Yes I know its a few weeks away but I thought I'd give lots of notice.
As a new member I thought it would be better to introduce myself to y'all at the same time.
I'm 33, short red hair, slim-ish build, easy-going, and very frisky. =)
My partner is away the weekend of Sat 11th Dec and I thought it would be nice to meet up with someone who could also use some company for some no strings fun.
If the idea appeals to any ladies redaing this please do email me telling me a bit about yourself. Age, size, colour unimportant. Just a desire to please and be pleased. ;)
Laters,
TT.
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I'm not so sure about that. The Ads have a lot of posts for folks looking for discrete meets. Seems a little naiive to think that they're all single.
And i'm not looking for a new partner so the idea of breaking anything up doesn't enter into it. But I do believe in being upfront about these things.
Again, I don't mean to offend anyone here. I thought this would be the last place someone would be judged though.
TT.
And i'm not looking for a new partner so the idea of breaking anything up doesn't enter into it. But I do believe in being upfront about these things.
Again, I don't mean to offend anyone here. I thought this would be the last place someone would be judged though.
TT.
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I'm not so sure about that. The Ads have a lot of posts for folks looking for discrete meets. Seems a little naiive to think that they're all single.
And i'm not looking for a new partner so the idea of breaking anything up doesn't enter into it. But I do believe in being upfront about these things.
Again, I don't mean to offend anyone here. I thought this would be the last place someone would be judged though.
TT.
Well if your partner ever found out i think she may have something to say it!
Quote by tintin
I'm not so sure about that. The Ads have a lot of posts for folks looking for discrete meets. Seems a little naiive to think that they're all single.
and a little presumptuous to assume that they're all looking to cheat on their partners.
And i'm not looking for a new partner so the idea of breaking anything up doesn't enter into it. But I do believe in being upfront about these things.
Except to your partner, of course. The one person with whom you should be up front.
Again, I don't mean to offend anyone here. I thought this would be the last place someone would be judged though.
So, just because we're swingers, means we're not entitled to a moral code? Swinging is not about having illicit nookie with strangers. If you're here because you think we'll help you cheat on your partner, you're in the wrong place.
Sex God
Excellent post, well put, Flapjackboy! Except it's more than a little presumptuous of him!
Mike.
Mike.
OK. Clearly my introduction to this community isnt going as well as it could.
I hear and completely respect your views on adultery. But its a personal choice of mine. I believe in being upfront so that the other party (jn this case, a like-minded lady) can make their own judgement call. If someone thinks it is wrong then they will not respond. Simple as that.
And my comment about being judged wasn't targeted at anyone's morals here. I just expected a little bit more open-mindedness and more of a live and let live attitude. My being caught by my partner is my issue to deal with, no one elses. I dont need to be reminded that cheating is 'morally wrong'. But I have my own reasons.
Lastly, I really think you should take a look at the private ads on here before you start accusing me of being presumptious. Yes, theres a lot of posts from ladies who say 'Hubby knows' or 'Hubby approves'. But theres also just as many that say 'Hubby is away', or 'Bored housewife'. One even there this morning saying 'Hubby bores me stupid'. Am I the only one on here thats plays away? I dont think so.
Above everything else, I'm sorry that i've got off to the wrong foot with y'all. Apart from my tendency to stray from home occasionally I am generally a fairly decent bloke and this appears to be a nicely run, happy community. Lets not fall out over this, please?
TT.
I hear and completely respect your views on adultery. But its a personal choice of mine. I believe in being upfront so that the other party (jn this case, a like-minded lady) can make their own judgement call. If someone thinks it is wrong then they will not respond. Simple as that.
And my comment about being judged wasn't targeted at anyone's morals here. I just expected a little bit more open-mindedness and more of a live and let live attitude. My being caught by my partner is my issue to deal with, no one elses. I dont need to be reminded that cheating is 'morally wrong'. But I have my own reasons.
Lastly, I really think you should take a look at the private ads on here before you start accusing me of being presumptious. Yes, theres a lot of posts from ladies who say 'Hubby knows' or 'Hubby approves'. But theres also just as many that say 'Hubby is away', or 'Bored housewife'. One even there this morning saying 'Hubby bores me stupid'. Am I the only one on here thats plays away? I dont think so.
Above everything else, I'm sorry that i've got off to the wrong foot with y'all. Apart from my tendency to stray from home occasionally I am generally a fairly decent bloke and this appears to be a nicely run, happy community. Lets not fall out over this, please?
TT.
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OK. Clearly my introduction to this community isnt going as well as it could.
What was your first clue?
I hear and completely respect your views on adultery. But its a personal choice of mine. I believe in being upfront so that the other party (jn this case, a like-minded lady) can make their own judgement call. If someone thinks it is wrong then they will not respond. Simple as that.
Yes, but you don't seem to understand the concept of swinging. You seem to be under the impression that because you are on a swinging site that you can somehow justify your actions. This is not the case. Swinging is not adultery. Swinging is mutually consentual sex between adults in open relationships. It would seem that your relationship with your partner is far from open.
And my comment about being judged wasn't targeted at anyone's morals here. I just expected a little bit more open-mindedness and more of a live and let live attitude. My being caught by my partner is my issue to deal with, no one elses. I dont need to be reminded that cheating is 'morally wrong'. But I have my own reasons.
So, because we're swingers, we're supposed to understand why you want to sleep around behind your partner's back? You're right, getting caught by your partner is your issue to deal with, I never said otherwise.
Lastly, I really think you should take a look at the private ads on here before you start accusing me of being presumptious. Yes, theres a lot of posts from ladies who say 'Hubby knows' or 'Hubby approves'. But theres also just as many that say 'Hubby is away', or 'Bored housewife'. One even there this morning saying 'Hubby bores me stupid'. Am I the only one on here thats plays away? I dont think so.
And you will find that those who are obviously intending on cheating will invariably get few replies. Again, I say to you that swinging is about open relationships, not illicit nookie. Perhaps if you spent more time working on fixing your current relationship, instead of looking online for women to play away from home with...
Above everything else, I'm sorry that i've got off to the wrong foot with y'all. Apart from my tendency to stray from home occasionally I am generally a fairly decent bloke and this appears to be a nicely run, happy community. Lets not fall out over this, please?
Too late. Please seek some professional councilling about your need to play away from home. That's a more productive use of your time than looking for women of loose morals on here.
Sex God
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My being caught by my partner is my issue to deal with, no one elses.
Not necessarily true. What if your partner comes back early and catches you and the "lady" at it? I hope you have a big enough wardrobe for her to hide in! Maybe you have access to Narnia..... hey that would be cool actually.... when I can come round?
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just ignore them, you are entitled to advertise and they are entitled to post a notice but you don't have to reply and get wound up.
I hope some nice "married lady" contacts you and you have a good time.
Sorry, but he's not entitled to advertise here if his sole purpose is to cheat on his partner. He is not a swinger. We don't need people like him on here making it look like we're 'Cheats 'R' Us'. For someone who in his first post professed to be into the swinging scene, you know very little about what makes a swinger.
:P My first ever post on the forum was about *married men looking for discreet sex* and I got flamed down for it. Still my morals haven't changed. I'm still out-raged when married men think they can come to a swingers site for a bit of leg-over on the side. Sort your shit with the wife mate before you're just another single guy on here trying your ut-most to be notice. It's true we notice you now, but only as *one of them to avoid*.
have to say that i completely agree with flapjackboy! although my partner and i are very new to this ourselves, we are still very aware what swinging is about, and its certainly not based on lies and cheating! its about being open and honest and of course to have fun, but not at someone elses expense (ie: the unknowing girlfriend). And although i fully consent to my partner having sexual relations with another female while i am present, i would not allow him to do it in secret behind my back! that is cheating as far as i'm concerened, and not what swinging is about!
i do however feel that if tintin wants to look for fun elsewhere that is his choice, but i do think he may be looking is the wrong place! i could be wrong, there may well be women on this site willing to help him cheat, but speaking as a woman myslef, i personally would never cheat with another womans man, and would like to think that others out there feel the same!!
kerry x
i do however feel that if tintin wants to look for fun elsewhere that is his choice, but i do think he may be looking is the wrong place! i could be wrong, there may well be women on this site willing to help him cheat, but speaking as a woman myslef, i personally would never cheat with another womans man, and would like to think that others out there feel the same!!
kerry x
Flapjack, you are TOO funny! You must be a Daily Mail reader or something.
This might be a newsflash for you but there are some folks out there who would regard your lifestyle as morally bankrupt. But hey, its your choice, yes?! What the fuck has it got to do with anyone else?
But it does amaze me that you have the gaul to come out with that pious rhetoric when we are really not that different. We both want excitement. Hey, we both want to get laid! Yet you're lucky enough to have a partner that swings too. Some of us aren't so lucky and have to go about things a bit differently. That doesn't mean to say that I'm any less a person or that I have less right to be here. As long as i'm upfront with who I am and what i'm looking for why should you care?
I suggested that we're the same but the one big difference between you and I is that I don't judge people.
Free your mind, Flappy, and your arse will follow. =)
TT.
This might be a newsflash for you but there are some folks out there who would regard your lifestyle as morally bankrupt. But hey, its your choice, yes?! What the fuck has it got to do with anyone else?
But it does amaze me that you have the gaul to come out with that pious rhetoric when we are really not that different. We both want excitement. Hey, we both want to get laid! Yet you're lucky enough to have a partner that swings too. Some of us aren't so lucky and have to go about things a bit differently. That doesn't mean to say that I'm any less a person or that I have less right to be here. As long as i'm upfront with who I am and what i'm looking for why should you care?
I suggested that we're the same but the one big difference between you and I is that I don't judge people.
Free your mind, Flappy, and your arse will follow. =)
TT.
Whatever the rights and wrong of you post Tintin you don't need to resort to abusive postings. Please, all of you, confine your debate to the issue of cheating versus swinging and not about personal matters.
Happy debating.
PS Cheating isn't the same as swinging - cheating is minor league stuff which any old person can do without any reference to his or her partner. Swinging invloves trust, respect and self confidence for all parties concerned. (Just my opinion, not my judgement)
:D
Happy debating.
PS Cheating isn't the same as swinging - cheating is minor league stuff which any old person can do without any reference to his or her partner. Swinging invloves trust, respect and self confidence for all parties concerned. (Just my opinion, not my judgement)
:D 
Sex God
I'd just like to ad.. I personally wouldn't consider playing with someone who was in a relationship and keeping it from his partner.. However I know quite a few who have the attitude 'who cares'. If someone wants to swing without their partners knowing that's their choice. It is then another individuals choice whether they choose to swing with that particular person. No need to come on here flaming him, if you don't like it.... don't meet the guy.
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Flapjack, you are TOO funny! You must be a Daily Mail reader or something.
Wow. I'm constantly amazed at your ability to come up with a good put down. NOT! Take you all year to think of that one, did it? :dry:
This might be a newsflash for you but there are some folks out there who would regard your lifestyle as morally bankrupt. But hey, its your choice, yes?! What the fuck has it got to do with anyone else?
And that would be those people who don't understand what swinging is and who are probably so emotionally and sexually repressed that they look upon anyone who has sex more than once a month and/or in any position other than the missionary position as sexual deviants.
But it does amaze me that you have the gaul to come out with that pious rhetoric when we are really not that different. We both want excitement. Hey, we both want to get laid! Yet you're lucky enough to have a partner that swings too. Some of us aren't so lucky and have to go about things a bit differently. That doesn't mean to say that I'm any less a person or that I have less right to be here. As long as i'm upfront with who I am and what i'm looking for why should you care?
Actually, I'm single at the moment, but if I did have a partner, she'd know about this aspect of my life. You still seem to have difficulty in grasping the concept of what swinging is about. The one thing that is paramount in a swinging relationship is that it is open and honest, something that your relationship with your partner is most certainly not. Swinging is not something furtive that you keep hidden from your partner, it's something that you are both aware of and are comfortable with. Do not try and tell me that we are alike, because we're not. You are looking to have sexual relations with another woman behind your partner's back. That is cheating and is a million miles from what swinging is.
I suggested that we're the same but the one big difference between you and I is that I don't judge people.
Free your mind, Flappy, and your arse will follow. =)
TT.
I don't judge you, I leave that up to your own conscience. Oh, that's right, you had yours surgically removed at birth, didn't you.
*hands TT a crowbar so that he can pry his own head from his arse*
EDIT: BTW, only my friends get to call me Flappy. You certainly don't qualify for that category. You may refer to me as Flapjackboy, or, since I'm pwning you in this debate, Master.
Hmmmmmm. Debate. I would possibly suggest Witch-hunt.
Look, 2 things I should make clear;
1. I have never described myself as a swinger. You seem to suggest that I don't understand the meaning. I think I have a pretty good grasp. But I came onto this site and looked at the ads to see the kind of folks who use it. Contrary to what you would like to believe, there are people on here choosing to find fun away from home. Yes, they could be hidden scams, and maybe they don't find what they're looking for but neither of us knows that for sure. The point is that they are there and so I joined and posted likewise.
2. I have never said what I do is 'right'. Morality is subjective and we all have our own thresholds as to what we believe we should and shouldn't do. I am not 'proud' of my need to look elsewhere but have accepted that it is part of me. And there are lots of folks out there - male and female - who think the same. I do not seek your approval or your understanding. Simply to accept that its my choice and the choice of others to do this. It is not hurting you. And because I go to great pains to keep this aspect of my life private, it does not hurt my partner either.
To conclude this on my part I would like to say that I don't think you really know enough about me, my partner, or our relationship to make any judgement (and yes, I do believe you have been judging me since your first post.)
I'd also like to say thanks to those members who have PM'd me with their support.
I think we should stop this now.
TT.
