Advice For Newcomers

19 Nov 2004

Hi we're a 30-something couple looking to extend our already fantastic life together by living a long-held fantasy of meeting up with another couple.
It's our special pillow-talk, where we see another couple in a bar, get chatting and find mutual pleasure in each other's company, quickly followed by the realisation that we will take this further.
As our Xmas present to each other we would love to make our fantasy reality before we fly out of Heathrow in late December.
We're not looking for a meet - we'd have simply advertised if we were - rather we want to know whether there are any pubs in and around the centre of London where swingers - or novies like us - meet to flirt etc.
If anyone could help, please post a reply or send an e-mail.
Many thanks to all.
J&J

19 Nov 2004

Hi Guys
welcome to SH! Don't know about any pubs where swingers meet up usually that happens at munches (social gathering only) of likeminded at the parties and clubs page that should give you some idea what is in and around London!

20 Nov 2004

and :welcome: to :swingingchair: heaven, best thing to do is stick around here, it may take sometime and it may not but don't give up!!
Get to know the people on the site they are a great bunch and you will have fun, i promise. :twisted:

20 Nov 2004

Hi and welcome to swinging heaven and possible a life changing experiance.
This fantacy/Xmas present as you call it could all end in tears our advice to you would be to make certain that you both want to share partners and be able to operate as a couple afterwards if you think for one moment that you might feel a tuch of the green eyed monster while watching or hear your partner being pleasured by another then this will almost certainly not be for you and potentially cause problems in your relationship. The reason we identiofy this to you is that we have met so many couples who have ended up wanting to try as it sounds so exciting but then splitting beacause it was not what one of them wanted. This would not be the ideal way to start the new year.
I would suggest possible chatting with a few couples and gaining more of an idea on what is involved relating to the relationship. For us it makes ours stronger and we trust each otehr so much more than before we started which is now over 8 years ago.
Hope its a good experiance and that yopu decide to continue it after you have tried.
Ade and Mandy