Do I have Leprosy?

27 Nov 2011

Well -Obviously not, but I have to admit to feeling distinctly unloved and lonely..... :sad:
I know I am no 'Brad Pitt' and I also know I am not hung like an elephant (but as nobody else wants to play with me, how would that have got out?)
What I am though is a clean, well educated, safe, polite chap who is willing to try anything (at least once)
I consider myself to be of average looks with a good sense of humour. I always ensure my partner's needs and wants are satisfied before my own. I am well travelled and very little would shock or put me off.
It is true I smoke occasionally, however if that is a problem to you, I would shower before meeting and would not smoke while we were together. I have learned to brush my teeth and I always put the toilet lid down afterwards. I have also learned to wipe my feet before entering anywhere. I was raised to say 'Please' and 'Thankyou'. :cool:
Are there any genuine people out there who would like to play?
Otherwise I fear it will shrink and fall off due to lack of use.... redface

I am completely open to suggestions. Try me - I am willing to consider anything.
I can either travel or accommodate.
Hopefully I will hear from some of you at least.....

27 Nov 2011

Whilst respecting the opinion of the poster above, I do totally disagree with thier thinking.
It is much easier for single males to get meets on here than it is couples.
There are very few single males in comparison to the amount of couples seeking them, oh yes the numbers are here, lots of guys, but most of them are simply no-hopers, dreamers with not a single inkling into what the scene is about and will never get a meet.
Some don't have any pictures at all, and if anything one line about "Hey let's meet up"
Wake up guys, what do you think your chances of getting a meet are with that approach.
Swinging is not a "quick fix" to get a shag, it can be, but you have to put the effort into it, You have to think like the people you want to meet and give them the information you would want before you let them near the partner you love, show them that you are respectfull, that you can hold a conversation, wil be clean, smell nice, turn up, know what to do and not be a total timewaster like so many are.
Lot's of couples are looking for a guy to join them but if they wanted someone they know nothing about they would just drive down the road to the nearest bloke and say "hey wanna shag my missus".
What your profile tells us is a lot more than you think, the less it says in text the more it says between the lines, take the OP for instance, yes a picture not a great one but at least a picture, extra brownie points for that, but the text statement, insulting us by calling us all fakes and timewasters is not going to endear you to us, it also shows that you don't really know much about the scene and that can be a nightmare on meeting, you don't have to be experiences but at least do a little research reading forums or profiles to get an inkling of wwhat it is about. Yes it does happen, in private meets, clubs, dogging, parties etc and it is very easy to prove so if you don't think it is real why are you here ?
Profiles with no effort imply that the person will make no effort, probably not turn up or if he/she/they do then they will be looking for a quick shag until they are satisfied then away as fast as they can. What else are we expected to think ?
On the other hand a well written, thought out profile not only gives us the information we need but shows a willingess to make an effort, an interest in what "does it for us" do you really think you get to shag a guys missus without him caring if she enjoys it or not, do you think the couples are doing this because they care for you or because they want some fun for themselves, yes done right we all have fun but we do it for ourselves first.
There are so few guys making this effort that the actual numbers of the competition you have is very low, don't get me wrong, couples can be just as guilty of this but on this thread we are talking about guys,
As a couple it takes us an average of 3-4 months to get a meet. It is never easy to find a couple where Sasha likes both the guy and the girl and as a bifem she needs to do that, but at the same time I have to find the fem sexually attractive and the guy ameniable and someone I am happy to socialise with, then there is the couple that we find, they have to think the same way as us.
When you find that couple they have to arrange time off work together, often babysitters, have you tried to get 4 people with the same free time and babysitters for both sets of kids, and they have to be close enough to meet.
Let's be honest for a single guy he just has to hope the fem finds him sexually attractive and the guy believes he can help him to give his partner a fun time, single guys (for the most part) dont have family ties and only have one work shift to worry about. All this isn't written in stone of course, there are some single parent dads, some guys who live with family and so on but generally speaking the above applies.

27 Nov 2011

I respect the views of the previous poster and offer my thanks for taking the time to reply. wink

28 Nov 2011

Well Jed,
That was one of the most informed and onstructive replies I've ever seen on any swinger website and very useful too.
I haven't changed my profile, but by all means run the rule over it and tell me simply is there too much or too little information or just about right. I'll add a please to that request... smile

Mark

28 Nov 2011

Quote by MidsCouple24
Whilst respecting the opinion of the poster above, I do totally disagree with thier thinking.
It is much easier for single males to get meets on here than it is couples.
There are very few single males in comparison to the amount of couples seeking them, oh yes the numbers are here, lots of guys, but most of them are simply no-hopers, dreamers with not a single inkling into what the scene is about and will never get a meet.
Some don't have any pictures at all, and if anything one line about "Hey let's meet up"
Wake up guys, what do you think your chances of getting a meet are with that approach.
Swinging is not a "quick fix" to get a shag, it can be, but you have to put the effort into it, You have to think like the people you want to meet and give them the information you would want before you let them near the partner you love, show them that you are respectfull, that you can hold a conversation, wil be clean, smell nice, turn up, know what to do and not be a total timewaster like so many are.
Lot's of couples are looking for a guy to join them but if they wanted someone they know nothing about they would just drive down the road to the nearest bloke and say "hey wanna shag my missus".
What your profile tells us is a lot more than you think, the less it says in text the more it says between the lines, take the OP for instance, yes a picture not a great one but at least a picture, extra brownie points for that, but the text statement, insulting us by calling us all fakes and timewasters is not going to endear you to us, it also shows that you don't really know much about the scene and that can be a nightmare on meeting, you don't have to be experiences but at least do a little research reading forums or profiles to get an inkling of wwhat it is about. Yes it does happen, in private meets, clubs, dogging, parties etc and it is very easy to prove so if you don't think it is real why are you here ?
Profiles with no effort imply that the person will make no effort, probably not turn up or if he/she/they do then they will be looking for a quick shag until they are satisfied then away as fast as they can. What else are we expected to think ?
On the other hand a well written, thought out profile not only gives us the information we need but shows a willingess to make an effort, an interest in what "does it for us" do you really think you get to shag a guys missus without him caring if she enjoys it or not, do you think the couples are doing this because they care for you or because they want some fun for themselves, yes done right we all have fun but we do it for ourselves first.
There are so few guys making this effort that the actual numbers of the competition you have is very low, don't get me wrong, couples can be just as guilty of this but on this thread we are talking about guys,
As a couple it takes us an average of 3-4 months to get a meet. It is never easy to find a couple where Sasha likes both the guy and the girl and as a bifem she needs to do that, but at the same time I have to find the fem sexually attractive and the guy ameniable and someone I am happy to socialise with, then there is the couple that we find, they have to think the same way as us.
When you find that couple they have to arrange time off work together, often babysitters, have you tried to get 4 people with the same free time and babysitters for both sets of kids, and they have to be close enough to meet.
Let's be honest for a single guy he just has to hope the fem finds him sexually attractive and the guy believes he can help him to give his partner a fun time, single guys (for the most part) dont have family ties and only have one work shift to worry about. All this isn't written in stone of course, there are some single parent dads, some guys who live with family and so on but generally speaking the above applies.

:thumbup: Excellent post!