be any different if the numbers were stacked the other way? If you got hundreds of replies from knobheads mixed in with a few genuine replies I bet you'd end up finding ways of filtering out the crap as well? In saying that though, I do wish more were like Twin Peaks and actually bothered to make a reply once in a while as there are loads of women on here who do not bother to say thanks but no thanks.
Quote by fabioplum
I do wish more were like Twin Peaks and actually bothered to make a reply once in a while as there are loads of women on here who do not bother to say thanks but no thanks.
i try to say thanks but no thanks to anyone that replies to me accordingly ie they have read my profile and think they are what im looking for. obviously what they think they are and what i think they are are two different things and i still might not be interested.
however, if someone replies and are clearly not what im looking for, why should i bother? they didnt bother to read my profile.
for exapmle, its clear on my profile that im not looking at the moment but im still getting replies from both males and couples........they have obviously not taken the time to read my words so why should i read theirs?
also, a thanks but no thanks can actually provoke abuse from some individuals or be seen as in invite to talk further, some people react badly to being told no. id rather save myself the trouble, to be honest
Quote by pol2
Are there any women out there interested in long term relationships, well there must be some that are interested in more than just a quick shag, what about some friendship as well as the fun. and some of the adds are just dam right pretentious. no one liners, no reply, no pic, delete without reading. well i know that you can write a book and still not get a reply. My recent survey shows that normal contact methods eg, a night out has more success than any dating/swinging site. Yep plenty of women, downside they dont swing and if your into having your girlfriend bulled then best to look here. but look is all i do.
When I first joined the site as a single female both my ad and profile were very friendly and not specific at all. It's only with time and an unending flow of mail from men who obviously can't or wont read that I've had to adapt my ad to be a little more, let's say, officious. I wouldn't say I'm any more picky on here than I am out in the real world, I just get more offers here. Yes there are those of us who don't want a one off and are after more than just a quick shag, you'd be surprise how hard that is to find.
H.x
Quote by pol2
Are there any women out there interested in long term relationships well there must be some that are interested in more than just a quick shag, what about some friendship as well as the fun. and some of the adds are just dam right pretentious. no one liners, no reply, no pic, delete without reading. well i know that you can write a book and still not get a reply. My recent survey shows that normal contact methods eg, a night out has more success than any dating/swinging site. Yep plenty of women, downside they dont swing and if your into having your girlfriend bulled then best to look here. but look is all i do.
I was going to write something probing and insightful... but I just can't be arsed.
So instead I shall just ask this...
If that is how you really feel, why don't you just fuck-off down the pub to use your 'normal contact methods' and stop bitchin'?
Sex God
Agreed, PoloLady 
As someone who used to frequent a place called Joanna's in Portsmouth - I've been in that nightclub!!
Quote by DeviousLiasons
As with all things in life, we find that attitude is key to success..................
And also, imagine if you will... lots of the single ladies who place adverts on here are new to ther scene. They are single, which means they have no hlep and support at home to cope with what must be a hell of a shock when they get their first chance to look back.... we have spoken to ( and met...) single ladies who told us they can get upwards of 300 or more replies IN ONE DAY!!! Now for someone new to the scene, this would be extremely daunting in the least, for you can imagine that along with your nicely written reply, there are about ten times as many "Giz a shag then" mails, and quite possible an equell number of downright offensive ones.
Imagine if you will being in a nightclub, and every 2 minutes getting accosted by ladies, 95% plus of whom are not what you are interested in at all... and over half of them are vulgar, offensive, pushy and/or scary. And you got no mates with you, and you are nervous cos it's your first time, etc etc etc....
Sex God
Quote by pol2
Thank you all of you that replied with positive constructive answer to my question, there would appear that 1 lady, and 1 freckle did not understand the question or read the comment fully, hence the anglo saxon expletives, some of us blokes are fussy two, but to clear things up. Best place to meet a swinger, swing site such as this not the pub.
And you, it would seem, have entirely missed the point of this site. You're looking for more than a shag - try a dating site.
Oh, and the site works bloody well for me, thanks very much - I don't need to go trawling pubs and clubs.
Quote by Freckledbird
Thank you all of you that replied with positive constructive answer to my question, there would appear that 1 lady, and 1 freckle did not understand the question or read the comment fully, hence the anglo saxon expletives, some of us blokes are fussy two, but to clear things up. Best place to meet a swinger, swing site such as this not the pub.
And you, it would seem, have entirely missed the point of this site. You're looking for more than a shag - try a dating site.
Oh, and the site works bloody well for me, thanks very much - I don't need to go trawling pubs and clubs.
Go Freckle go Freckle go Freckle!!
Quote by pol2
Thank you all of you that replied with positive constructive answer to my question, there would appear that 1 lady, and 1 freckle did not understand the question or read the comment fully, hence the anglo saxon expletives, some of us blokes are fussy two, but to clear things up. Best place to meet a swinger, swing site such as this not the pub.
Could you clarify what question exactly I have not answered as the opening question appeared to be rhetorical as you seem to continue on from it yourself?
The rest appears to be a number of observations and criticism.
Though assuming then that it is not meant as to be rhetorical….
Quote by pol2
Are there any women out there interested in long term relationships,
I would like to think not as this is not a dating site and certainly not the best place to look for someone who is also looking for a relationship (they are likely to get fucked in more than one sense of the word).
Quote by pol2
… well there must be some that are interested in more than just a quick shag, what about some friendship as well as the fun.
Yep – that is what is generally accepted as swinging to a pretty large number of people here.
Quote by pol2
and some of the adds are just dam right pretentious. no one liners, no reply, no pic, delete without reading.
