Dumb idea or just not possible? NOTTS BASED

30 Jun 2005

Ok so I am a guy looking for a swinging partner or couple for what I think is termed a discrete relationship. Trouble is it is a very competitive market place!!!! Would any swinging couple in notts that are known on the board be prepared to meet me just for a drink and chat so they could actually know what I was like. I always think honesty and sincerity are shown in the eyes which makes it tough on the boards. I am willing to travel in notts for the meet and happy to meet simply to vouch for my personality and attitude. Just feel I need/want the extra dimension of swinging in my life. I like the intimacy that is shown on the board and that is more head based than body action. Maybe if someone else in the area was willing to say "yeah met him, he's a good guy" my genuine level would be better on the board.
If this is just a dumb idea then there's no need to tell me so. I don't think this is how it works but it's how I would want it to work. I think there is more that is positive about me than I can ever reflect in a board message. Also if the feed back is that I am a sad, needy guy to avoid then I'll just wander off and lick my wounds! Would rather know though.
Just in case I've just dropped the lighted match in the deep pool of petrol at my feet I'd say thanks to everyone that has made me feel welcome enough to ask.
Jez
XOXO

30 Jun 2005

As you have only been on SH for a couple of days...... you need to give it more time.... get yourself known in here and the chatroom.... make friends and then maybe attend one of the munches.....
Relax and enjoy.....
There is no rush.......
equi-princess xxx

30 Jun 2005

Thanks Princess....point well made. Just frustrating trying to find threads to reply to that shows the real me.
Still a valid point though, thanks xoxo

30 Jun 2005

No its not a dumb idea at all, actually as single guys new to this site goes i find you very polite, ur add seems very genuine and not just the usual 'meet me for a shag' aproch, if i was sill in mansfield i would meet you for a drink in a pub or something but sorry to say i'm not sad

blimey u must think i'm stalking you by now lol

good luck m8 kiss

30 Jun 2005

Not stalking just chatting. do appreciate the feedback though..thanks. Be great if you did live in masfield but have to admit I know where I can get my sugar LOL Bless you Mum.
Ok so we know what were talking about but not sure I;ve just done my reputation any good....oh bugger!

30 Jun 2005

If it's just for a drink and a chat I'm not sure why it has to be a couple. I have certainly learned a fair bit about the world of swinging in my time from chatting with males as well as females and couples. And it could just as easily be a chat via messenger or on the phone, couldn't it? As others have said, give yourself time to get yourself known in here and I'm sure you will get to chat with folk.
Good luck,
Mike.

1 Jul 2005

:welcome:
Good advice above, just get yourself known.
Hope you find what your after wink

1 Jul 2005

Quote by MikeNorth
And it could just as easily be a chat via messenger or on the phone, couldn't it?

sorry gotta butt in here...well u know me lol
but not really to the above comment, if he wanted 2 go to a munch and needed vouching for no1s going to let him go cause Jo Bloggs has chatted to him on messenger are they?

1 Jul 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
And it could just as easily be a chat via messenger or on the phone, couldn't it?

sorry gotta butt in here...well u know me lol
but not really to the above comment, if he wanted 2 go to a munch and needed vouching for no1s going to let him go cause Jo Bloggs has chatted to him on messenger are they?
I don't really know, as nobody to my knowledge has established the criteria for "vouching" for someone. This needs a separate discussion I think - I'll put something in the cafe.
Mike.