Hi guys,
Thought i'd follow up my last post with a request for some chat time with some of you. I got an offer last night in the chatroom to go to someones house there and then. They wouldn't say how many people or their genders or interests, so (especially as a total swinger virgin) I declined! Kinda too quick for me, don't think they understood that concept though.
So I hope some of you might let me know when and where you'll be chatting, or maybe get in touch over or MSN (IDs at bottom). It'd be great to get to know you all. I guess (doing a lot of that) my main aim is to find a fem or couple in my area who can slowly show me the ropes in a comfy enviroment for us all, but I am also very keen to make friends from all over the uk on here and being able to keep in touch.
Anyway, i'm waffeling now. Speak to some of you soon. I hope.
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Quote by newbie_student2004
Hi guys,
Thought i'd follow up my last post with a request for some chat time with some of you. I got an offer last night in the chatroom to go to someones house there and then. They wouldn't say how many people or their genders or interests, so (especially as a total swinger virgin) I declined! Kinda too quick for me, don't think they understood that concept though.
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It's nice to see a newbie with his head screwed on correctly. I assume that you are also new to the chatroom. SH is a great place to come to, to post, read, chat and eventually meet some people.
Getting an invitation to someone's home at so early a stage in your 'swinging career' is very unusual indeed. You were right to be apprehensive. Getting to know people first, even if it is just through chatting is the way to go. Reading the chat between other people, over time, is one way of finding out if the person(s) who invited you, are genuine people.
From the time of your 'post' it would seem that you were in the chatroom during the early hours of the morning. The chatroom during these hours, is usually unmoderated. The SyOps have to sleep sometime. But, we are aware that there are problems in there at that time of day. There have been several complaints made to 'The Management' about unruly behaviour, and we are taking steps to remedy that.
If you read through The Dogging Section posts, you will see that some doggers have, as the result of the media publicity, had to put up with attacks on their cars, being forced off the road, threatened and even robbed. Doggers are easy targets, especially as many dogging sites tend to be in lonely places.
Experienced swingers, when meeting someone for the first time, usually meet up on neutral ground first, e.g. A pub, cafe etc. This gives both parties the opportunity to weigh each other up, and if either party gets cold feet it's easier to say 'No', than when in their, or your, home.
It may well be that your invitation was quite genuine, but without a lot more information about who you were meeting, what their preferences were, how many you were meeting etc., you were right not to go. It's not beyond the bounds of possibility that you were being, set up.
Please stay with us in any, or all, sections of the site. Attend Munches, if you can and get to know people on a personal level. Likewise, become a regular in the chatroom get yourself known, you will soon learn who the regulars are, and also who the trouble makers are. Exchange Emails with possible contacts, you will eventually get accepted into the swinging scene. Just play it safe until you have more practical experience.
Harry0
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Cab I echo Harry and say Thank Goodness some newbies think things through!
I'll skip the lecture about cyber space and nasty people... we do all we can to look after out members, but we're as vulernable as anyone else. We also haven't had our 'Twatometers' fully beta tested yet so the odd twat does leak through.
I think I'm on pretty firm ground by saying almost all invites you get from people you've never so much as spoken to on the phone are likely to be either wind-ups or prostitutes.
NEVER GO ANYWHERE WITHOUT LEAVING DETAILS OF WHERE YOU'RE GOING WITH A FRIEND! If you feel it's too embarassing to tell a friend, tell a MOD!
Hxx
unfortunatly ive had alot of the same, as a single female i am not just going to say hi to someone and then arrange to meet them the same day.
i dont know if i may be speeking out of turn, but am i correct in thinking single females are a rarity in here, soooo why do the single guys think their gods gift and want info, pics etc but offer nothing in return?? ok not all of them ( chatting to a very nice ynoung guy in e-mails at the moment from here )
anyway , it was lovely to hear your support heather, nice to think if i decide to meet i could give the details just incase thankyou, xx
i dont know if i may be speeking out of turn, but am i correct in thinking single females are a rarity in here, soooo why do the single guys think their gods gift and want info, pics etc but offer nothing in return?? ok not all of them ( chatting to a very nice ynoung guy in e-mails at the moment from here )
anyway , it was lovely to hear your support heather, nice to think if i decide to meet i could give the details just incase thankyou, xx
its just basically common sense really...there are obviosuly a lot of single/married men who think they are goign to get an easy lay here.
take time to get to know people, you should gte to know easily who are the genuine regular posters and spot the fly by night fancy a shag brigade from a mile off!
take time to get to know people, you should gte to know easily who are the genuine regular posters and spot the fly by night fancy a shag brigade from a mile off!
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Quote by fem_4_taboo
unfortunatly ive had alot of the same, as a single female i am not just going to say hi to someone and then arrange to meet them the same day.
i dont know if i may be speeking out of turn, but am i correct in thinking single females are a rarity in here, soooo why do the single guys think their gods gift and want info, pics etc but offer nothing in return?? ok not all of them ( chatting to a very nice ynoung guy in e-mails at the moment from here )
anyway , it was lovely to hear your support heather, nice to think if i decide to meet i could give the details just incase thankyou, xx
Well said fem_4_taboo,
You are right about the small number of females in proportion to men on this site. Just take a look in the 'Adds' section;
Men seeking women 165 pages of them.
Women seeking men just 5 pages.
As more than one 'add' in any section is forbidden now, it does give you an idea of the male-female ratio, roughly 33:1. Admittedly not everyone of either sex puts up adds, but it is fairly representative of the general state of things.
Without wanting to appear 'sexist' ladies to have to be very careful when meeting a stranger for the first time, and they have to take many precautions to ensure their safety.
(not a pun on the use of condoms, honest).
A social meeting on neutral ground, where there are lots of other people is almost mandatory for any lady member meeting up for the first time.
Take care out there fem_4_taboo, there are many nice guys, but there also a lot of frogs.
Harry0
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