Pretentious or just clear about what they don’t want arriving in their PM box in vast numbers?
Quote by pol2
… well i know that you can write a book and still not get a reply.
Was that statement just a little pretentious?
Quote by pol2
My recent survey shows that normal contact methods eg, a night out has more success than any dating/swinging site. Yep plenty of women, downside they dont swing …
If you are actually looking for swingers, how can the pub be more successful than any swinging site if the women there, as you say, don’t swing?
If you are not looking for swingers – then I still think my original advice stands.
Quote by pol2
…but look is all i do.
If all you do is look, then I would undoubtedly expect ‘normal contact methods’ to be more successful.
I hope this clarifies matters and is more inline with the reply content you were expecting.
PS – if you original aim was to express that swinging sites are the best place to meet swingers… why is your post titled “disallusioned {90000 to 1)†… (which I assume to mean you are disillusioned)
Quote by PoloLady
Thank you all of you that replied with positive constructive answer to my question, there would appear that 1 lady, and 1 freckle did not understand the question or read the comment fully, hence the anglo saxon expletives, some of us blokes are fussy two, but to clear things up. Best place to meet a swinger, swing site such as this not the pub.
Could you clarify what question exactly I have not answered as the opening question appeared to be rhetorical as you seem to continue on from it yourself?
The rest appears to be a number of observations and criticism.
Though assuming then that it is not meant as to be rhetorical….
Quote by pol2
Are there any women out there interested in long term relationships,
I would like to think not as this is not a dating site and certainly not the best place to look for someone who is also looking for a relationship (they are likely to get fucked in more than one sense of the word).
Quote by pol2
… well there must be some that are interested in more than just a quick shag, what about some friendship as well as the fun.
Yep – that is what is generally accepted as swinging to a pretty large number of people here.
Quote by pol2
and some of the adds are just dam right pretentious. no one liners, no reply, no pic, delete without reading.
Pretentious or just clear about what they don’t want arriving in their PM box in vast numbers?
Quote by pol2
… well i know that you can write a book and still not get a reply.
Was that statement just a little pretentious?
Quote by pol2
My recent survey shows that normal contact methods eg, a night out has more success than any dating/swinging site. Yep plenty of women, downside they dont swing …
If you are actually looking for swingers, how can the pub be more successful than any swinging site if the women there, as you say, don’t swing?
If you are not looking for swingers – then I still think my original advice stands.
Quote by pol2
…but look is all i do.
If all you do is look, then I would undoubtedly expect ‘normal contact methods’ to be more successful.
I hope this clarifies matters and is more inline with the reply content you were expecting.
PS – if you original aim was to express that swinging sites are the best place to meet swingers… why is your post titled “disallusioned {90000 to 1)†… (which I assume to mean you are disillusioned)
Go Polo go Polo go Polo!!
Quote by pol2
Are there any women out there interested in long term relationships, well there must be some that are interested in more than just a quick shag, what about some friendship as well as the fun. and some of the adds are just dam right pretentious. no one liners, no reply, no pic, delete without reading. well i know that you can write a book and still not get a reply. My recent survey shows that normal contact methods eg, a night out has more success than any dating/swinging site. Yep plenty of women, downside they dont swing and if your into having your girlfriend bulled then best to look here. but look is all i do.
im slightly confused about what you're actually saying too......... but i think i do understand .
why dont you strike a happy medium, and find a lady using the other methods and get her into swinging.......... there must be some about who might like the idea.
careful how you broach it though...........
Sex God
Quote by pol2
Are there any women out there interested in long term relationships, well there must be some that are interested in more than just a quick shag, what about some friendship as well as the fun. ............... Yep plenty of women, downside they dont swing and if your into having your girlfriend bulled then best to look here. but look is all i do.
Deleting the "bitching" part of his post, I don't see the problem with it myself. He wants a relationship, but also wants to swing. I don't see why it's always jumped on as being such a bad thing
As he says, plenty of women in the local pub, but they don't swing. Is it really such a problem that someone wants the best of both worlds?
Quote by DeeCee
why dont you strike a happy medium, and find a lady using the other methods and get her into swinging.......... there must be some about who might like the idea.
careful how you broach it though...........
That's the problem though. How do you broach it, and how would you deal with the fall out if you asked a and they hated the idea, unceremoniously dumped you and then broadcasted to the world what you'd suggested to them :shock:
ops: Far better IMHO to try and meet someone who's already open to the idea of swinging
Hope you do find what you're looking for pol2 :thumbup:
Sex God
Quote by H-x
Are there any women out there interested in long term relationships, well there must be some that are interested in more than just a quick shag, what about some friendship as well as the fun. and some of the adds are just dam right pretentious. no one liners, no reply, no pic, delete without reading. well i know that you can write a book and still not get a reply. My recent survey shows that normal contact methods eg, a night out has more success than any dating/swinging site. Yep plenty of women, downside they dont swing and if your into having your girlfriend bulled then best to look here. but look is all i do.
When I first joined the site as a single female both my ad and profile were very friendly and not specific at all. It's only with time and an unending flow of mail from men who obviously can't or wont read that I've had to adapt my ad to be a little more, let's say, officious. I wouldn't say I'm any more picky on here than I am out in the real world, I just get more offers here. Yes there are those of us who don't want a one off and are after more than just a quick shag, you'd be surprise how hard that is to find.
H.x
I've read some stuff recently which is relevant to this. Some peeps feel that there's no place in the swinging scene for people looking for a relationship which goes beyond straightforward shagging. I don't agree with them. There are lots of friends to be made and it seems a shame to be blind to that .
:rascal:
