*chuckles* don't tempt me...
Anyway.. much as it pains me to do so.. since the only reason that I asked to have my name put down was due to friends from chat asking me if I wanted to go..
take my name off the reserve list please
thankyou
I am just saving people the hassle, call me a nightmare, say that I try to muscle in.. call me whatever you will.. I am beyond caring now..
I am just going to say one last thing here..
I wasn't asking to for an invite to this munch for any other reason than that some of my friends from the chatroom had asked me if I would like to go..
but, since I seem to cause so much offence, in whichever way you want to take what I say, I will simply say this...
The welcome I had when I first joined the chatroom was one thing.. the way people are on this forum is something entirely different, and to be honest, I dont think that I would want to meet people like you...
And I know that I will probably get banned for this, but really, right now, I care not..
I was here for my friends, everyone else, is incidental.
I think I'll put in my two penneth worth here.....
I don't think its a question of the fact that Newbies haven't met anyone, it's how much they have posted and gotten themselves known either on here or the Chatroom.....if they are not known then why would they want to come to a Munch, there would be no point because they wouldn't know anybody.
BTW Marcuso and Midlandsman....put me down as a Definite for this event now as (thanks to a great friend) I have transport to and from the venue......
Hi guys, I am quite new to this site, not to the life style though. I have been on the scene for about 5 years and on AFF, DD etc, plus since I was 18 and lived in Blackpool at college I have a friend who has been into the scene for many a year, so I do have a wee bit of experience.
The one slip of advice I would give to anybody who is either new to the scene or to this site is dont be too keen. I know that sounds a bit odd, but after reading through the posts, I am in Burton 3-7 nights a week, I would love to go to this Munch, but.....and here is the but, I know of, but dont know personaly, 1 person who will be there. I have PM,ed them just to say Hi and let them know I cant be verified by anybody else, but wouldnt expect them to verify me as they dont know me personally, but I was happy to introduce myself in the hope that I might be able to go to the next one and they might be able to vouch for me next time.
To all newbies out there, please dont make the mistake I made in my early days which was to think this Munch is the be all and end all, just because it is in your area.
I have found over the years that the friends you make in this kind of lifestyle might seem a little odd to most vanilla people, but you can see them years down the line and still sit and chat like you saw each other yesterday.
I hope that some of you guys who have been on this site for some time might be able to back me up on this.......this is what I have found anyway.
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Midlandsman....i don't think its about imtimidating newbies,its just that when the Notts munch was taken over by Sarah certain newbies were trying to pull the wool over her eyes about why they were not on the list Ceryndrion was one of a Moderater has pointed that out on this he was told by Sarah in a nice way of course that he couldn't go because of the cut off date he then threw his toys out of his in anyway was anyone nasty to him....but if you check his sig you will see he has blasted people in the forums has tossers now!
Update...Ceryndrion has since removed the bit about the tossers!
Yes, I am devious and underhanded and scheming and plotting and everything else..
and I didn't throw my toys out of the pram or anything like that.. and nor did I attempt to pull the wool over anybodies eyes..
though it does appear that some people have an inability to understand any form of humour..
and I tell you.. if I were a true newbie.. I would be seriously put off by the amount of hostility that some people show towards anyone who makes even the slightest error in the way they word things..
now as Midlandsman has said, let this thread get back onto it's original course, and leave decisions to those who are supposed to be making them..
OK....
Have been away for the whole weekend.... I am just about to go to bed, but this has really irked me a bit. I've read a few of the replies at the begining, and the end, so sorry if I am repeating what peole have said.
IMO, ceryndrion is an extremely nice guy, completely polite in the chatroom. I know he has been in the chat room for a while now, as I have sat through the night talking to him, when the room is empty.
I was one of those who said to him that he should ask to go on the list for Nottm. He is an SH member but not active in the forum until recently. I will be travelling south during the next week and have planned to stop off and say hi to ceryndrion. Which is very unusual for me.
There may have been a mix up, or a whatever. But if anyone is to blame for that, it's me. I asked him to submit his name to the organiser of the Nottm munch when i saw a post saying sarah was asking for more people to attend, cut off date 30/04, and ceryndrion fulfilled that criteria, as far as I am aware. It's sarah's right to knock it back, no problem with that. But ceryndrion seems to have stated his case fairly enough, and been decent enough not to even name names when saying "people in the chat-room" have said ask to go.... I feel embarressed I haven't seent these posts until this late in the day... as i would have said these things earlier.
How does someone break that catch22? It's a purely social event. And yes there are rules. But not every single fella is an idiot, and you DO have to pm the organisers of the munches to ask.( Unless there is a general invite sent out that I am excluded from. ) I have seen it time and time again, people wondering how to get an invite to a munch. When you explain that you have to ask for an invite, it seems obvious. Nobody comes on here with a fully formed knowledge of these things, i certainly didn't.
Anyhows, way past my bedtime. I hope you can re-read what ceryndrion has written, becuase it doesn't strike me as someone being awkward, just a bit confused as to how it works and tyring NOT to annoy people, but having enough self respect and respect for others to bother to post a cogent reply.
I want to thank all for their comments so far on this thread, but for now without hoping offend anyone i request if anyone would like to take this topic forward that they post a new thread in the cafe.
MM
Hope you all have a good time. 
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