Look, 2 things I should make clear;
1. I have never described myself as a swinger. You seem to suggest that I don't understand the meaning. I think I have a pretty good grasp. But I came onto this site and looked at the ads to see the kind of folks who use it. Contrary to what you would like to believe, there are people on here choosing to find fun away from home. Yes, they could be hidden scams, and maybe they don't find what they're looking for but neither of us knows that for sure. The point is that they are there and so I joined and posted likewise.
2. I have never said what I do is 'right'. Morality is subjective and we all have our own thresholds as to what we believe we should and shouldn't do. I am not 'proud' of my need to look elsewhere but have accepted that it is part of me. And there are lots of folks out there - male and female - who think the same. I do not seek your approval or your understanding. Simply to accept that its my choice and the choice of others to do this. It is not hurting you. And because I go to great pains to keep this aspect of my life private, it does not hurt my partner either.
To conclude this on my part I would like to say that I don't think you really know enough about me, my partner, or our relationship to make any judgement (and yes, I do believe you have been judging me since your first post.)
I'd also like to say thanks to those members who have PM'd me with their support.
I think we should stop this now.
TT.
Quote by flapjackboy
I suggested that we're the same but the one big difference between you and I is that I don't judge people.
Free your mind, Flappy, and your arse will follow. =)
TT.
I don't judge you, I leave that up to your own conscience. Oh, that's right, you had yours surgically removed at birth, didn't you.
*hands TT a crowbar so that he can pry his own head from his arse*
EDIT: BTW, only my friends get to call me Flappy. You certainly don't qualify for that category. You may refer to me as Flapjackboy, or, since I'm pwning you in this debate, Master.
Whilst I certainly do not condone "cheating" in any way shape or form I have read this thread with some interest and would like to say that TT has defended his standpoint in an erudite manner ( despite considerable provocation from other members).
The one thing that stands out from the quote above is that despite his protestations Flappy (oops sorry Flapjackboy) is certainly making judgements predicated on his own moral standpoint.
This forum is designed as a meeting place and in my view is not the right location for a witch hunt.
M
OK, to take your points one at a time...
1. It's not whether or not you described yourself as a swinger or not that offends me. What offends me is the fact that you seem convinced that we should welcome cheaters on here with open arms as some kind of kindred spirits. Furthermore, I have seen the same ads you have and know there are people looking to play away from home on here. The thing is, the ads are a totally seperate section from the forums and they tend not to sign up to the forums and start posting.
2. This is true, you haven't said what you do is 'right', but just because you accept that what you are doing is wrong, it doesn't absolve you in any way from your actions. Please explain to me why you feel the 'need' to look elsewhere. I'd be fascinated to hear your excuse. Let me guess, you're going to pull a Clinton on us and say you're a 'sex addict'.
You are quite right, it is your choice and I'm not preventing you from making it. That's the thing with choices though, there's always another path to take. You don't need to look elsewhere, you want to. There's a huge difference, you know.
BTW, I doubt very much that you got many PMs in support of your actions, judging by the responses you've received so far in this thread.
1. It's not whether or not you described yourself as a swinger or not that offends me. What offends me is the fact that you seem convinced that we should welcome cheaters on here with open arms as some kind of kindred spirits. Furthermore, I have seen the same ads you have and know there are people looking to play away from home on here. The thing is, the ads are a totally seperate section from the forums and they tend not to sign up to the forums and start posting.
2. This is true, you haven't said what you do is 'right', but just because you accept that what you are doing is wrong, it doesn't absolve you in any way from your actions. Please explain to me why you feel the 'need' to look elsewhere. I'd be fascinated to hear your excuse. Let me guess, you're going to pull a Clinton on us and say you're a 'sex addict'.
You are quite right, it is your choice and I'm not preventing you from making it. That's the thing with choices though, there's always another path to take. You don't need to look elsewhere, you want to. There's a huge difference, you know.
BTW, I doubt very much that you got many PMs in support of your actions, judging by the responses you've received so far in this thread.
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Whilst I certainly do not condone "cheating" in any way shape or form I have read this thread with some interest and would like to say that TT has defended his standpoint in an erudite manner ( despite considerable provocation from other members).
The one thing that stands out from the quote above is that despite his protestations Flappy (oops sorry Flapjackboy) is certainly making judgements predicated on his own moral standpoint.
This forum is designed as a meeting place and in my view is not the right location for a witch hunt.
M
Hey, this guy is free to choose to cheat on his partner if he wishes. I'm fully aware that his moral standpoint is different than mine, but what I won't stand for is his insinuations that he has some kind of affinity with us because he's seeing other women behind his partner's back.
I'm not judging him by my own moral code, merely pointing out to him that this is the wrong place for him to be. I'm sure there is a cheater's equivalent to this site out there somewhere, so perhaps he would be better off trying to find it.
Sex God
He should try:
Mike.
Mike.
